I hope someone here can give me some help or advise.
My ds who has just turned 10 is still bedwetting once or twice a week. He is very upset and embaressed about it and his younger sisters tease him. I feel really terrible but I just don't know what to do for him.
I really want to put an end to it not just for me who has to do the washing but for him.
Does anyone have any advise or have you been in the same situation? Please 
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Ds still bed wetting at 10 years old.....Help please
37 replies
AnyoneForPimms · 26/01/2011 21:48
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jooseyfruit ·
03/02/2011 19:59
glad things are moving along for you.
Advice given to us at clinic and in Alicia Eaton book is to not use dry night pants. The rationale being that they subconsciously give ds 'permission' to wet at night because he has the 'protection' of the pants. IYSWIM 
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BaroqueAroundTheClock ·
03/02/2011 19:49
actually - just a quickie (DS3 is waiting for me in his bed - suefaults post re the hot chocolate has made me think. If they do like a hot drink (1hr + before bed) - then DS1 has discovered herbal teas. He feels like a proper grown up drinking them - and they're not full of shite - or the brown as mentioned by sue
AnyoneForPimms ·
03/02/2011 08:40
Thanks for all the advise. It's good to know we are not alone.
I had to take him to doctors at the beginning of the week for a chest infection. I mentioned it much to my sons embarrassment but the doctor was really kind.
He is going back on Tuesday with a wee sample to check for infection and we will take it from there.
He has been better this week.
He's just had a new bed and his room decorated ( more grown up) and until I have got him a new mattress protector he is wearing pyjama pants ( under protest) he's been dry for 4 nights now but he has been dry for a couple of weeks in the past then back to wet every night.
As for sisters who were both dry at night from age 3/4 they are not too bad. They have been spoken to but I do catch the odd comment here and there. I don't put up with it.
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notnowbernard ·
02/02/2011 22:55
Yes, it's things like 'sleepovers' and Brownie camps etc that got me stressing, really
Just hated the thought of my baby DD having to deal with that on her own (or with an adult other than me or DP)
And it is hard when they've got younger siblings who are dry... DD2 dry at night before 3 also
Hope you are reassured by these posts, OP 
23balloons ·
02/02/2011 22:50
Hi
My ds1 was () a bedwetter - just smiling at the was as it is still very early days! He is 10 also. I took him to the doctors in the summer hols & was referred to eurnsis (not sure about spelling) nurse attached to his school.
We first had to keep detailed notes of what & when he drank & when he went to the toilet. I had to buy a jug and measure how much wee he did at once especially when he was desperate. An average child should be able to hold 30ml x age + 30ml so a 10 year old should hold 330ml in bladder before needing the toilet. Often ds could only hold 100ml. the max he ever held was 200ml so his bladder needed serious stretching.
After a few visits we got a bed alarm but it was a disaster - a plastic sheet under the sheet which reacted to every drop of sweat & drove him crazy. He then got a different type of alarm, at first he resisted but when he realised it was here to stay he began to comply. We took it away around 10 days ago and so far dry every night. He was wet 7 nights out of 7 before we sought help so it really is a breakthrough in our case. HTH
BaroqueAroundTheClock ·
02/02/2011 22:46
well - like I said he seems to be.
He managed his YR4 residential with school without too many issues (helped greatly by the fact that by pure co-incidence once of his close friends also still wets the bed - so they had each other for support and to help doing the discreetly replacing bed sheets stuff).
I'm hoping he's grown out of it more by September - as he'll be off on his YR6 residential 
notnowbernard ·
02/02/2011 22:44
Baroque
Sorry the meds didn't work for DS... but glad it seems he's 'growing out of it', as it were
BaroqueAroundTheClock ·
02/02/2011 22:38
Yes definitely go and explain - DS1 (10) still wets.
We've tried the alarm, we've tried the meds (they didn't make a blind bit of difference ), plus every other trick in the book (or by the clinic.......and MN).
He seems to be improving - a bit - maybe 3 or 4 wet nights a week instead of every night. But it's tough.
Agree you need to talk to his sister, it's no fun having younger siblings that are dry at night when you're not. DS2 was dry at night at 3 1/2yrs (with absolutely no effort on my behalf at all). And after a few tries at teasing his brother I made it clear that wasn't acceptable.
Not sure yet which way DS3 will go (he'll be 4 in may - still in pull-ups at night - because I haven't tried taking him out and he's not asked).
Oh - as well the the drinks thing mentioned above - the clinic told us
Wee - teeth - wee.
Apparently it's to help make sure they've proerly emptied their bladder, so they do a wee before bed, brush their teeth, then do (or try and do) another wee.
notnowbernard ·
02/02/2011 22:32
Go to GP and explain
Ask for referral to eneuresis clinic
They will be fab, he may get meds prescribed (dd is on them and THEY WORK!)
They also give lots of great advice/strategies/tips
MAIN TIP: Drink, drink, drink. 6-8 cups of water or squash a day (avoid dark coloured drinks) No drinks 1hr before bed
And his sisters need a talking to, IMO
Good luck!
MoreSpamThanGlam ·
02/02/2011 22:27
I thought my son would never grow out of it but I read somewhere that95% grow out of it by the age of 14% and unless they are wetting during the day then the likelyhood is so will your son.
My son is almost 12 and only last year did he suddenly stop wetting the bed 2 to 3 times a week.
Your lovely son is not alone, he really isnt. Just reassure him that he has at the very most a couple more years to put up with it. In the meantime, no more drinks after 7, a big sit down wee before bed and plenty of early nights, especially if he is sporty. My son is a very heavy sleeper and that is often the problem.
Dont fret too much
AnyoneForPimms ·
02/02/2011 22:17
What do your ds 1&2 drink?
Do you mean just artificial sweetness in drink or food or both??
I'm willing to try anything
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clarie ·
01/02/2011 23:32
My 2 DSs had this problem, 10 and 7, I have cut out all artificial sweeteners (just found out I react to them) and it has completely cured DS1.
DS2 not having wet beds either but can be found sleep walking around with wet trousers, took some working out but I watched him the other night and he forgets to pull his trousers down... bless him 
we have asked him to pull his trousers down and sit on the toilet at night now............ 1 week later no wet trousers.
Hope he gets sorted quickly.
P.S My DD aged 4 loved teasing them too, she's been dry at night since 3
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SauvignonBlanche ·
27/01/2011 16:30
DS did this almost every night until he was 13. Stopping did seem to coincide with the arrival of his first pubes!
He still takes Desmopresin and it sounds as if your GP should be trying this with your DS and refering him to an enuresis clinic.
It's very common, make sure you don't get stressed by it and you'll get there, in time.
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