a child cut daughters hair help

[janett]

my friends daughter attends a pre school. She has had her hair chopped really badly by another child. staff have apologised . Is it possible to sue or is it just one of the things that happen? thanks

what would you hope a decentt parent would do if it was your child whose hair had been cut?

Sue?

For fuck's sake.

One of those things that happen. What the fuck would you sue for?

Look at the recent-ish thread about this. Is that a serious suggestion about sueing? Really?

actually sorry, i got that wrong. what would you hope a decent parent would do if it was your child who had done the cutting?

flowers are you refering to the recent one when Op was cross thta mil had cut the dd's ? hair ?
sue ? ha ha. laughing at suing.

dont be so ridiculous
you dont want to sue

how crazy

i'd take her to the hairdresser.

and i'd laugh, probably. i once found dd1 and a friend playing hairdressers, fortunately they only had a plastic pair of 'first' scissors, so hadn't done too much damage...

i would love to have been the keyworker that turned round and saw that happening though. bet they drew straws to see who would tell the mum...

These things happen, however, I would be asking the nursery why the children hadn't been supervised while playing with scissors.

Sally

I would be very very concerned that the children were playing with scissors sharp enough to cut hair, long enough that hair could get cut badly. (It's not actually that easy to cut hair unless you have super super sharp scissors or a lot of time)

No, I was thinking of the thread where the OP's child had done the cutting and she had been profusely apologetic to the other parent (and also, I think, spoken to the nursery about scissor safety). The other parent demanded that the offender should be further 'punished', forbade her daughter from being friends with the little girl and cancelled a social occasion that both families were going to share.

Sue?!

Good grief!

It is one of those things that happens and it will probably happen again sometime over the next 10 years. Children like to experiment and if they get hold of scissors then they will copy things they have seen... thus cutting hair.

I hate to think what the legal fees would be to bring a case against a pre-school aged child. Wonder in fact if any judge would even consider looking at such a case. You could ask over in Legal but do consider how you would pay the legal fees and what the outcome of such a case would be - I can't imagine much compensation as child's hair is not worth that much... is it?

The pre-school will I expect be taking some action, such as not getting scissors out again for some time... which then affects all the children at that setting - as scissor skills is something that is useful to learn. Maybe a higher level of supervision is required... the pre-school may just change their policies with regard to access to scissors.

If your friend is unhappy with the level of care provided by the pre-school they can remove their child. Children don't have to attend pre-school.

It's actually very possible to cut hair with quite blunt metal scissors and the resulting damage is usually worse than any done with sharp scissors.

It happens, but if I were your friend I'd ask the nursery to review their policy on scissors, as has been mentioned, and hope the parent of the child who cut the hair had also been told. If I were the parents of a child who cut her hair I'd a) be mortified, b) be telling my child off in a big way, c) be apologising profusely and offering to pay the hairdresser's bill!

I don't think suing would get anywhere TBH.

Err - seriously? Sue?

1. Take a photo to embarass them with when older,

and,

2. Take your child to the hairdressers to get sorted and hope that they never do it to another child.

Totally normal for pre-schoolers!

WRT nursery - I believe it is some crazy Ofsted rule that they have to have access to things such as scissors and crayons at all times. Staff hate it.

ok , i get the message, do we have to use profanities though? just for the record her hair cannot be sorted by hairdresser unless she has a short back and sides, it was past her shoulders, now only half of it is !

I understand you feel bad about it, however if it helps (it probably won't, I know) - my dd (4) would utterly LOVE to have a short back and sides. She is always going on about having hair like daddy's - she hates hair going in her face, and can't be doing with me putting it in bobbles and hairbands all the time, which I do anyway! I bet your daughter will look lovely with a short cut. In future you will be able to smile about this, but now of course you are furious.

My dd cut another childs hair when she was 8,the other girl asked her to and went and got the scissors.I was furious when i found out,DD was horrified that i was angry as she was just doing what her friend had asked(she cut her hair to just below shoulder length).
However when we said sorry,dd said sorry and we offered to pay for hairdressing apt,hairclips etc,the parents went crazy.They called the police! The other child was not allowed to be mates with my DD,the older siblings threatened her, took money off her.DD had an entire summer of misery.
So Please please dont over react.

I couldn't help but to have a good giggle at this. My DD 2.9 yrs gave herself a nice little haircut last week. Took a few good chunks out. She has a step that she uses around the the house to do things (wash hands, get yogurts out of fridge, help mummy bake, etc) and she used it to get into the box of mummies things (haircutting scissors, brushes, hair accessories).

TBH I was surprised that she was able to get the scissors to work. Guess she must have learnt that from Mr. Maker. To top it all off she told me the week before that she thought she needed a haircut (I told her she didn't) and she very OBV disagreed and took her own action.

It really is just one of those things that kids do. Something to have a laugh about, take some pictures and carry on.

I cannot the amount of times dd1 has cut her hair, or allowed others to do the cutting.

You would think she would learn after having to have most of hair cut off in attempt to fix the very unflattering bob she gave herself with a pair of nail scissors she found in bathroom in the wee hours of one Saturday morning. She cried when she saw what she had done to herself in the mirror.

But no, just a few short months later, she let niece give her 'layers' with some plastic hairdressing scissors from a toy salon. God knows how they managed that but they did

It is just one of those things. It didn't even occur to me to be angry with niece, let alone sue her. They were just playing.

I can understand why your friend would feel upset OP but its one of those things that occasionally happens. Apparently I cut my own and sisters hair when we were little. My mother was horrified.

One of my minded children cut another minded childs hair - and this was with the plastic safety scissors and I was sitting with the children and turned my back for about 30 seconds to tend to another a child.

I am afraid thats a step to far regarding sueing. Thats what makes us childcarers oh so jumpy - fair enough plain negligence causing injury in respect of sueing.

I seriously cannot believe that what was once a childhood occurrence can now turn into a sueing opportunity.

I cut all of my sister and her friend's hair off. As well as my own. I was punished and obviously remember that, even now.

I can't even believe someone would consider sueing. I would just apologise profusely.

Short graded bob then? It would be cute. ..