New nanny started this week, and overall it's going well, she gets on well with DD and looks after her well. However there are a few things that are niggling me aand I need to check I'm being reasonable to deal with. For background, I'm off all week to do the handover, and trying to stay in the background as much as possible and go out a lot. Examples are:
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she seems to show no iniative. One of the main things I was looking for and thought I had got was someone who could get on with things. Everyday this week I've had to tell/ suggest activities to do so it's not endlessly walking to the river to feed the ducks, as DD doesn't really enjoy this as it gives her no opportunity to roam (DD is 8 months, and only crawling). I've had to drive her round the area to show her where everything is, I guess I'm just used to in my job, if you want to know where somewhere is (and I'm out of the office a lot for meetings) you just get on the internet and find out.
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she seems to get an idea in her head and not think it though. She was wittering on since she got her about some special soup she makes and how we would all love it, and it would be great for DD. Today she brings it in to taste, despite me not being able to eat for 24 hours due to medical tests (which she knew about) and we then discover it has a normal stock cube in it, so I don't let her give it to DD due to salt levels. There have been other examples, where she is determined to go out somewhere, regardless of impact on nap or mealtimes. Sometimes I've had to stop her, but surely she should think about this for herself.
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I don't like the way she drives, went out in her car today, and thought she made a few right turns I wouldn't have. DD was screaming in the car, even though I was in the back with her and I think that was getting to the nanny.
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I'm trying to be generous with hours, but not feeling I'm getting it back. Her hours are 8-6, last 2 days she's been 5-15 mins late, there was a reason today, but still...... On Monday, she said" I know my hours are 8-6" but what time do you want me to start tomorrow. Everyday I've let her go a little bit early, as by 5.30 she's almost like a school kid hanging a round at the end of the school day. Also and this is probably where I'll get less sympathy, I had to go for medical procedure today that involved sedation, I found out about it last week. Both DH and my parents are abroad this week. Medical advice was that I needed someone to stay with me overnight, so I asked the nanny, making it clear we would pay her overtime. She seemed to say yes quite happily. Anyway today came back from the hospital, I was quite a lot more with it after sedation than expected, so nanny jsut kept aksking if she could go home as I was fine. I felt she was asking in a way I couldn't say no. I'm feeling fine now, but I guess I could have a funny turn in the night, and now it's only me and DD at home. I'm quite annoyed about it now.
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she keeps going home without doing all her jobs. I don't think I'm that demanding, but one task I'm very clear about is to make up bottles so we have some ready for overnight and early morning. Also clear up all the tea stuff. I was upstairs putting DD to bed when she left and came downstairs to find lots of things not done.
Just had a chat to DH, he suggests I have a "what went well, what went badly" chat with her on Friday, Am I overacting to these points? How do I address them best? Next week is my first week at work, DH is the busiest he's been at work for a year, so I'm going to need her to do some overtime. I need to be able to rely on her.
Very sorry this is long an rambling, I'm trying to be clear on the issues (and failed)