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CM is ill how do I find one for tomorrow?

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moocowme · 25/06/2008 20:58

I have a big day at work tomorrow and must be in. What do I do? am in a total panic now. CM does not have an alternative minder.

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moocowme · 25/06/2008 21:49

thank you for all your help. i am new to all this childminding business and having no relatives in this country or firends with small children was a bit lost on how it all worked.

regular childminder assured me that she had never had a day off ill in the last 5 years - until i came along it seems.

yes i could take a day of but as i work in education this is not really a good time of year for it as i would be letting quite a few people down.

yes DH really really is incapable.

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imananny · 25/06/2008 21:49

very true nbee

as i said we are all nutters lovely people!!

i seriously cant beleive that if the OP job is soooooooooooo important that dh cant/wont take day off

nbee84 · 25/06/2008 21:49

ditto surreynanny

imananny · 25/06/2008 21:49

very true nbee

as i said we are all nutters lovely people!!

i seriously cant beleive that if the OP job is soooooooooooo important that dh cant/wont take day off

lisalisa · 25/06/2008 21:50

Please stop being so judgemental on moocow here. This is MN at its worst. The poor woman came on here looking for support/ideas and instead she and her dh have been judged and found wanting by MNers ( apart from a few helfpul posters).

Everyuone's family set up is unique. What you may find strange and unacceptable ( i.e. moocow's dh not being able to cope all day with 10 month old baby ( which I don't think is that unusual btw)) others may take as given. Similarly moocow may very well view elements in your own family set ups as strange and out of line were she to have the chance to comment .

The moment you donn your judgy pants you dilute your own arguments and reduce MN to a hostile place. Moocow may now think twice before posting for advice again.

wheresthehamster · 25/06/2008 21:50

The only thing it's not too late for is to tell DH he's taking the day off tomorrow

imananny · 25/06/2008 21:52

whoops i posted twice

assume you are a teacher,dont they have supply teachers?

yes 10mths are sometimes a handful,but are you seriously telling me that dh cant give your child toast/ceral/ get dressed, play with them, put for sleep,play again,feed lunch, another sleep and then tea and bath his own child???

tbh i really feel sorry for you - that you have such a useless hubby

IllegallyBrunette · 25/06/2008 21:54

You would pick someone you have never met before, over your DH, to look after your child ???

Sorry, but that is seriously odd.

Get your dh to have him, whats the worse that could happen ?

MsDemeanor · 25/06/2008 21:54

Hmm. the OP hasn't even bothered to reply to the people offering to help, who could have provided references, so moocow clearly wasn't her for the advice or help so generously offered. As for her husband, he sounds an utterly useless tosser. What kind of inadequate can't cope with his own ten month old for one single day? I don't know what job he does, but I doubt he's fit for it, frankly.

nbee84 · 25/06/2008 21:55

I would say to throw your oh in at the deep end. Tell him to take a sickie.

You'll probably find that at the end of the day it wasn't as bad as he thought it would be and will probably even enjoy it a bit Good bonding experience.

ravenAK · 25/06/2008 21:58

You really need to get dh sorted. I'm not being judgey. This sort of thing is going to keep happening - if it's not the CM being ill, your dc will be ill & the CM won't have him. They go through a lovely phase at about 12-18 months where every bug in the known universe dances gaily through their immune system!

I work in education too, & it is indeed a total PITA taking time off. You really need to agree that dh will cover some of these occasions.

(& what's going to happen if you get hit by a bus on the way to work tomorrow? Presumably he'd have to learn to bloody cope!)

nbee84 · 25/06/2008 21:58

And ignore the sarky comments. Only you know your full situation at home and I can imagine that because you were panicking about work you came on here to explore some options and may have been considering them til you got all the unhelpful comments.

imananny · 25/06/2008 22:02

i dont think we are being unhelpful

as i said there are only 3 options

op not go to work

dh take day off and have child

use a temp nanny/friend

Aitch · 25/06/2008 22:04

don't ignore the sarky comments, please. think about what you and dh intend to do next time this happens, it was wishful thinking on your part to imagine you'd found a teflon CM.
your child will get sick, like the pp says, and the CM won't be able to take him. plus, do you really want the father of your child to shrink from caring from him?

MsDemeanor · 25/06/2008 22:07

I'm not being remotely sarcastic. I mean it. A fully grown man who can't cope with his own single child for one day is clearly inadequate and unworthy of the name of father. Clearly the OP wasn't looking for help as help was offered and ignored. Very tiresome.

pointydog · 25/06/2008 22:08

why
has
moo
not
acknowledged
the
offers
of
help?

Am I just a very cynical person? It's so unbelievable

SNormaStanleyFletcherInit · 25/06/2008 22:10

well exactly pointy

Desiderata · 25/06/2008 22:11

Precisely Aitch.

I find it rather ironic, moo, that you work in education, and yet you haven't considered the well-being of your own child to any particular degree of efficiency.

I'm sorry, but I have no sympathy for your plight.

One of you has to take the day off tomorrow, and I couldn't give a fiddler's fark which one of you it is.

DaDaDa · 25/06/2008 22:15

OK, if it's not a wind up, your DH needs to get himself sorted out and start taking some responsibility for his child. If you both work and your child is sick, you take turns. This is not the 1950's. Your respective employers will have to suck it up.

If you've been a 'gatekeeper' thus far then you need to give your DH space to learn and take responsibility. Leave him with DS for a weekend day. Or preferably the whole weekend assuming you're not breastfeeding.

But I'm with the sceptics for a change.

Desiderata · 25/06/2008 22:19

More to the point, girls, this man who works in the 'city' might well be in charge of your trust fund ... and yet he's incapable of wiping a shitty arse.

Sorry, moocow, but everywhich way I turn it, I still couldn't give a shit.

You go 'educate' other peoples' kids, and hubby go make money for himself.

I'm sure your kid will find someone, eventually, who wants to spend time with him.

SimpleAsABC · 25/06/2008 22:24

Have you scared the op off?

berkschick · 25/06/2008 22:26

I don know how much luck you will have with Childminders at 7am tomorrow morning!

I am one and would ALWAYS want to meet the parent and child before hand and would need paperwork filled in etc before I would take the baby.

Desiderata · 25/06/2008 22:29

I hope so.

Sometimes, you need a kick up the bollocks.

thirtysoon · 25/06/2008 22:35

you lot are quite scary once you get going arn't you? this poor woman never even considered the option of taking a day off.... I thought that working in educational jobs, the employers were quite understanding....to OP sod your job, take the day off....and think that your DH could cope if you only gave him the chance! awww, what's the worst that could happen?

ps is this really a wind up?

CatIsSleepy · 25/06/2008 22:40

desi LOLOLOL @ 'Nothing's that important, unless you're Dr Who.'