Help with my nanny.

[Helpwithnanny]

Hi,

Been lurking a while and have got some great info from here but have a bit of an issue with my nanny and would love some advice on how to deal with it please.

She's been with us for 4mnths and all has been fine. She is great at her job and we all really like her. The problem is (and there is no way to say it tactfully) since the weather got hot she has started wearing really low cut tops and sauntering about the house in a slinky nightee. My poor hubby (who Im sure is secretly delighted as nanny is stunning) doesn't know where to look. My Ds is also a bit obsessed with 'them'!

Im just a bit uncomfortable with it. I appreciate that this is her home but neither me or hubby walk about half starkers and I don't know if it would be reasonable to say something and if it is what would I say?

Thanks for your advice

Get her a bathrobe. Then ask her to please dress more appropriately for her job. I am well endowed in the norkage department and my 2.6yr old charge pats one as he rests his head on the other (has done this since he was 5 months old!!!!!!!) but I always keep them under control with a military strength bra and decent amount of coverage. They'd hurt someone if I didn't keep 'em well tethered LOL.

ha ha...me too mananny!

I agree with the advice. Has she a birthday coming up ? Buy her a lightweight summer dressing gown .

How old is DS.....? Could he be at the age where it is not appropriate ?

So do you think it would be ok to say something? I don't want to offend her as in every other way she is great.

Ds is 6 and is into all things boobs and bottoms so of course is fascinated by hers almost hanging out!

Maybe I am being jealous as am not very well endowed in the norks department.

well in that case i would perhaps say that DS has mentioned it in an inappropiate way and whilst its all natural etc you wouldnt want her to be embarrassed at all or damage her relationship with him in a professional way etc etc etc.

well in that case i would perhaps say that DS has mentioned it in an inappropiate way and whilst its all natural etc you wouldnt want her to be embarrassed at all or damage her relationship with him in a professional way etc etc etc.

well in that case i would perhaps say that DS has mentioned it in an inappropiate way and whilst its all natural etc you wouldnt want her to be embarrassed at all or damage her relationship with him in a professional way etc etc etc.

oooooooooops sorry!

I had one who did something similar. She had this outfit that she wore around the house and would stand in fromt of the open front door ironing that I swear was bought in the lingerie department. I pointed to the contract where is said suitable attire, and explained that I expected her tops to cover her bra and her shorts to cover her butt cheecks. She blushed and said "I am shy" and I replied "You are not". I was a bit sticky but it hd to be said sooner and not later.

LOL at "I am shy"

Like a joke I once heard said, my norks have their own postcode.

My charge also went through a stage of putting his hand down my top, between the norks, a kind of comfort thing when he was snuggling. I had to remove his hand about 5000 times before he stopped doing that, and was even more determined to end that particular habit after DB said "there's memory that will get him through many a cold night at boarding school"

Now when I pick my charge up the cheeky little monster laughs and points at the gap between my breasts and says "deep dark wood - where's the gruffalo??!!"

I might have to start wearing turtle necks.

OMG. Where do they get this stuff (I know I know, from their Dads).

Can we call you "GRuffalosDarkness"?

I think it is totally reasonable for you to have a word with her. Not fair on any of you - and she'd probably be embarassed to think you are feeling like this.

LMAO Ok i'll go change my name hahahahahahahahaha.........

I too have severe norkage that is forever being pointed out by my charge on the bus as she is obsessed by all things 'boobie'... Her latest thing is to pull her top up and show me her belly+boobies then demand that I 'show her my big boobies!!'
This is all done loudly. On the bus. Lol.

I'd tell your nanny whats what, my ex employers told me one summer that my shoes smelt+could I please sort it out lmao

LMAO at "severe norkage" missie that's hilarious!!!!!!

lol AtheneN I can't imagine what made her think irining in front of the open front door in her undies=shy!

...my friend used to iron nude...in the GARDEN!?
She said it was private but they were in a semi so if the neighbours were upstairs...?
She has massive nork installations and now has 3 boys, who are ALL obsessed by them.

I have always thought Freud's nanny was a norker and his mum not, thus....

OK, so its ok to have a quiet word with her.

Not quite sure how Im going to bring it up. But I do think I need to say something. Yesterday when I got home she was wearing hotpants that barely covered her bum cheeks and a little wee triangle bikini top that didn't really cover much hubby was cornered in the study and didn't dare come out.

Bit concerened that she appeared to have been sunbthing for most of the afternoon too while the kids ran amock throughout the house and it was all going so well!

Had the same-even worse - problem with MN i mean maternity nurse.She was unbealivable- it makes me even to think about it let alone to write,but to be frank with you , you have to be open-direct and explain to her rules of dressing up and she should respect it while she is in the house.If she is going out with her friends -her problem-but sexy nighty or anything too provocative is a big NO and she should unerstand.
Anyway she should have know the code of dressing whilest at work or in someones house.

Ohhh no

Follow up from my original post.

I had a quiet word with her and just said that could she make sure she is dressed decently when she was around the house as it made me and DH feel a bit uncomfortable, being old and prudish etc

She was NOT happy and got all huffy with me and said that its her body and she has every right to dress anyway that she likes. All weekend she has been sunbathing in a thong (and nothing else) in the garden. She came in to get a glass of water in it and nothing else this morning and I asked her to cover up as the children were there and she said, ohh get a life and stormed out and hasn't spoken to me since.

Now I really need some advice!

So she's been sunbathing topless in your garden with the rest of the family there, despite you asking her to be more conservative about the way she dressed, and she told you to "get a life"?

She is being stroppy.

You are not unreasonable to ask her to cover up when she's working, or to get a more decent nighty. Your house your rules. Tell her it's 36D or P45, her choice. If she can't dress decently for work or in your home it's a deal breaker imo.

Not on to get all huffy about that. What else is she going to ignore you about? Thin end of the wedge...

you have to say something more to her - it's your house. I nannied for a while in the states and when I was sunbathing at weekends I wore a swimsuit with shorts - never just lay about in my swimsuit or small top.

Never sunbathed when watching the girls I looked after, she is taking the piss.

I think Im going to call a 'review' with her early next week and chat a bit more about acceptable dress and if she is huffy or bolshy again Im going to give her a warning. I don't expect her to dress like a nun. Just a little more conservatively and certainly not walking about with norks on full display. This really is the first problem we have had and in every other way she has been great. I almost feel like going out there right now and telling her to put her top back on.

Deep breath

Go out and tell her.
In fact, you already have told her.
Twice.

So why is she not doing as you ask?

God if I spoke to my boss like that I would be out the door . I would have given her a warning there and then . I have to say on a side note it does sound like she has a georgous figure shame she hasnt got a personality to match .