Should I pay for childcare?

[ByPeachPoombear]

This post was written by my husband not by me.
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/childcare/5140791-is-it-wrong-to-look-after-two-children-whilst-on-maternity-leave

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I have a two and a half year old toddler and am soon to give birth to a further child. The two year old is currently in nursery two days a week. I currently work full time in a professional job and when the toddler is not in nursery I get help from my mother whilst I work from home. She does the majority of the childcare but her arthritis has progressed to be so severe that she is no longer able to walk normally, carry anything or take care of my daughter.

I’m not sure what to do because I don’t like doing chores. I don’t like cleaning, changing nappies, cooking etc. For example, if my daughter spills stuff on the floor normally my mother will clean it up. If I’m at my house I’ll just leave it there until my husband comes home from work to clean it up.

I am having certain members of the family tell me I should get childcare for my toddler full time but my husband doesn’t like spending money. For example, he regularly spends 15 minutes searching for the cheapest reduced chocolate.

Can't you and your husband make joint financial decisions since you're both earning? If you don't like chores why don't you pay for a cleaner?

Why does your husband think it's OK for your health deteriorating Mum to look after your daughter?

I’m confused and don’t understand what this means!

Weird threads.

Does anyone like changing nappies?

I'm lost.

This is something that only you and your DH can negotiate on.

In my opinion however, it is grossly unfair for your DM to be doing so much childcare and other tasks such as clearing up spills. What Elise does she do for you over and above childcare?

To me, that's the bottom line. You and your DH need to work out how to take care of your two children. Either you look after both while on mat leave and then they go to childcare, or your eldest goes to childcare while you look after baby while on mat leave and then the baby joins their sister in childcare.

You either need to suck up the chores and get them done, or hire a cleaner.

You and your DH need to discuss this in the context of your family budget.

But please stop using your DM.

Hands up who likes doing shit daily chores and nappy changing .......nope not even your mum. Why have children and a home if you don't want to do the graft? Poor child, poor mum
Pay for a cleaner, pay childcare and when not working care for your child it's obvious isn't it.

If neither you nor your DH like looking after children to the extent you can't fathom the idea of actually cleaning up after them and your DM is no longer capable, you can either hire a full time nanny or give them up for adoption. I'm leaning towards the latter.

I can't believe that if your toddler spills something you leave it for your husband to clean up, your carpets must be badly stained. TBH I think both of these posts are made up