Nanny paid leave for funeral

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How much paid time off would be appropriate for our nanny to attend a relative's funeral (an uncle, not parent or sibling). She has asked for two days paid leave. She works 4 days a week.

One is fine and generous. Two is pushing it.

I would say two.

Thank you. That was my view - based on what we do in my company. But I didn't want to be unfair.

Has she got to travel far ? If local one day but two if she needs to travel a significant distance

How far away is the funeral?

Two.

staff repay you with loyalty when you treat them fairly.

My boss is a pretty generous man, but I'd get one day and if I needed to travel I'd have to take annual leave for a second day

I’d give her the one day. If she wants a second I’d tell her to use holiday.

It is a distance away meaning just taking one day off would not be possible. And that is of course absolutely fine by me. It was just whether I should pay both days. In my company we get one day paid for a funeral, and then take other required days as leave. But I don't want to be mean and appear I care more about money!

To add, I would let her take the second day, but unpaid or annual leave would be appropriate. However I'm a childminder and I'd get paid for none!

I would say it depends on where the funeral is and the logistics of her getting there and back again. I don't think 2 days is unreasonable if it's a longer journey. But if it's in the same town or close by then one day would suffice. She will also need to spend some time with her family who will be grieving no doubt.

I only got 1 day for my mother's funeral

Oh wow. I'm sorry to hear that. That's hugely unsupportive. Poor you

It was a horrible, horrible place I worked at. I've left and where I work now couldn't be more different

I think the comment about staff repaying you with loyalty if you treat them well is true.

if she works hard, is reliable and you wouldn’t like to be without her I would just give her the two paid. It’s not as if you think she’s taking advantage or pulling a sickie. It’s a death. Treat her well and she’ll repay it.

Thank you. I agree with your sentiment entirely.

Did they allow you compassionate leave as well, after your mother died? Or literally just the day of the funeral?

In my experience its fairly normal to allow compassionate leave when the relative dies and then one day for the funeral.

I think I'd offer one day paid and one day unpaid. If she's strapped for cash you could offer for her to make up the unpaid day with babysitting on a different day.

It depends how much you value and care about her. Paying her for 2 days off is showing that you care .

I work in NHS and I would have to use annual leave for an uncle. Bereavement leave is for immediate family only

Pay for the 2 days. Yes you could nit pick over what’s ‘fair’ but is it worth it?

It's not immediate family

So a day is fair

I get it's travel /far away bjr fair is one day off paid and one maybe holiday /not paid

If she is important to your family and this hopefully isn't a regular occurrence I would just pay her the 2 days. I wouldn't split hairs and potentially sour the relationship. Also that's done in large companies is different to someone in my view who is an intrinsic part of your children's lives.

I would pay the two days , she can't help the distance and it's a one off sad occasion.

We'd have to take unpaid leave or annual leave for an uncle. We'd get paid leave for a parent, spouse, sibling or child. Up to 3 days for a next of kin situation such as parent/spouse, 1 day for a sibling/grandparent.