Do you think my cm should/shouldn't give ds timeout when he has been 'naughty' (for want of a better word) at preschool?

[PanicPants]

Ds has been boisterous (I think he hit another child, and was trying to strangle them too with the other children at preschool today, so after my cm had picked him up, she gave him a timeout when they got home too. This was on top of how the preschool dealt with his behaviour at the time. (They had been playing outside and ds was brought inside to play on his own).

I'm not defending his behaviour in any way, but he is only 2 and a half, and I really don't think he'd understand why he is getting a timeout for behaviour that happened earlier that afternoon.

What do you think?

I agree with you... pre-school had dealt with the incident.

I think your cm was wrong.
it happened at preschool, preschool dealt with it, end of.

I agree, he was double punished and it's confusing for him. Preschool deals with preschool, c/m deals with c/m incidents.

yes she was wrong

I agree, apart from the natural justice angle, children that young willonly learn if the negative reinforcement immediately follows tha naughty deed. CM needs to learn more about behaviour mgt. Not really sure about naughty steps anyway for 2 1/2.

definitely shes wrong ,,,,,,,walking home is time to discuss behaviour and work out positive steps forward once your in the home its forgotten and play resumes imo.

she should explain how such behaviour spoils what was a lovely morning how the little boy he hurt felt and how she knows he will try to be kind in future maybe suggest next day they make friends and guide his behaviour positively,as a nanny or a nursery nurse with my charges i would say i felt sd by their behviour as i know they re better boys and girls like that then maybe a go on the swings a cuddle and its done and dusted.

CM is def in the wrong - send her to the naughty step

Why did CM do this? The pre school dealt with the incident. That should be the end of it. Whoever is in charge at the time of the incident should disapline.

Very strange - if my charge was naughty, I would disapline and then mention it to MB in evening, but she certainly wouldnt then disapline again, anymore than I would if he was naughty before I got there or in evening after I had left.

Agree with everyone, it was totally wrong. Also, Ofsted wouldn't approve of a naughty step either! Time out in a different place each time (i.e. not always a certain chair/step etc) is more acceptable (but not on this occasion as was already dealt with).

Thankyou everyone, I think I need to have a quiet word with my cm tomorrow. Anyone got a 'nice' way of phrasing it?

Hi PP,
I agree with everyone else, she was in the wrong. You have a fairly ok relationship with your cm so i'm sure you will find a good way to phrase it! Something along the lines of appreciate that you all need to be aware of behaviour incidents, but they need dealing with at the time

Hi possumhead nice to see you! iyswim!

You know what a little monkey ds can be, but I'm not sure he would understand having timeout again when he got home.

How' dd?

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if you get on ok with your cm which im presuming you do maybe mention your ds was quite distressed that hed upset her as well as the pre school teachers and that you explained once hes in trouble its done its passed tomorrows another day and you know that really shes more of a positive reinforcement person so of course he wont have to sit on the naughty step as hes still learning how to behave and the cm is there to help him learn.

He's not a little monkey! He's a typical 2.5yr old
No, he wouldn't understand extra timeout.
DD is fine, tucked up in bed now.
When are you away? Nxt week or wk after?

Oh, I like windygalestoday's suggestion, very clever

windy thats lovely - I'll use that!

ph, we go away week friday, think it's the 11th April, we're not going up until the evening and we're stopping half way, to break the journey up a bit, and then carrying on on Saturday morning, then we're back on the wednesday.

What have you got planned for next week?

Not alot! Having hair dyed on Tuesday! Going to see Thomas tank at dicot on 12th April with Son and Dan. We wondered if you were able to come too, but that's obviously when you're away.
We could do the usual swimming on Thurs nxt week and a spot of lunch, but where??...
Might embark on Potty training again, but not sure!
You??

What a shame about Thomas - ds will be very upset if he knew he was missing it. I'm sure Aberdeen more than makes up for it ...

Yes, thursday swimming sounds good, is it still toddler splash in the holidays? Shall we be brave and try somewhere different for lunch...?

What are you having done to you hair? [nosey emoticon]

pleased to help x

Yeah, toddler splash is 9-10am. We said we'd try earlier as it got really busy at 10am, remember?
Happy to go with the flow regarding lunch, we could go swimming and then assess.

Just coloured, haven't had it done for ages. Need to hide the grey that this class is causing

at grey! Surely not, anyway, according to mn teachers are going on strike next month, so you can have a day off then!

Was going to start my reports in the holidays, but still don't know what format they're going to be in yet, so don't think I'll be able to start them. Will have to write the invites instead!

Shall we meet at 9ish? Or is that too early? And we can see how we feel about lunch.

9ish is good with me! I'll text son. Sorry to have gatecrashed your thread, but def go for windy's suggestion. Good luck.

I'll text you if any problems or changes. x

Ok 9am is good. will see you and son next thursday xx