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I have been subject to bulling, humiliation, and threatening by parents

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nonna · 18/01/2008 13:31

who breached their NCMA contract, didn't pay me, and threatened me and my family to terminate my contract without any notice.

I have suffered from them for more than 13 days I fear they may harm me, my family or other children I care for, or submit untrue complaints against me to damage my career and deter me from pursuing my legitimate and legal rights.

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nonna · 18/01/2008 14:12

i did all of that and i send a copy of that to the ofsted , ncma, cis & early years
and went to the police

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MaureenMLove · 18/01/2008 14:13

Its perfectly fine. Have you got a signature on it?

I don't know what to suggest, other than the 3 contacts we've already discussed. What about your local co-ordinator? She MUST be able to do something to help.

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nonna · 18/01/2008 14:16

read this as well(termination of childminding contract? )

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saltire · 18/01/2008 14:20

I had similar problems - over money, surprise surprise.
Definately tell the other parents whats going on.
Make notes of any phone calls, visits etc from the man abusing you. Include dates and times.
Go to Citizen's Advice, tell them everything

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nonna · 18/01/2008 14:20

nightmare for more than 13 days ,i just a very new chilminder ,i need help

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saltire · 18/01/2008 14:23

How long ago was the last incident?

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nonna · 18/01/2008 14:24

yesterday

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saltire · 18/01/2008 14:27

Get in touch with your co-ordinator as well. Mine was great, she made sure other CM's new what was going as well, so they could be aware of potential problmes, and gave them the chance to be wary of the person if they tried to contact other CM's for care.
Get a notepad and make a note of everything like I said

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nonna · 18/01/2008 14:35

i did with my support childminder,and she is very helpfull with me and called almost evry day to have the last news.

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bossybritches · 18/01/2008 14:36

Regardless of monies owed I would give him the termination or have your DH deliver it in person & refuse admission to him or his wife for your own safety & that of your other mindees.

Get rid of them & ignore the insults (difficult I know ) just refuse to open the door to them & call the police if they don't go/ Keep a log of the visits/times/dates of threats & tell them you have taken legal advice.

Horrid for you

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nonna · 18/01/2008 14:36

co-ordinator??? bcma?

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nonna · 18/01/2008 14:39

i think we need as childminders to have a groupe to support ourself

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itsachallenger · 18/01/2008 19:02

Which area are you in nonna?

ROSEgarden · 18/01/2008 19:33

?so have you already allowed him to sign an agreement stating he is out of contract and that he doesnt have to pay you any other money??..if so, are they still threatening you?? what are they NOW saying and why is he/they still contacting you??

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nonna · 19/01/2008 08:22

no until now he didn,t contact me

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nonna · 19/01/2008 08:24

This document confirms ;
This termination of contract is due to mere personal circumstances on my part, and it is made after my own request, with the approval of my childminder.

I and my childminder agree that there are no pending matters, disputes or concerns after the termination of the childminding contract.

I confirm that I have received from my childminder all items that belong to my daughter; including all clothing items and outfits, unused wipes, nappies and medicines

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bossybritches · 19/01/2008 08:24

SO why is he contacting you? (other than to be a bully obviously!)

I would keep your door FIRMLY shut & keep ringing the ppolice unitl he goes away.

If he persists get an injunction to keep him away from the house as it must be upseting your other mindees as well as you & the family?

Horrible situation for you.

ROSEgarden · 19/01/2008 19:53

has he NOW signed this cancellation of contract? and accepted you have withdrawn any owed money?

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nonna · 19/01/2008 20:18

he signed cancellation of contract and i didn,t get any money from him

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nonna · 19/01/2008 20:20

I was afraid he may try to hurt me or them as I didn?t know exactly what he was threatening of doing.
? As a last resort, as I feared for the safety of my family, I offered him not to make him pay and to give him his daughter?s items provided that he sign the ?Termination of Childminding Contract? document

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nonna · 19/01/2008 20:23

i fear he may harm me, my family or other children I care for, or submit untrue complaints against me to damage my career

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ROSEgarden · 19/01/2008 20:57

so, hes signed, you agreed not to charge him and hes STILL coming to your house and threatening you????

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nonna · 19/01/2008 21:01

no ,but he is not a normal man!!!!!

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nonna · 19/01/2008 21:03

have u read the thread (termination of childminding contract? ) if u did u will know what type of people they are

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ROSEgarden · 19/01/2008 21:05

yes i have, i must be missing something as im trying to work out if he is still threatening you even though you have agreed to cancel all dealing/fees with him?

Surely if he has no business contacting you now then the police should step in?, he ahs no dealings with you so he has no need to contact you?