Staff Room Thursday C'mon Girls up and at 'em

[shoshaliteupthetree]

Dont know quite what happened, but raring to go this morning, been up fot hours, so have sat and played around with a photo each of my mindees, turning the black and white and soft focus around the edge sort of thing, going to blow them up to A4 size and give them to parents as Christmas Pressies

Well, just taken a call from my bestest family. Always on time, always pay, treat me with respect etc. She's the one that starts really early. She tells me, her and her fella have split up. She's sobbing, because its gonna be a nightmare getting mindee here, but she really must come to me, because it works so well for everyone. Older child is not father of bf and took it too well. She said, 'oh good, now I won't get shouted at and smacked!' So, she's in an awful state and I just kept saying, I'm here, whenever you need me, for both girls, which is true. Very rarely have to say no, because I'm always well within my numbers. All the time I'm taking to her, I just kept thinking, 'I applied for a job yesterday and you may only have me for another 6 weeks!'

The one that I mind, is a strange girl and does not take to change well at all. Its taken the best part of 2 years to settle her with everyone, me, nursery, everyone. Now, potentially within a month daddys buggered off and I'm not going to have her anymore. Feel like shit.

Oh Mo, that s awful, for both of you, but you can still be ther to listen, and when it comes down to it,you have to do what is best for you Dh and DD, do you have anybody that the child already know that could take over from you with her. We are lucky that we work in quite aclose group so that when somebody gets posted on, th echildren can usually go to a CM they know.

Mo. as bad as it may seem you can't help what goes off with regards of the dynamics of mindees families, we all become attached and then something like this happens and we feel guilty but it's not your fault, you have to start to think about yourself and your own future. Sorry if that sounds harsh but you can't put your life on hold forever.

Now I have a real humdinger of a problem and will be asking for advice tomorrow.

She lives too far away for me to find anyone to help tbh. Mindee does have a place at nursery 5 days a week, but she prefers her to come to me once a week. The other one goes to another minder near her school. (Who incidentally FORGOT she had her one day last week and didn't pick her up from school!)

I know what you mean, its dog eats dog, but I've had one or other of the girls for 8 years. The older one refers to DH has her 3rd daddy. Guess he's been promoted to 2nd then!

She is such a nice lady and I always thought he was a bit odd. DH can't stand him. Limp hand shake type, he calls him!

Oh well, I might not get a job for 6 months, but I will need to talk to her again. It might be that she's still using me, more for my benefit than hers, since she could go to nursery. Its just that she knows I do earlies and its not easy to find a mindee that starts at 6am!