Nannies-did you get anything for Christmas from your families?

[Darklylookingdeeply]

I am can't help feeling slightly gutted that I didn't even get a card. I think it's worse that some years I have been given gifts, some years nothing. It makes me feel like it's performance related or something. Maybe I was shit this year😁

That's shit. Did the kids not even make you a card?

I have a p/t hol nanny and topped up her wages to the nearest hundred plus a make up set I thought she would like.

@flowerycurtain that sounds very thoughtful. I think this year particularly, I'm feeling like some sort of appreciation would have been nice. I'm not talking about gifts necessarily, even a heartfelt 'thank you' would have done it. I have gone obove and beyond all the bloody time.
On the up side, one of the children ran around collecting up things to give me when I gave them their gifts!

That’s pretty awful. Is there any tiny chance that the parents are eg both front lines in COVID wards or politicians / otherwise utterly unusually swamped and just didn’t get organised? I don’t blame you for feeling piqued by that.

We got our nanny a gift, if it helps. Cash bonus, card, and small piece of jewellery. But we always do. She's incredibly loyal, hardworking and a gem and we often tell her how much we value her.

If they didn't even give you a card that's pretty shit but I doubt it's a referendum on your performance (if it is, they're crap at being bosses and need better management skills). Most likely they are just distracted or disorganised some years. I'm not saying that's OK, but I wouldn't make it personal when it probably isn't.

@MatildaonaWaltzer I guess both have jobs that are demanding, one probably very high stress. However, I have never had this in any other family and they have all had equally demanding jobs.
@Respectabitch I probably am taking it personally when it is just how they are generally - disorganised and thoughtless! I am sounding off really and wondering if I am the only one!

I was a nanny over 20 years ago and received a very generous cash bonus every year and always a lovely card too.
Back then it was very much the norm.

That is a shame, OP.

I can see why you'd be upset / slightly perturbed.

Does it fit with their style in general?

@MyGazeboisLeaking yes, completely. I should expect it really, but it's always a bit annoying. I know people don't always get thanks in other jobs, so I should just suck it up really. I think it is unusual not to get anything as a nanny though. especially when I always give gifts, cards etc on every occasion. I know you don't give to receive and all, but it's just a bit rude

it is appallingly inconsiderate for any employer, but in a domestic setting it's really poor. The fact that the children are aware makes it toe curling. You're goig to have to work hard teaching them about how to be considerate to others because it appears unlikely they'll get it from the parents (no chance they are eg muslim and don't therefore do christmas? I find it so astonishing that I'm looking for the reasonable excuse!)

I got an lovely bunch of flowers delivered to my house as I’ve been furloughed

@MatildaonaWaltzer They definitely celebrate Christmas. No religious reasons not to.

That's awful OP, what ungrateful employers you have! I've been a nanny for many. many years, (although I'm currently a family PA), and I've always received lovely, thoughtful gifts and cash bonuses from all my employers - it's the done thing! (Or it was...!). My current employers, who I've been with for many years, are always extremely generous at Xmas and birthdays, and they buy wonderful gifts for my DC too. I'd be really pissed off if I were you, plus they're setting a terrible example to their kids too, (who sound lovely).

Very rude. At the very least a card and small gift from the children (preferably home made card).
I received generous vouchers as did my own children. I don’t even take my own children to work. My employers are lovely and very kind. But the gift I loved was a hand made by one of my charges. So sweet and I will treasure.

It’s appalling OP! I gave my cleaner and my child’s nursery key worker gifts (cash and vouchers respectively). I appreciate and value their work and know they make my life much easier and it’s important to show them that.

I would be looking for another job OP, it is rude and disrespectful, a cash bonus or a lovely box of chocolates or smellies would require very little effort from them. Even a card telling you how much you are appreciated would be better than nothing!! Nannies are in demand, don’t settle for being treated badly!

Thank you all. It's interesting to hear all your perspectives. Seems like I'm not unreasonable to be feeling a bit put out.
@SandysMam I am making plans to leave eventually, not because of this, but because of several other things that I can't seem to resolve with them. It' s a shame really.

Bless the kids

How long had you been there .

I’m a mn now but as a nanny fir 20yrs I always got a cash bonus of weeks wages plus small pressie chosen by kids

As a mn past ten years always had a small pressie minus one family at Xmas

My clients where I’ve been for 6w were lovely to me. Cash bonus - never had that as a mn

Plus candle chocolates smellies and they also included a pressie for my almost 4yr

No one had ever done that before

Sorry yours were crap

A card is a must but nice to give the person looking after your most precious a gift is nice

@Blondeshavemorefun I've been there 5 years. I have never had another family do that. Nevermind, I am over it. Maybe I'll get something next Christmas if I can hang on that long😁

@Darklylookingdeeply. That’s crap. 5yrs

If back tomorow I hope they have got you something

I don't.have a nanny but I have a very good and loyal cleaner who I appreciate very much. We gave her a week in our holiday home in France of her choosing and as it has 7 bedrooms she can take her whole family. A gift voucher for a local restaurant I know she likes for her and her DH and a good bottle of wine from our son who does not keep his bedroom very tidy.

Yes it,s nice to get stuff. But to expect stuff I think is wrong I mean it,s not like your their for free. i work in a nursery some parents give stuff some don,t I don,t jusdge those that donb,t. Were not doing them a favour were paid to do a job.

Nursery is very diff from working for one family and 1-2-3 same children day in and out

@caringcarer- do you need another cleaner?

Hi OP,

Just saw this is my 'I'm on' threads and wondered how you're getting on?

@Blondeshavemorefun No, not a thing. @caringcarer Wow! You sound lovely and very generous!
@june2007 I don't expect 'stuff'. I'm talking about a card or a drawing from the kids. Nannying is a very personal job. I have worked in nurseries and there isn't a comparison.
@MyGazeboisLeaking thank you for asking. I am OK, but was pissed off that there was no thank you for my gifts either. I have let it go though. Life is too short to get bitter about it. I think they are just a bit thoughtless and forgetful.