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[MaureenMLove]

Morning. Kettles on and toast is done, Selection of toppings on the table.

It could be a long day here, DH is taking the window and half wall out. Thankfully there's 2 rooms between him and us, so we'll be OK, it just might be a bit noisy.

Both mindees were a bit late this morning, both had a shock when they had to defrost their cars! Its absolutely freezing. Got the robot to finish today, so i think we'll get up to the pound shop for some finishing touches for it.

[MaureenMLove]

Er, easy does it, you googled it!

[bloodsuckingLOONEY]

Thanks, yesterday I was told I couldn't come in as not working!!

[MaureenMLove]

Looney, stop worrying about things you don't know! I know its hard, but there's no reason why this shouldn't be absolutely fine. We've all been there, but please try not to make things to worry about, until you need to.

[bloodsuckingLOONEY]

Had a bit of what could have been blood yesterday and all my metal mouth, hunger etc went - can't help it. I'm off now x

[MissInvisible]

MamaG, i got plasterer back tofinsih panel he had missed and told him i was not happy where the plaster didnt meet skirting, where there was gaps(albeit small) in corners of walls, he said blah blah blah i said rubbihs job, not happy, cost me lots of money, not good job, he shouted job was cheap(was it F*CK!), i told him to stop shouting and said so that means i get inferior job, he said he was leaving, i said he wasnt and he'd sort probs out NOW, he cowerd in corner and got'most' of jobs done...apparently, the areas where the plaster doesnt meet skirting is because skirting is away from wallshite and he said when it comes to painting, if i ring him, he will come and fill the areas that have gaps bollocks, got the bigger things done then got him out arsehole

[MissInvisible]

You're going to be fine chick, let us know how you get one.x

[MamaG]

eek Miss I, what a knob
glad you got it (sort of) sorted tho!

[MissInvisible]

well am -pissed-- off annoyed that we spent 100's of ppunds having this crappy job done but felt better for telling him off, normally i let people get away with everything!

[MissInvisible]

woops

[bloodsuckingLOONEY]

I'm back and I've given those fcuking hormones a right beating!!!! I decided that if a bloke threated me like that, I'd slap them so the hormones got it!!!

I feel much better as after my blood test, I picked up the pg pack and the lady asked me which Dr I wanted for my pg - I got MY Dr who I wanted which was lucky as popular. Anyway....coz I was on the verge of tears (again), I asked if I could get an appointment earlier than Friday as was worried.....I'm seeing her tomorrow at 4.20!! I feel better for it and am more stable than I was I've decided that if it's not meant to be then worrying won't help - don't know why I let it get to me so much!! Anyway, will tell Dr what a state I've been in and will probably cry but hey....that may get me the early scan I really need for peace of mind! Saz is a star and is having ds whilst I go

Dh was on the phone earlier and we were having a right laugh. He's crapping himself a little worried coz a girl at work who predicts things (and normally right) said that at the weekend she cracked an egg over the frying pan and 2 yolks came out - she insists that it means someone she knows is having twins and last time she told someone, she was right . I'm just laughing about it, not reading too much into it but it's SOOOOO funny to have dh in a panic with these things! lol

Right, off to meet Saz for a run around at local country park - keeping myself busy

Sorry for the rant earlier! Have a nice afternoon everyone

[MaureenMLove]

Goodo! Totally natural to have doubts though, don't beat yourself up about it. You should tell the dr everything you're feeling and also maybe mention that becuase of the nature of your job, the sooner you know the possibilty of twins, the better. Your've gotta get your head around things and tel parents ect. That alone, is making things really stressful for you. Lay it on really thick!

[MaureenMLove]

You know when you see a thread that you can advise on, and someone has given some good advise already, but you have different advice, that maybe isn't quite as rosy as the last, but you feel the OP should know all the facts, what do you do? Did you understand any of that! Its very sensitive, its about possible ep pg.

[LoveMyGirls]

Just posted this on wrong thread - DOH!

Any words of advice from any of you on this? I'm not ready to lose my bit of peace.....mind you dd2 is awake now and is just playing quietly with toys and watching tv so not too bad really ...... humm what was i saying.....oh help with a jigsaw...

[MissInvisible]

copied this from other thread as am desperayte now!!!

ANYONE ..PLEASE..mindee started pushing dd this morning, so we all hot footed it to halloween activity, thinking this will be nice, dd loved it collecting all sorts of coloured things from the park and sticking onto sticky leaf shaped papers..mindee walked round with scowl on her face and kept shouting "i WANT to go back inside", i told her we were not going back inside and that we were with the group making leaves and having fun..rather we were!, she walked around, did one of the leaves begrudgingly then refused to talk or be helped by anyone, wouldnt do anymore leaves and park ranger was looking at me like id said she could only do one, then i told her it was her choice!
We went back in to stick leaves up then went to my mums for lunch, afterwards, she was putting her boots on and couldnt do it properly, as i was putting my coat on myself, i then planned to help her zip them up, when i looked she was sat crying!?i said all she had to do was ask and i was going to help once i had my coat on but she SOBBED(totally distraught???!!!)

argghhhh...i cant carry on like this, im getting no where apart from stressed out very quickly and im not getting through to child or parent at all...i need support here and im getting a brick wall, rang c.c.co ordinator, shes on hol, other c.c helper was supposed to ring me back but hasnt

Ive told ehr to go for a nap now as this time is when shes at her worst!

[MaureenMLove]

Is this the 4 year old MI? and what hours do you have her. Need background, before I can suggest a course of action!

[MissInvisible]

just gone 4, full time(the one who does 6-10's lately), had her a year, was like this at start, just started nursery/turned 4 in sept..thats about it, no changes no signs, but im sat here tearing my hair out, i AM reall fed up with it

[MaureenMLove]

Can't help thinking that the hours she is doing aren't heping her. Another good reason to do over nights and not late nights. Can you arrange a proper meeting with mum and tell her that her behaviour is just not getting any better? suggest that she speaks to her health visitor, maybe.

[MissInvisible]

thing is mum is just NOT listening!, jsut had c.care co ordinators assistant on phone she said i NEED to talk to mum and look at contract as she has said these hours are too long and are affecting us all, she suggested star charts(we do stickers and certificates at min) and a list of RULES(ala supernanny)..shes getting her boss to ring me monday!

[MaureenMLove]

I'm not big on Supernanny tactics tbh, but if that's she thinks will be best, then you have to go with her I suppose. You need a threat for the parent, to make her listen. Maybe tell her you've spoken to your co-ordinator, because things just aren't improving. So, so difficult for you. Sorry I can't come up with anything more than your co-ordinator.

[bloodsuckingLOONEY]

Mo - I laid it on thick about twins, being a childminder, unsure of dates etc with the Dr yesterday and she just said 'it's 12 weeks, you won't get offered earlier just because it could be twins'. So when I see MY Dr tomorrow, I'm going to burst into tears probably (i fought back yesterday) and tell her how it's getting me down, I have to work with other people's children and I need to be worried about this for a short a time as possible! I will mention the twins again but the angle I'm going for is reassurance (although yes, I feel overwhelmed with what to do about time off...if it's twins then I can't just have the time off I was hoping if getting an assistant!!). I sooo hope I get my blood test results on Friday, they may help possibly???

PC - I was going to say about the hours affecting the mindee but that's been said already. So hard, I've not got any other suggestions - I reckon they're warn out, poor thing!!

[Katymac]

Crap end to a crap day

Feeling dodge (cold)

Mindees mum in hosp

Got details of DD's course all wrong

& then the EYPS student that was with me handed in her notice (not to me you understand - but to her tutor - who had to phone me & tell me)

How embarrassing?

[LoveMyGirls]

MI - I really really know how you feel come here and have a hug (((((((((((((((((((((((MI))))))))))))))))))))

I feel exactly the same about my ft mindee sometimes, I'm so drained. I went to the library today to borrow "Toddler Taming" by christopher Green as I read on here somewhere that its a good book. I was gutted when she said they didn't have it but would call me when they do!

[LoveMyGirls]

Wasn't your fault she gave her notice in though so dont think you should be embarassed. Get yourself in a warm bubbly bath with a warm cuppa and relax!

[StrawberryMartini]

Sorry ladies first chance to come on here today! Busy busy busy! Stole a big cardboard box from outside someone's house today (I'm sure they were going to chuck it!). I just pulled over in the car and shoved it in the boot. Going to make it into a police car tomorrow! (Any hints?)

[MaureenMLove]

I would cut out some wheels from card to stick on the sides. Shame you're not round the corner to me, because DH bought some fluoresent masking tape from B&Q this morning that would be perfect to run down the sides! You need a Sweeney style light too, to stick on the top! You need to make note books too, for them to take down your details when you've been bad! I do love a cardboard box project! Me & mindee completed our robot today. Can't show you a picture yet though, because DH has buried my camera leads under the dust sheets whilst he knocks a wall down!