Parents insisting you cm a child with contagious illness who is very poorly

[rainbow71]

I currently cm for 3 under 5's one of which has just come down with chicken pox. The parents insist I look after him even though he has high temp and is not eating and barely drinking. I have said no as I feel it's against the best interest of the child and would mean me keeping in the other children (they have had this illness already)and they have threatened ending the contract without notice if I do not have him. I would be interested to know what other cm's would do in this situation. I have said I am happy for him to come back when the spots have crusted over and his temp is back to normal.

I am {angry] for you. Hope you stick to your guns and come back on here to tell us what happened!

Oops meant

Any update Rainbow?

Oh yes! Well remembered LMG! What's happening Rainbow?

I am a CM and am disgusted too with these parents, I'm sure one of them could take time off work to look after their little one? They do not think that we look after other children and we do not stay in all day drinking tea while they play.

My own child had chicken pox this year, I asked both sets of parents what they would like to do as far as me looking after their child or them using one of my cm colleagues who had a vacancy. I advised one of the parents who is pregnant with her 2nd child not to come, she did not realise it was a danger to the baby being a new Mum. The toddler luckily did not catch it and the 4 yr old had already had it so he came as usual.

I know its difficult but our children should come first and I wouldn't want my little one being poorly at a cm when all he wants is his Mum/Dad.

Hello, Well here's the update. Unfortunately mum phoned late last night demanding a mtg straight away. They came over and said they were very disapointed I could not have ds whilst he was ill and even though they new their ds was very happy with me they were ending the contract immediately without notice as I had let them down. They had arranged other child care for the following week (after the contagious period was over). Mum cried and said how much he enjoyed coming here, dad couldn't say anything. They did manage to say they would not pay the notice period. I said it was a shame it had come to this as I felt it was out of my control and that I had always childminded on the spur of the moment outside my normal hours (even the weekend) and felt I had always done everything to be supportive to their needs. They agreed with this but still said they were now stuck with childcare this week and felt very let down and that I should have put their ds first before any other child/parent etc. I obviously can't do this as every child and parent has equal concern in my childminding setting. It would also mean I would have to look after other children that could then pick it up and I could end up staying in for weeks with poorly children affecting all of their normal routines including their own ds. Obviously these heated discussions being forced on me at inappropriate times were also causing upset to my own children. I therefore said that of course I accepted there decision, but was very sorry it had come to this.

OMG - thought when they said about meeting that that meant they were going to apologise You're better off without parents like these but it's still, it's so sad

Please don't tell me that you've agreed they don't have to pay? I'd be MORE determined to get my money if I'd been treated like this!!!

{{{ hugs }}}

Yes definatley get the moeny who knows how long it will be until you fill that vacancy, I cannot believe people put their own wants (wanting the cm to care for their sick child) instead of the needs of their child (the fact he loves comingt o you and is happy and settled) Whats selfish !!!!!!!!!!!!!! on your behalf though you will be better off emotionally.

Well they cut of their nose despite their face there didn't they. So for you and for their son - such a shame that their seflishness has resulted in you and him losing out.

rainbow71 poor you to have to deal with such unreasonable folk