Worried new nanny may be on drugs..

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Hello,

I am looking for a nanny to help care for my boy. I interviewed a lovely nanny two weeks ago, who in considering giving the job too. But I don't know... when I look at her... I'm worried she takes drugs.

Should I ask for a background check. She does not have an enhanced DBS and I told her that I will need a clear DBS before she can work with my son. Is there anything else I need to check ?

she sounds like a NO!. Move on and find someone else.

It's very important to background check her first before employing her. there are news recently about abusive nannies and no parent would want that to happen in their child. If you feel something is not right, then consider another applicant, eitherway, it is best to have her medically checked.

you think your nanny does drugs based on her skin, and what her husband looks like?

right.

Thank you Jamania and Seperate

I'm going to chase up the references and obtain a full background check before hiring her.

her previous employment do not give out references but state when she did the job and when it finished.

We only do this when we hated the person but don't want to risk giving a bad reference.... If they were good we give them a proper one. FYI

Maybe she needs some fruit and vegetables suggest a nice walk for some fresh air with your son everyday. You could say you'd take her in as a 4 week trial ?

My last employer doesn't do references, I think it is very normal.
I would ask my old manager for a personal reference, could she do that?
What drugs do you think she is doing?
I'm not sure her skin would be the first thing to be impacted. Have you noticed anything else?

I don't know anything about nannies but I have terrible skin
Really bad
It's got fuck all to do with drugs....it's adult acne and I can't take meds for it unlesd I make myself suicidal

I've had people accuse me of being a druggie based on my skin

It fucking depresses me that people make judgement without knowing anything about me.

for I spoke to the company. They don't provide specific references as they are a huge company and have a number of bases. They have a company policy to not provide specific references and say (if an old manager at her work place were to provide a reference) he would breaking their company policy.

Anlidiot I'm sorry to hear that.

I would like to reiterate that it wasn't just her skin.

Ask for enhanced DBS. References from other Families eg. Emails from them so she can't get just anyone to write them.
First aid certificate. Maybe some phone numbers of people to call for a character reference.
If you are having doubts about her already. Why employe her. When you find the right person you will know.
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I was speaking to a colleague a few weeks ago. They all thought I was a heroin addict when I started. I had anemia and didn’t know at the time. Horrible black eyes, pale horrible skin and manky hair That was falling out we’re just a few of the things. She might be unwell

I am a childminder. Please steer clear of this person if you are already unhappy. X

Just go with someone else. You have a bad feeling about her, that's a valid reason not to hire her.

She might be unwell

Wouldn't you want a fit and healthy person looking after your child?

They have a company policy to not provide specific references and say (if an old manager at her work place were to provide a reference) he would breaking their company policy.

We also say that. We can hardly say we're only doing it in that instance. The reality is we ignore that for good people as we want to give tv em glowing references.

If you have a bad feeling, don't hire her to look after your child.

You sound insane 🤣

Do you even know much about drugs or what different drug users look like? Why do you think her husband is a druggie? Does he have tattoos or something?

This thread is making me howl.

Trust your instincts. I wouldn't hire her.

Ok, so I met with the nanny today (as she is currently on a trial) before I offer her a role or not. I think I've been judgmental. When we were alone, she was showing me pictures of her husband, again, and she said he was in his 50's ! No wonder ! So he looks quite old in the pictures. She was telling me about her life and said she suffers from a skin condition and finds it hard to put on weight (she is very skinny)..... I think I need a slap on the face.

You need good references, that's what you need!

You need to not be judging people by the way they look op. She's just proved why.

@turnandfacethenamechange I know, me too! The OP comes across as a sort of person who'd think tattoos = drug user

what a weird thread , you think she nay be on drugs as pale and hubby looks old, which is now is

get a dbs

trust your gut insticts

and yes refs would help

why does she want a nanny career/chnage careers?