Staff Room <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<Wednesday

[Shoshable]

Can I open this early? couldn't sleep, so been a good little CM and caught up with some paper work.

Its easy for me this term tho, I have no 3 year old so no written curriculum to do. Yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

looney , dont you dare cancel, and just tell mum, sorry i cant have mindee. some parents
so angry for you

shoshable - I know, I know.......why didn't I just straight away say NO last night?! Part of me thought I may have messed up (although I knew what I said) so wanted to check my email when she left last night.

This is how the conversation went last night:

Me: it's 9am start tomorrow isn't it?
Her: yeah, 9-5 all week i think
Me: well, it's just tomorrow as I'm off Thurs/Fri remember
Her: NO, you told me NEXT Thurs and Fri
Me: yeah, when I said that it was last week and it was NEXT Thurs/Fri, which is now this Thurs & Fri as a new week (iyswim)
Her: well he's taken those days NEXT week, I don't have anyone and he's not back til Friday

blablablabla

So I left it with her to have a word with her dh about what could be done and in the meantime, sent her the original email (as I'm a bitch like that and wanted her to see in black and white that she messed up!)

I asked her this morning what her dh said and she looked blank at me and just said 'well, he's not back til Friday'. So she left with me not knowing what the hell was going on. Been on the verge of tears all day about it, I didn't realise how much this whole appointment thing had got to me and if I feel like this now, I just know I'm going to cry when I'm there and I just can't do that with the kiddies there I ended up emailing the mum again basically TELLING her to let me know what's going on, that I need to know what I'm doing (as she'd led me to believe she could probably have Fri off and I said I'd happily change my appointment if she could do that). Well, she phoned me and I explained I really don't want to take the kids in with me but looks like she'd now ruled out the Friday thing so I said 'Oh, I'll keep my appointment then, I just needed to know' WTF do parents feel that they can know in their head what they're doing but sod telling the CM!!!

I'm now looking to see if I can get someone to watch the kids at the lego table when I go in so at least I can have the appointment on my own.

Sorry, I've really gone on haven't I. We've become friends over the years and I do like them as a family but it really annoys me when I was soooo looking forward to my 2 days off. Very tired, Dr's, made plans for one to one stuff with ds, was going to sort his room and all sorts.

Oh.....and......she arrived 10 mins early this morning, mindee needing her teeth brushed and a 'oh, don't think i'll get back for 5pm so can she have dinner with you'. I don't mind but it's the way that they don't get how even food is planned ahead!!!

looney, Ok , put yopur hard haead on. You need to go to the appointment in peace, you have made arragments for DS, so you TELL her. IAM NOT WORKING ON THURSDAY/FRIDAY Iam sorry if it is inconvienent and you have to take time off, but I did email you with the right days. They are booked off and I cannot rearrage the appointment! and if you dont Im getting in my car now!!!!!

I know its hard LT, but the arrangements have been made and you have an e-mail to prove it. ITs not your problem any more. Don't let her walk all over you. You are allowed the days off for whatever reason you want them. Don't change plans. She'll have to ring in sick if shes really stuck, won't she.

I TOTALLY agree with you and would definitely do that had I not already stupidly said it's ok. I feel so shit about this, sorry about the swearing, it's been annoying me all day!!

I've just emailed the mum saying I can't get anyone so I'm cancelling the appointment and going to get one for Friday instead so I have longer to TRY and find someone to help me. I'm hoping this may push her into taking Friday off as she seemed to think that was a possibility earlier.

If only I had the confidence in myself last night and just said NO but I was worried I would be wrong and wanted to check my email.

STUPID LOONEYTUNE!!!

Not stupid, well if you are, so I'm I! I had exactly the same convo last week, remember! I ended up cutting my holiday short to be back here in time for work yesterday.

You said this woman is a friend, so knows how important it is for you, change the appointment to fiday, them email, tell her that you have changed it and that YOU WILL NOT BE WORKING NOW ON FRIDAY.

Yeah, maybe you can get something out of this. Surely she will see that you've done your best to accommodate her and the least she can do is meet you half way.

Crace _ need you to email me urgently or i can't post til tomorrow!

I know, I'm stupid eh!!!

Anyway, my lovely brother has come to the rescue. I text him this morning and he's just phoned back. When I explained it all he said it's fine, he'll come to mine and look after them both!! I'd never normally be able to do this but he's having the adhoc mindee as a friend and mum is fine with it. She's now dead excited as hasn't seen 'Uncle x' for ages I feel such a wally though, burst into tears once my brother said it was ok - it was the relief at it all being sorted!!! So, I've sent mindees mum another email telling her my brother has come to the rescue. I said that although he couldn't help, once he heard about why, he dropped all other plans to help me blablabla (hoping she'll feel really bad that she wouldn't change things when it was HER mistake!)

Anyway, thanks for letting me rant on here, I was really earlier!

Hope she feels guilty and glad you can go, Good luck

Me too, I want her to feel REALLY bad but......she won't! That's what they're like aren't they!!

God, I love my brother for this, he even said that if I need to go to hospital for blood test (usually do as they can never get my veins at surgery), to go straight after and he'll stay at mine til I'm done. He just said to make sure I take enough change with me for the hospital car park - bless him!

Thankfully, I think I made my one feel quite bad last week! She was embarrassed enough to pay me extra for my understanding anyway. Lets hope she shows her appreciation to your brother too!

Katymac - Looks like you were right. 2 Calls today for 8mth old & 1yr old

I like being right - the one for January rang & booked today - so I am chuffed with that

Mo - hope so. She did wish me luck and said 'it'll be alright, always is' so I turned round and said 'i wish it was that simple but I'm at very high risk, runs in family blablabla' so think she felt worse when she knew that. HOWEVER. I'm even more with her now......she told me earlier that she couldn't speak to her dh as he wasn't back til Friday. Well, how come she's told me tonight that he's dropping mindee off in the morning?!!!?!!!

ajj & katymac - looking good

FGS! She really is taking the pee!

Good news all round then!

Crace, i've been emailing you - so sorry!

Well, I'm going to say something like 'oh, thought he wasn't back in the area til Friday' when I next see her. Even if it just makes her feel awkward. Some friend, she can PI** off!!

LT you should have said "oh fab news now i can have my 2 days off!"

Oh, and it's clear in her head she thought this Dr's appointment was nothing important. FFS, it could mean me finding out I can't have more kids and she sort of knew that but she's so downplayed it. I'll be fu**ing devastated if it's bad news but all she bloomin cares about it that she's not inconvenienced (even though it was HER mistake!!)

Sorry, just full of today!

LMGs - if only, it didn't dawn on me until they'd left and I was like WTF!!!

LT hope to hell its not bad news, but if it is take friday off, DO NOT STRUGGLE TO WORK WHEN YOU ARE NOT UP TO IT, if her DH is around they can sort it. But as I said so hop eits not, fingers toes and anthing else I can think of crossed for you.

Shoshable - probably a bit late (just got in from a BBQ at friends). Thanks so much, I just felt so down today like I was making out the Dr's was important when it wasn't. Anyway, hoping they can put my mind at rest with a simple blood test. Just been really scared by what I found out last week about my family history. I knew premature menopause ran in the family but didn't quite realise HOW YOUNG! My mum was 29, my mum's mum was about 31 and my mum's sister was late 30's. I'm 31 so of course this is all very possible and it scares the hell out of me. We're trying for another baby at the moment and the thought of being told that I've left it too late just really upsets me. I'm now hoping that I'll be fine and have made a big fuss about nothing but I'm certainly not going to just leave it and see what happens - I NEED to know! Plus, ds is always nagging for a baby brother or sister (he just adores the baby mindees I've had from very young) and if this is never going to happen, I want him to know (somehow) and not be disappointed by waiting and waiting.

Anyway.....had a bit too much to drink and waffled. Just wanted to say thanks and to apologise to everyone for me moaning in here today - feel really about getting so worked up!

Night night.

LT xx

p.s. don't you worry, if it's bad news I'll not give a stuff what she thinks, I will NOT be working END OF!!!

That's what the staff room's for Looney, don't be about it! I hope it all goes well for you. We'll still be here to listen to you.