AIBU - how much does your au pair eat

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I don't know if IABU but our au pair eats a lot. To the point that I have changed supermarkets to be able to keep costs down and it takes food away from the DCs.
For example, yesterday she had 3 southern fried chicken breast, half a packet of fresh spaghetti and 2 chocolate bars for supper.
She'll have scrambled eggs and toast for breakfast, pizza at lunch and then a large supper.
I have started to write a menu for what the DCs are having for supper so she doesn't eat it.
However, this doesn't make much of a difference.
Our previous au pairs never eat this much and I am finding it hard to keep up.

Does she eat with you at weekends?

Most of the food she is eating doesn’t sound very healthy but does she buy it or do you have it in the house?

remember when I was au pairing in a strict French home I would be STARVING and they did zero snacking and zero eating away from the family dinner table. I came home very slim!

And what is wrong with that?

I see a couple of options for the food. Give her her own shelf in fridge, freezer and cupboard and either stock it yourself (you could accompany it with a meal plan that states 2 sausages and chips, so that she knows it's not six at a time!) and ensure it includes more than enough stodge for her to fill up on, or give her a weekly budget and she buys food herself. Is there really no veg she eats at all?? You could also make enough of your evening meal that you routinely leave her a (large!) tupperware of it for her to reheat at 6pm the following evening.

TBH I think that an au pair either eats with the children OR with the parents but shouldn’t be preparing or eating meals on her own. Au pairs are meant to be part of family life and, as much as anything, what kind of role model is it for young children to have a young adult in their home who is living in the sidelines of family life?

The French don't do snacking, only for children at 4. That;s why their chn eat their meals and stay slim.