cm club really upset by parent

[dmo]

i have looked after a boy for 2 yrs now after school he is 11 now and due to leave primary school next thursday
parent has bad credit with me as cheques always bounce so i always ask for cash from her
my policy is that parents pay me the first day of the week so last week mum kept forgetting her purse
this week on monday she said she would bring it tuesday but forgot again
tonight i asked her for the payment and she said she would come back later to pay me.
7pm i phoned to ask her if she was on the way and asked her to bring cash
7.20pm her dp arrived with a cheque for £80 and i told him a cheque was no good as i needed cash (as i dont trust her cheques)
so i asked him if he could nip to the bank and bob back
got a phone call with the mum screaming down the phone telling me i had never menioned cash and why wasnt her cheque good enough for me.
i told her calmly that as the payment was late i could only except cash.
well she went off on one saying she wouldnt have any cash till next thursday as tax credit only pay on wednesdays (so cheque would have bounced)
so i told her that i'm very sorry but without the cash i would be unable to have her son tomorrow and the 4 days next week to which she put the phone down on me.
feel rather down at the moment as i feel like a mug and i guess she wasnt planning on paying me at all.

Oh how awful

Sorry she is such a prat - she knows she is wrong

Obviously she was trying to pull one over on you - good for you for sticking to your guns, I know I would have folded myself. You definitely did the right thing here, she really had no intention of paying you. I do, however, understand why you feel down about it. I still say the money part of this job is the worst

Well that & OFSTED

i would have prob had him next week and hoped for the best
its my dh who pushed me

Well done DMO for sticking to your position. You know you are right, you know you have given them plenty of opportunity to pay - after all payment was due on Monday. You are not a credit lending facility, so you have been supportive of this parents financial situation by letting them build up any debt. There comes a point when enough is enough, so Well Done for telling the mother how it is... either she pays, or she does not get access to your service.

well she turned up this morning 7.40am to ask for her sons bike (i have stored it here this week as they are doing their cycling pro at school)
when i gave her the bike she gave me £80 in cash and said she had phoned the police, social services and ofsted to report me.
not sure what she can report me for but hey thats our business we are meant to get paid late and be hurled abuse and not care.
feel at the end today dont think i can cope being a cm any more, but i love my job (the children) so much

dmo we are all here for you and know that some parents really push their luck but it's always the children that suffer.
Thankfully the awlful parents I had left 1 1/2 yrs ago, so now have very good parents.

dmo she only reacted like that because she knows she was in the wrong and she probably hoped she could string you along until the holidays and then you would never get paid!

She was able to get the money so she has already lied, Its hard, I know, but try to put it behind you and carry on.

HTH

oh ignore the silly cow..what a horrible horrible woman to do such a thin..have you got all that is owed??, i would not give courtesy call to ofsted(wouldnt bother with ppolice..what are they gunna do arrest you for not accepting a bounced cheque?), tell them your having prob with aprent and feel it may now have came to an unamicable end..also maybe let ncma know as you prob use their contracts and im assuming shes in contract?

sorry she was such a bitch to you chick, but you really are best off out given her attitude and lack of co operation.x

iS IT ILLEGAL TO WRITE A CHEQUE THAT WILL BOUNCE? IF SO SHE'LL GET HERSELF INTO TROUBLE! Also ofsted don't get involved in monetry issues either. (Tis henniepennie by the way...the computer won't let me change my name) Sorry about caps lock can't be bothered to re-type.

What a horrible thing to happen, especially as he was leaving anyway. I hope you're feeling a bit better now.

i am thanks mog
ofsted wont care
police wont care
social services (dont know these were called)
got what i was owed so thats fine but it is a shame for the child but to be honest he was getting to old for here anyway and breaking things (such as my little tikes car)
still feel down
and to top it all just had an old man have a heart attack on me while i was out, his wife called the amblance while i cooled him down etc
just done first aid last week and got to finish the course tomorrow so good pratice

If Ofsted come to see you as soon as they realise its about money/payment they will back off, as its nothing to do with them, my guess is she hasnt phoned anyone, and was just trying to make herself look better, people are awful sometimes and dont realise how it hurts when they treat us like that, and yes it probably does make you feel like giving up but think of the other children and parents who would be upset at your giving up, hope you have a nice weekend and forget about her soon

take it as learnt experience and move on..good riddance i say

hi Dmo are you on the first aid at civic centre in morden tomorrow ?

for future reference (parent here not childminder but an accountant ) yes it is illegal to write a cheque knowing it will not be honoured.

parent here not cm - i would never never ever speak to or treat my lovely childminder that way. She's more than a childminder, she a really good friend now too. I wouldn't expect my employers not to pay me etc so why should childminders be treated like that. Well to be honest I'd never speak to or treat anyone like that - even if I didn't like them!!!

DMO most of us parents love our kids' childminders - don't give up because of one evil woman, from the sounds of it you are better off without clients like that anyway

I always think it reflects very badly on a parent who is prepared to treat the person with such a close relationship to their child with such contempt.

My cm isn;t particularly a friend but I treat her with politeness and pay her on time and trust her when she says anything about DS and we work together when he has any issues - biting or crying when I leave him for example.

Shame on parents who don't I hope there aren't many of them.

Hi dmo, I am not a CM but I speak as a parent, and I am with you all the way. I agree with tron. I always paid my CM on time, if I don't have my purse, I go back later in the evening and pay her. I wouldn't work for someone that always pays me late, so I always pay my CM on time as well. The first CM that I have, had a parent that used to pay always late, until she said to the parents, next time they paid late, the rates would go up. Maybe that is a solution.

i bet u any money she'll be full of apologies come monday morning, and she'l expect you to have her child still owing u money......i think uve done the right thing because if u give into her now when is she going to realise that she cant take ppl for granted

thanks guys
well no sign of ofsted, police or ss this morning

hi DMO

sorry to hear you have had a hard time

sometimes, when people are in the wrong, they shout and scream to deflect from that ....

if her DS has been cared for, she needs to pay , end of !

well done for sticking to your guns x

I can just imagione the police response to her complaint - "my cm was mean to me because I didn't pay her?!"

pmsl !

My cm has a late payment fee - if you aren't paid up she charges a fiver on top of that day's fees. Seems reasonable to me. I wouldn't dream of writing a didgy cheque - what does that say about your priorities? Not that I would suspect my cm of selling DS into slavery to recoup her losses