Husband doesn't want PIL to look after our son at our house...

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I'm going back to work 3 days per week. My husband's parents have agreed to look after our son one day per week - their house is on my way to work, so it's easy to drop him off. My parents live an hour away, but have agreed to do two days per week. They have said they would prefer to come to our house to look after him, saying they don't want DS spending all that time in the car. DH doesn't want this, as he comes home for lunch and finishes at 4.30pm (early starts) - meaning he'd have to see my parents quite a lot. He gets on well with them and loves them, but feels them being in our house is an invasion of his privacy, and that my Mum would do stuff around the house, which he doesn't want. He doesn't have the same close relationship with his family as I do mine, so I don't have a problem with it. Now I'm faced with an awkward decision to offend my parents by telling them they can't look after him here (seems like we don't trust them/they're not welcome) or to make hubby unhappy. I can't look at this objectively, because they're my parents. Is hubby being unreasonable?

He is acting like an ungrateful git. A million people would kill to get the kind of child care arrangement you guys are getting.

You wouldn't be able to come home and relax though would you?

You'd be going to childcare, getting your dc, cone home, hang up the washing, empty the dishwasher, start on dinner etc.

Does he not get on with them? Seems weird to moan about spending an hr a day with them twice a week while has sarnie etc this saving £60/90 a day on cm/nursery fees

I'm sorry, he's not a good parent if he'd rather his child spent 2 avoidable hours in the car each day your parents care for him, rather than spending 45 minutes tops in the company of your parents.

That's two hours of playing, chatting, running around, going for walks, singing songs, being a kid.

Two hours every now and then for a day out is fine. Two unnecessary hours for routine childcare is not.

Thank you for your replies :) We've worked out that my parents can look after dc at our home with a few ground rules about my parents not doing stuff around the house 👍