Sorry if this offends anyone but...... 'plump' nannies?

[sunnyjim]

Is it just us or are nanny's generally 'plump'? (okay in this specific case I'm talking fat really, size 18+)

We have a new nanny, not started yet, but doing the odd half day alongside me to check that we all get along.

I just have concerns about her ability to deal with DS (active 22 month old) on a day to day basis. She finds it difficult to get up or down from the floor and I found I had to slow my pace massively when we went out to the park today.

I guess a part of me thinks that if she has a weight problem, does this reflect in her willpower/ self motivation in other areas?
Will she feed him decent food?
Will she take him to active sporty things (which he loves) or focus on sitting sitll crafty things (which he hates)

Im not sorry if i offend but yes i tink shes too big to be doing her job properly, not a good roll model someone that big no matter how nice she may be. If theres no medical reason for her being a fatti then get rid! In this day and age we should all be careful of our life styles and u dont want her imposing a inactive/unhealthy one on your children!

Im guessin your a "pluss size" then mrsjoncusac?? by your last post. Get over it!

Ahem, Mrs JC is the size of a small bungalow

on account of being very very pregnant

Actually, I am not plus size by the OP's standards. Not that it's strictly relevant anyway.

Such a pleasure to have your incredibly erudite and beautifully spelled/typed posts on here.

Hi Mishmash .

BTW, just back from getting my 3rd bacon sarnie this week. Wonder why my trousers were a tad snug this morning?

As a full time sahm for many years till recently, I've had dealings with a number of other people's nannies over the years.

I don't think the fat ones are any less motivated/well informed than the skinny ones!

In fact the best nanny I ever came across - helped me with games etc at M&T group - was enormous.

Might be a problem for an older child who needs someone more active to keep up.

It might even help your son to enjoy sitting still doing crafts etc. That's an important part of his development, too.

This can't be a real thread can it? Please someone tell me its a joke. Am sitting reading this a in my comfortable size 20 maternity jeans thinking the world has gone bonkers or is it prg hormones?

If not a joke I think you have been slated enough (but not saying I agree or not) and that TBH I would have thought with your hang ups about food/nutrition and appearances are more likely to cause problems for your DS in the future.

But whatever you do, I do hope you don't employ her one way or another as the poor girl has got a long way to make a good impression now.

Talk about walking into a 'ganging up on'....

I've only read half the thread so far, and what has struck me, is that SunnyJim is just concerned that the Nanny is able to keep up with her children adequately.

SunnyJim, I've just read your long post, and it sounds like she may not be the nanny for you. TBH, if you employ her, I think you'll regret it. From how you've described her, the inactivity etc. I'd have concerns too, frankly.

I think her weight is neither here nor there, but if she has difficulty getting off the floor that is a problem. The sugar bowl is also a bit odd. I can't remember the last time I came across a sugar bowl.

'I'm talking fat really, size 18+' thanks for defining fat! A size 16 is the UK average. I am a 16/18 and have never been described as fat (well to my face anyway!). I am still as lasy as when i was a size 10 though!

smeeinit post a photo of you & I'll let you know, if you're that concerned with what I think !

I am writing this as someone who has just struggled to get a pair of size 14 jeans on... and who may well pass out shortly through inability to breathe... but come on girls. A size 16 may well be the British average, but all that means is that the average British woman needs to shift a few pounds or more. As a nation, we are getting bigger, but this can hardly be described as a good thing.

I'm not suggesting we all strive to become a size 0 or that only skinny women are attractive. Tbh, I think lips, tits and hips work pretty darn well on the sexy front. But there's no getting away from the fact that I am overweight and could do with losing a stone or so. And that will apply, I should imagine, to most women who are a size 16 or over - average or not.

mojo,have you not checked my profile for a photo?!!!

I don't think sunnyjim was very sensitive with what she said but i can understand her concerns if this woman is unhealthy. having a 22 month old dd myself i know that they take some keeping up with.
The best way to deal with the whole situation is DON'T HIRE HER

willow2 marilyn monroe was a size 16 wasn't she? No sure if that was US or UK sizes. But you probably agree with that no talent Elizabeth Hurley that you would rather die than be that big. Fitness is not just about weight. Many rugby players are classifed as obese using the BMI. I am personally fitter some of my skinnier friends who never exercise and I eat a much better diet. I'm sure you would think I am the one who gives my child a massive bar of chocolate every time they then leave school rather than my size 10 neighbour. Some people are not very good at looking below the surface.

I sympathise with sunnyjim - childcare is an emotional and stressful thing and we come on here for support and advice.

For what it is worth; if the nanny makes your child happy and relaxed hire her. They don't have to be olympic athletes; a firm 'come here fred' can do the job if a child races off!

The lady who looks after my baby is probably a size 20 plus and is fab. The only nannies I have heard bad things about (dodgy boyfriends, always sick etc) are by coincidence, skinny young things.

take care x

Is size 18 "fat" then?

I thought size 16 is the average women's size now. Size 18 is really not that large!!

Just because size 16 is the average size, that does not mean that size 18 is not fa, I'm afraid. Maybe the average woman in this country is overweight?

That should read "fat".

Just responding rather pedantically to the last post, not read the whole thread or commenting on anything else therein.

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Sunnyjim are you a bloke looking for a young au pair to have an affair with or what

Dumblesdor - I agree most of us could lose few pounds, but size 18 is really not that big - as in so big you'd be afraid to employ someone surely?

alex8 - did you actually read my post? I am a size 16, or just under. And I exercise, too. Point I am making is that if you are a size 16 or more, unless you are solid muscle, chances are that ( like me) you can do with shifting a few pounds or two and that your health would benefit as a result. And no, I think Elizabeth H is nothing to aspire to. Jeez.

Oh no, I was not saying that. I am not even sure what a size 18 looks like tbh but I am sure it would not stop me employing someone. I was just pointing out that just because the average size was 16, does not mean 18 is not that fat. It might well be.