"And there's no point then later coming back saying 'well what I actually meant was this, and this' and getting cross when people aren't psychic and don't understand what you actually meant wasn't quite what was originally written"
Ah so glad you've cleared up the matter for me, I was brought up to believe there was a point to apologising if you realised you had got something wrong and offended people. I wasn't cross about people not being psychic, I was a bit cross that people seemed unable to accept a genuine apology for an illthought out original post title and content.
thanks to those poster who realise that I wasn't making comemnts abotu plus sized people in general, I was making comments about my concerns with this one specific person based on observation.
here's what I observed;
She is very large - tbh I'd say probably a size 24+
She struggles with basic physical movements like getting up from the floor
She walks slowly.
She can't get onto the pushbike.
She found it too far to walk DS to the softplay zone we go to.
She continued to discuss 'sitting still' type activities such as crafts sessions even after I had specified that DS is a physical learner and prefers active play
Despite having been told my views on not having sweet things out to 'tempt' DS she left a sugar bowl (which she had poured out) within reach of his high chair.
Now for the bit which will get people's backs up, I do draw conclusions based on someones weight. If you are a size 18+ SOMETHING must be causing you to carry that additional weight. I studies fat and nutrition and although there are some conditions which lead to difficulty in losing weight/regulating appeitie they are very rare. If this nanny has such a health issue I would have hoped she would fill it in on that section of the job file, int he same way I'd want someone to fill in epilepsy, wheat free diet etc.
So as I ahvn't been told about any health condition that is seriuos enough to cause her to carry an excess weight of around 8 stones I can only assume that its down to the basic equation beign mismanaged. You know the one, energy in (food)- energy out (exercise).
So somehwere in her life she isn't 'balancing the books'. Now this is ONLY a concern because of the helaht /fitness implications. I don;t care a tot if she is plump and fit and healthy but the weight is visibly affecting her ability to be active.
So despite it affecting her health and physical ability she has been unable (so far) to do anything about it. Is that ignorance of healthier eaitng habits? lack of willpower? dislike of exercise? bad psychological issues meaning she comfort eats? or something else?
I'm sorry but for a person who is going to be spending 40 hrs a week with DS I want them to be a role model for healthy active enjoyment of life. None of the possible reasons behind her excess weight I gave above are particularly healthy. Now if someone can give me a healthy reason why she might be this overweight that would be great, I can't think of one and so I am concerned both about her ability to do the job and the role model she would present for my son - who strangly enough I DON'T want to grow up Obese.