Nanny eating all our food including specialist food for my diet - what do I do?

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Hello, I recently employed a live in nanny who's eating us out of house and home! We keep coming home and finding packs of apples or nuts just bought have disappeared etc, even my secret stash of dark chocolate went one night. She's on a health kick so is making juices and salads all the time. I have health conditions that are greatly improved and treated with diet, so I have always bought special foods including organic and health foods when i can. I said that i would provide food at the beginning, but we keep coming home and finding all the organic fruit and veg eaten as well as speciality foods. I cant afford to provide organic and health foods for everyone including my partner who doesn't contribute financially (perhaps a separate thread for that one). AIBU to suggest that I buy her own separate non organic basics and then she buy her own speciality foods if she's going to use them everyday? I cant afford to be on a special diet myself and pay for everyone else's. Or is it normal to suck it up and buy more of everything I usually have when employing a live in? Won't be able to do that for so long.

Yep speciality food is different especially if gluten/ lactose or whatever free.

I think the poster who said she is feeding the organic food to the kids as well would have to be right if the "special" yep snake oil regime to treat a health condition that requires an all organic diet for one adult but is too expensive for the kids or nanny hadn't been mentioned.

I did used to know somebody with endometriosis who followed a strict organic diet "for" the endometriosis which she was very vocal about (checking before eating out and sitting with a glass of water, not eating at friends unless they swore everything was organic) with all sorts of "health food" / "superfood" supplements but didn't insist on organic for her kids at school or anywhere else ... I'm not sure why she felt her food had to be organic specifically because she had endometriosis, but she didn't keep the organic food only for herself at home either, and her kids and husband ate it too just not exclusively, so it wasn't as odd that way!

As always us nannies are not mind readers

So talk to her

You can be quite pleasant and matter of fact; "please help yourself to anything on these two shelves in the fridge. Don't take anything from the to shelf because i need it for lunch boxes / my special

Perfect

It's unfair for you to eat one thing but expect nanny and children to eat another

And why on earth doesn't your partner contribute - unless jobless but doesn't sound like it

Maybe if he did then you all could eat organic

And agree organic doesn't necessarily make you held the

An ex mb ate healthy. Only organic fruit veg meat etc. She didn't drink or smoke yet she still died of cancer :(

You said your nanny is juicing? So that maybe explains why she goes through six apples a day. I remember when my ex boss and I juiced for health reasons (she has cancer) and we went through a minimum of 100lbs of vegetables and fruit every week.

She also followed a very strict diet (alkaline diet) and while we all adjusted to the diet as well, she had some things only she ate and they were kept in a separate cupboard.

100lbs of fruit and veg? Didnt you get really fat?

I hope your boss is getting real treatment.

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We juiced, it's not like we ate 100lbs of vegetables and fruit and even if we did eat it all, as it was 90-95% vegetables and only green apples as fruit, you hardly get fat from that.

You get fat if you eat more calories than you burn off. Doesnt matter what the food is, although not mushing up loads of fruit is better - as you know it ends up in sugar guzzling which is why juice diets never work

So juicing wastes loads of the fruit and veg. Thought so. It also apparently destroys a lot of nutrition. Teeth and cooking are good.

I just hate it when snake oil is peddled, especially to the ill.

I don't think juicing is great either (much better to eat whole fruit and vegetables) but I don't think anyone ever got fat from each too much fruit and veg and nothing else

from eating (not each)

Emma It depends on what you are trying to achieve. If you are trying to lose weight, of course, it's better to eat whole vegetables and fruits, but if you want your body to get most of the nutrients you juice.

It looks like the op isn't coming back?

This thread also reminds me of many previous ones. I do feel sorry for the nanny.

OP, if you believe that it is healthier and makes you feel better to eat organic and healthy food, do you think that maybe the whole of your family (including the nanny) might also feel better to eat that way? There's no way to give your nanny cheap food while you eat expensive stuff without looking like you just don't value her. I would imagine she would be looking for a new job quite quickly after that. If there are treat items (like expensive chocolates someone has given you for a present) that are just for you, couldn't you keep them in your bedroom? I don't think its right to flaunt the fact you can afford better things in front of your nanny, while she eats Asda Smartprice.
Remember, she's the person who you are trusting to bring up your children. A happy nanny makes for a happy child.