This is such a first world problem, sorry...but I've got a new au pair (my first au pair) arriving in three weeks and I'm all of a sudden stricken about it! What if it's a total nightmare! I've just started doing some work from home - writing - and will occasionally go into a work for a few days here and there. But I will mostly be at home with her. I've got a four-year-old and a 19-month-old. And I wanted an au pair because I was getting exhausted by only being able to write at night or during naps - as well as obviously doing child care and all the housework etc. And I chose an au pair because of the babysitting and the help with housework etc (as opp to a nanny a couple of mornings a week). And also because my DH works long hours and I thought it might be nice to have someone else in the house. But now I'm scared!! Anyone else felt like that? And have some tips for when she first arrives??