Daytime naps

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Our DS is 2.7 yo. We'd like to drop his lunchtime nap (currently an hour) because when he has it he doesn't go to sleep at night before 9.30 / 10pm. My DH and I both work and TBH we'd prefer bedtime to be a little earlier, especially on weekdays. DS's nanny isn't keen. I understand her point of view - who wouldn't want their charge to nap during the day, especially if you aren't around at bedtime to deal with the consequences! - but I can't help thinking it's not good for us or DS to be going to bed so late. He manages fine without a nap with us on the weekend by the way - but then if he really needs sleep he does doze off in his buggy or in the car, which is no good for our nanny, who likes to have a break in the middle of the day at home. Are there any nannies out there or parents with experience of a similar situation who can advise? Thanks in advance.

It's true many children play their parents up at bedtime and I've known jobs that get the nanny to put the child to sleep within 5mins and they sleep all night yet play the parents up

Agree a tired grumpy toddler from 2pm-7pm is hell

Quiet time is a good medium and yes children can learn to play quietly and look at books etc

And yes nanny should continue no naps but sometimes they may need one

Looks at sleeping 4yr in car - been asleep 15mins - obv needs it - better wake time for school pick up

Hopefully she will continue with them. Make sure she knows that he can have a rest time.

One of my first nanny jobs the toddler was 18 months when i started and I was told that toddler was only allowed an hour nap a day. I really tried but ended up with a toddler who cried from when i woke her up and all afternoon, it was then I realised after a few weeks of living in that she didn't go to sleep until nearly 10pm and was awake at 5am every morning! She was exhausted and I did follow limiting naps for two months until the parents both travels for a week. Toddler was in bed by 7pm each night and slept until at least 7am and inlet her have a two hour nap, after parents came back I carried on giving her two hour nap in the day. I'm still unsure why parents didn't see the importance of sleep her behaviour was extreme at times and all down to tiredness.