My nanny won't give me her ofsted number

[deerkitty]

Hi
Is there anywhere else I can get an ofsted number from? My nanny is on maternity leave and the tax credits people have written quite a threatening letter to me demanding all my info by a certain date. I have text and emailed her but no response. I really need it as they will stop payments if I do t provide all info.

If she was away surely she could just text me 'I'm away'.

Is there anywhere else I can get it from?

I can see why she would purposefully ignore it if that's the case, as it's obvious that OP doesn't like her! This can go round and round in circles tbh. I highly doubt that she's purposefully ignored OP, because at the end of the day, OP is paying her maternity and unless she has a mega-rich partner they will need the income.

The most likely scenario is that she's gotten distracted, probably hasn't checked her email in a few days (or it's gotten caught up in spam and junk even with junk filters bitter experience ) and just didn't get to the phone. A whole other load of things may have happened too. Such as switching phones, or her phone being broken, or having no signal and being with a company who doesn't push texts through, or a relative is ill and she can't concentrate, or she's on holiday, or just she's having a shit week with the baby and isn't coping with any outside requests. In this day and age we seem to expect people to be available all of the time, or check their phones/computers at least daily, and some people just don't.

I think there are some people who are permanently attached to their phone and they just can't comprehend that other people aren't. I can easily go 48 hours without my phone and I don't even have a newborn as an excuse!

outraged I can't unless I'm camping I desperately wish that I could though! I can be really bad with replying to contact though, I have fibro and when it flares and the fibro fog really kicks in I'm unable to do much apart from work. As soon as I walk into my flat I just switch off. I'm certain I've 'ignored' people for a week or two before that I really shouldn't because of it, entirely through just not being able to cope with new information though rather than because I don't fancy replying It wouldn't surprise me if sleep deprivation from caring for a newborn could cause a similar effect.

I agree with Blondes. I think you have been fine, I think the nanny ignoring you is rotten.

If the nanny is deliberately ignoring the OP, that is rotten.

We don't know that she is do we? There is no rule that says you must always assume the worst of everyone you know? You are allowed to give people the benefit of the doubt. She has a new baby, it's been 5 days. There is every chance she hasn't seen it/has forgotten/is in a bad place and just can't deal with it. To me that seems more likely than the nanny thinking 'what would really enhance my maternity leave is my employer going bust and being unable to pay me'.

The baby is 3mths and the nanny has been seen out and about

At first I thought op was being a bit demanding by 'harassing' her nanny for the number and thought new born baby

But as older and not even one reply in 5days I think is rude of the nanny

What are you doing for childcare at the moment op?

I have temporary cover in place that runs to the end of the leave with option to extend for a year.

I'm not going to know if she was 'ignoring me' or got distracted. I don't think her phone number had changed as there is still a personalised greeting and the message came up as read on my phone (it's an iMessage),

This thread will run and run, I don't dislike her at all, there are things that I think she could have done better that's all and I did prior to her going on maternity leave come on here posting for advice on how to handle it.

I have the number (hopefully) after a lot of stress for me, I've sent it all off, I guess it's in the hands of the tax credit people now.

I think some people have a very strange attitude. There are things you don't have to do, but you do as part of human decency. If your employer has an unexpected emergency and your baby is three months old, you can dig out your Ofsted number in 3 days. It's perfectly reasonable. And if this sort of thing is typical I can see why you don't have the best relationship. Give and take is even more important if someone works in your home.

I'm surprised this thread is still going strong haha

Glad you got the info you needed OP! Perhaps wait for nanny to contact you now, as said she may not want to return now she has moved house.

Good luck with your childcare! X

The joys of iPhones. It's annoying when you know your message has been read and no reply

Even if she had out - not sure where certificate is - will try and find it etc

Saying that all my nanny stuff is in a folder that I take to interviews so if any employer needed to know my DBS or public liability no I know where it is and could send it asap

Hope new temp nanny works out and sounds like old nanny won't come back as distance is too far and again may not want to leave her baby as sounds to me you need a childless nanny as your dc has sen

Good luck