Nanny out of order? I am furious.

[magbags]

I have just had to nip out of work on an errand and have passed my nanny at a nearby bustop, which is on a very busy road. My beloved DC was with her but holding the hand of a woman who I have never seen before in my life (I am presuming it will turn out to be the nannies mother). I am absolutely furious about this on so many levels...why is she with her mother when she should be at work focusing on my DC?...why is she making the judgement that someone other than her is allowed to touch my DS precious little hand and keep him safe?...please help me to focus and to figure out how to approach the subject when I get in tonight.

I can understand how the OP feels. She wants some say who the nanny takes her little boy to see.

When you consider the level of care that goes into the recruitment of childcare professionals (ie. references and CRB checks) its understandable that a mother wants to know whose company her little boy is going to be with.

How do you feel about your son having play dates or meeting up with other nannies. I think you need to remain calm and ask the nanny what she has been doing.

I am sure that going out socially benefits your son, but prehaps you would like be told who he goes to visit.

you had me going there for a minute. But the my DS precious little hand was a step too far.

I guess the OP has concluded that the nanny isn't out of order then?

Magbags I am sure you meant this as a joke, but there may be young nannies out there who work for perfectly sane Mummy Bosses but are now looking at them with some suspicion. When people post inflammatory stuff on childcare boards it can lead to innocent parents being tarred with the same brush.

please,please,please be joking - otherwise i think i seriously need to rethink my chosen career

One serious point to make OP

You clearly weren't that concerned, because if you were

Why didn't you go and rescue him?

TROLL

oh dear have just searched and op is actually a fairly regular poster.....

'my ds precious little hand' i don't mean to be rude but i think you really do have some issues going on here. maybe it's best you stay at home???
what will you do when your ds starts school??? quite a few people will be touching pfb precious little hand then, lol

good point magic - this is true op, if you were that concerned then why didnt you go over and casually said boo to your nanny

the more i think about it, if i was out and my mb saw me, i would like to think she would come and say hello to me

This is a joke

magbags is a regular poster!!! lol lol lol

very odd behaviour from a regular poster

maybe she's been hacked?? (hopeful smiley needed....)

Strange that OP didn't go over and have a chat. Surely a Nanny will be out and about interacting with people? I would have thought it impossible to stay in an isolated bubble - and hardly desirable. Why appoint a Nanny if you think their mother is a problem?

LOL - look after your own kid if you want perfection.

But why didn't you stop and give her a lift? That would mean she could get back to 'work' and 'focus' on your PFB a lot sooner.

You need to change your name to madbags!

where is op?? perhaps she is sanitising pfb precious little hand lol

maybe OP had been at the gin?

yeah, magbags is a real poster apparently. that poor nanny.

I actually worked for someone like the OP once. People who think like this really are out there.

Calm down dear.

How on earth do you leave him with a CM at all with such a paranoid attitude?

Well if it was magbags, nanny will have had her talking to by now. Perhaps she will be on in the morning to let us know who the mystery woman was.

My mindee loves my sister and frequently chooses to hold her hand, pass her the reins to hold or ask her to push her buggy... I would hope that the parents wouldn't go crackers if they saw this

curious as to whether you spoke to your nanny op? where are you?

Hello? Give the OP a break!

I wouldn't be happy either if I see my child on the hand of a stranger - on a busy road. If I entrust a nanny to look after my child I would expect her to always supervise him personally.

And if the nanny introduces other people to look after my child (even ever so briefly), I would definitely be expecting to be made aware of those people.

I have no idea why you are all in such a knot about the OP being rightly upset... maybe the OPs wording was a bit overly emotional but the situation would warrant a serious talk with the nanny in my house.

If the nanny is standing next to the child, then she is supervising him personally, even if he happens to be holding her friend's hand at one particular moment in time.