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potential CM's house smelling of cigarette smoke-deal-breaker?

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CatIsSleepy · 11/03/2011 13:40

my lovely childminder of the last 4 years has had to give me her notice this week for very sad personal reasons and I have to find a new CM for dd1 (nearly 5) and 2 (2 yrs) to start in 3 weeks.
It has thrown me into a bit of a panic. However the mum of one of dd1's classmates is a CM, and she has vacancies. I went to see her today and liked her a lot.
Only problem-her house smelt very smoky. She said her husband doesn't smoke when the children are around ie only in the evenings. FWIW it sounds like she would be doing activities out of teh house with dd2 most days so she wouldn't be in the house all the time. But i feel a bit uncomfortable about it. Dh, however is less bothered. I haven't had time to see anyone else yet or even get any names of more CMs to contact so she is the only person I have seen so far.

Would a smokey house be a deal-breaker for you? am very interested in other people's opinions on this.
Have to go and do a load of boring stuff now but I will be back
Thanks in advance!

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StarExpat · 15/03/2011 15:44

It sounds like a tough situation but I agree with blondes. I couldn't bear the idea of DS being in a place that smells of smoke all day... Sleeping in it, eating, playing. Sorry but really yuck.

If a parent is a smoker themselves I guess they wouldn't mind/ notice.

Who knows, you may be able to work out a way for the other cm to have yours even when her dd starts school.

Sounds like you're not happy with smoky environment. This will eat away at you if you go with that cm

Ripeberry · 15/03/2011 18:18

On the other hand from personal experience you can have mindees that REEK of smoke and actually stink your house out even if you don't smoke at all yourself.
One mindee is like this and the smell lingers for ages, if I have other parents coming to collect it makes me wonder what they think Sad

Blondeshavemorefun · 15/03/2011 18:23

true ripeberry, dc friend at school reeks of smoke :( and when comes for a play, the car stinks, its horrible to subject children to it :(

StarExpat · 15/03/2011 19:22

It makes me so :( when a child smells of smoke. Ffs they have no choice! I don't understand why people still smoke

CatIsSleepy · 18/03/2011 14:30

well, i think i have more or less ruled her out
I had a chat with her this morning, she was absolutely lovely but I think i was hoping that when I voiced my concerns she would offer to kick her dh outside to smoke or something (ok unrealistic i know but you can hope can't you), and of course she didn't.
so...
i sort of feel better for having made that decision, but it currently leaves me with one possibility (who would probably be a short term solution as her own daughter goes to school in september, probably not dd1's school) who i was supposed to see today but couldn't as dd2 now apparently has german measles

bloody blinking bollocks!

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onceinabluemoon · 18/03/2011 18:01

Deal Breaker - definitely!

Our local family information service holds details of childminders, au pairs, nurseries etc/ Perhaps your local council do the same?

orangehead · 18/03/2011 18:08

yes dealbreaker for me too.

maidbloke · 18/03/2011 19:10

Yep, deal breaker for me too. Can't stand smoke, whether fresh or stale. Even ignoring the revolting smell, having a smoker in the house shows a tacit acceptance of unhealthy living in the CM's family, not something I would be keen to expose DC to. Sad

heartsnflowers · 18/03/2011 19:21

The school might put out a plea on your behalf in a newsletter
I think you made the right decision -hope you tell her why and who knows it might make him give up?!

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