Oh dear, i feel really bad now

[Saltire]

Just had a text from my infamous mindees mum. She's actually dropping them off this week as the dad has now got a full time permanent job.
She is supposed to be dropping them off before 8.30 because I leave for school then

She has just texted me to say "please can you give x (older child) a piece of toast to eat ont eh way to schol, as we don't have time for breakfast"

So I ran gher and said that I wasn't really keen doing that. So she said that " well x is a realy slow eater, and he likes cereal in the morning but it takes ages to eat it and we don't have time even for toast, and since he goes straight to nursery he'll need something"

At this point I had a lightbulb moment and asked
"so last week when dad dropped them off, had he had breakfast?"
Answer - NO.
The reason was that the dad didn't have time

I feel really bad now, as the wee soul had nothing from getting up till snack time at nursery, which is about 10.30.
I know it's not my fault, but I feel quite distressed by it
I felt like saying "well fucking well get up 1/2 hour earlier then"
But I didn't

Don't worry Saltire, I'm sure we've all gone through phases where we have no choice but to ignore things for their own benefit. If he was overtired then yes, sometimes you have to try and let them cry it out (within reason) and no it's not nice but I've done this with my own ds2 and then he's been so much happier for a sleep!! I don't see the harm in a very quick post (it was a tiny one that one) whilst in the middle of that :) One of my mindees had to be ignored sometimes and mum wanted me to and she was actually happy for me to MSN her about it whilst it was happening. There are worse things you could do!!

saltire,im re training a 7mth old at night at the moment,and he is left to screech in rage at not having a bottle/being picked up/going in mums bed etc

doesnt screech for long and is learning to re settle his self but obv i leave him for a few mins to cry - so we must be bad together

we all need a break and as you said we dont have colleagues as such to discuss problems so mn is a great place

out of curiosity are there many cm near you and do you chat/see them for your sanity?

Blondes - thanks . There are 2 other CMs near me. Both of them just do part time though, and I don't really see that much of them. 1 has jsut started so it's all a bit new and strange for her. Plus, we all live on a military base (which in OFSTEDs eyes mean we must be extra bad and therefore need extra checks) and its a very small one where everyone knows everyone else! They both know the parents of the children I CM for

Also -re the screeching. it's not crying, it is just screaming. he doesn't like not having my complete and utter undivided attention. We had to leave Mums and tots tha other day because we sat on the floor and if any other child or adult came within 2 feet of us he would screech, and keep on screeching till the moved. He screeches when DH comes in the house, and does it the whole time he is there. if I stop the buggy - to cross the road for example, then he starts. If I stop the buggy to go in teh house he starts.If we stop to speak anyone he does it. and how dare I try and get him to sleep!!

Very very wearing and tiring.

yep ditto - its pure rage and thats what i said to mum

no tears, just rage that he has to go in his cot and sleep

pick him up and instant smiles and quiet

3 days on, hes learning to settle his self and mum is thrilled

god im good

Blondes - oh yes, mindee is all smiles if I pick him up, or if I ignore his brother and sit with him on my knee. i mean how dare I expect him to sit ont eh floor and play