Is this wrong or is it just me?

[LuisB]

Hello. If anyone has come across this situation, I would be very pleased to read your comments.

Girl - now aged 19.

When under 16 and still at school, had sex with a boy over 18. Got pregnant very quickly, kept the baby. Still in a relationship with the boy.

Girl now employed by an established local nursery in the Greater London Area. Studying for an NVQ in childcare!

Do you think that it is absurd / odd/ normal that the nursery has chosen to employ someone with this sexual history and background? The boy (adult) has in the eyes of the law, fallen foul of the Sexual Offences Act 2003. The girl is still in a relationship with him but works with children.

Love to hear your thoughts.

It is just you .

Don't really understand what the problem is?

I'm a CM so don't know much about nurseries but my thoughts are good on her for the studying/getting a job etc. I can't see what the rest has to do with anyone else?

Struggling to see the problem here. You don't think the girl should be involved in childcare because she had an underage relationship? Which, given the fact that they're still together, was presumably a strong and loving relationship?

having sex under the age of 16 does not make you a risk to children. What possible relevance could her boyfriend have to her job? What possible relevance does her "sexual history and background" have to her job?

I had sex when I was under 16 - should I have my children taken away?

Ridiculous.

Sounds fine to me!
I'd be perfectly happy as a parent to use aa nursery with an employee who has experience as a parent and is in a stable long term relationship, she sounds very mature.

Would it bother you that the nursery is happy to employ someone who thinks that it is acceptable to enter into a sexual relationship with an adult and now sees fit to work with children?

NB The child has a subsidised place at this nursery.

I would be perfectly happy as a parent to have a child carer about whose sexual history I know NOTHING.

That would be all child carers, then.

P.s. I had sex for the first time when I was 15 (to someone I was with for a total of 4 and half years - I loved him a lot). He was the same ages but had he been a few years older, I still couldn't see the massive deal and the fact they are still together is great. BTW, my dh is 15 years older than me, would that upset you knowing that when I was a baby, he was the same age as I was when I started having sex?!?!!

LuisB - How do you know about it anyway? And why are you so interested?

We are all quite clear that it wouldn't bother us one iota.

A 15 year old girl does not attract paedophiles. Paedophiles are attracted to children. If she still has the same boyfriend at the age of 19, he probably isn't a paedophile. Even if he was a paedophile, his relationship with her is in no way relevant to her job (in which he wouldn't be involved).

What are you checking here? Is this girl actually you, and you're checking reactions, or are you particularly neurotic and trying to gauge whether or not you're being rational?

You're not, by the way.

but isnt that neaarly everyone in the world??
Pretty much everyone has a sexual relationship with an adult at some point in ther lives and then go on to have aall sorts of caareers!

I don't see the problem. What exactly do you think she is going to do to the children?

Just re-read my post and wanted to clarify. It's no business of the nursery no matter what kind of relationships the girl has had. I only mentioned that it seemed to be strong because the OP was talking about the sexual offences act, so it was technically statutory rape. But even with that being the case, why would you have a problem with the woman working with children?

sorry, this is a wind up? surely?

It is not statutory rape if the girl is 13 or over.

PML at this-

"Would it bother you that the nursery is happy to employ someone who thinks that it is acceptable to enter into a sexual relationship with an adult and now sees fit to work with children?"

I would presume that this applies to most, if not all of the people who work at my DD's nursery. Possibly some are virgins, either way not my business!

I had sex under 16, and I have worked with children, what on earth is wrong with that?

The girl has shown a tendency to 'cover up' for the boy - lie for him. Couldn't this extend to protecting him if he were to sleep with another under-16?

I stand corrected colditz I thought it was anyone under 16 but don't know a lot about it.

This is a really weird thread.

I am guessing the op is the girl in question as otherwise the post is just odd.