mears, yes, I totally see what you mean about forum experiences not being representative of the overall picture - there's a natural tendency for people to post when something goes wrong, not when it doesn't, of course.
off topic somewhat, but - that said, what I find utterly, utterly frustrating is the lack of CLEAR info and statistics about key areas. The word 'some' and 'most' are the most overused words in the whole field of birth, IMO. I want to know what proportion of women suffer fertility problems as a direct result of scarring from a CS, say - what proportion of women over 35 experience a longer labour than average - what percentage of primaparous women in non instrumental deliveries tear -
And I don't want to be told breezily, 'oh, most women are fine', or 'oh, some women get adhesions after a CS'... I want some facts! In no other area of my life would I be making key decisions based on such a lack of actual knowledge. And if it's all so straightforward, and I needn't bother my pretty little pregnant head about any of this, and Doctor Knows Best - why are their such wide differences in care and policy between different PCTs, from screening tests in pregnancy to preferences during labour? Quite often questions here are answered (with helpful intentions) by women posting saying 'oh, my midwife said this', or 'my consultant said that'. Which is all very well, but they do seem to come out with a lot of contradictory information!
I have a slightly sceptical starting point, I admit, in that I know for a fact from personal experience that 'forceps don't damage babies ever' is just nonsense - and I had my eyes opened to what an awful lot of twaddle is flying around about birth when my poor friend (the same one who had the awful birth experience) got the figure from somewhere that 25 percent of women who give birth in hospitals get post partum infections. She was panicked into wanting a homebirth because of this! Now, she might have had excellent reasons for wanting a homebirth, if based on FACT. But that 25 percent hospital infection figure was nonsense, and it scared her totally unnecessarily.
Anyhoo - all way off topic, but yes, I agree that message boards can offer a skewed overall picture. However, I think it would be a lot easier to contextualise individual experiences if clear, unbiased info was easier to get hold of in the first place. And it can read a bit callously here when some poor soul posts about a really bad experience, only to have someone post immediately after them, saying, 'oh, hardly anyone ever has that experience!' even if their motivation is reasonable.