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For anyone whose mother has been present during labour...

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TheChicOfIt · 02/02/2010 16:57

Did she comment on anything?

My mum was in the waiting room outside the labour ward, and when she came in to see ds, she said "Did you hear that poor woman screaming? That was awful."

To which I replied "That was me!"

She said "What were you screaming for? I didn't make that noise when I had you?"

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tearinghairout · 02/02/2010 17:01

Yes, well, you know your mother - no doubt it's not the first time she's said something that winds you up! Why should this time be any different?

Mine would be exactly the same. Good job she wasn't around to hear my language when I gave birth, bet she didn't say those things when she had me!

FlamingoBingo · 02/02/2010 17:02

Um, no, but then she isn't the sort of person to do that.

WorzselMummage · 02/02/2010 17:03

My mum was in the room when I had dd. She was great

Lubyloo · 02/02/2010 17:03

No my mum was absolutely fantastic - couldn't have done it without her.

woodyandbuzz · 02/02/2010 17:04

My mum was fantastic as well. Apart from when she hid behind the curtain with a look of utter terror on her face

BadGardener · 02/02/2010 17:05

ROFL!
I don't remember my mum saying anything inappropriate, just bringing lovely tea and toast for me and the ambulance drivers.

rubyslippers · 02/02/2010 17:06

my mum has been at the birth of both my children

she was FABULOUS both times ... she never said anything weird/daft etc she just supported me wonderfully

i do have a brilliant relationship with her anyway and she was there because i knew she would be a huge help

chocolaterabbit · 02/02/2010 17:10

My mum said 'oh dear what a mess' when she happened to stand at the business end while I was being stitched up. She then had a cup of my tea and piece of my toast because she'd had to drive a long way. I was a bit disappointed in her really but DH was more wonderful than I'd expected so it balanced out.

Mum wasin her element second time round though. Babysitting spoiling DD and having a lovely time playing while waiting for the phone call.

LilyLovesSid · 02/02/2010 17:13

My mum was there when I had DD1, and she was great.

At one point (lord knows when, it's all a bit of a fog to be honest!) I remember her stage-whispering to the midwife 'I think she's going to need something a bit stronger', which was shortly followed with me getting a wonderful pethidine injection! Love her!

She was on holiday when DD2 was born, so just had DP. Who was absolutely blind drunk. Fat lot of help he was!!

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TheChicOfIt · 02/02/2010 17:46

chocolaterabbit - my dh had half my toast as I was in the shower when they brought it. By the time I got round to it, it and the tea were stone cold. Was a bit gutted tbh!

Anyway, I didn't think anyone else's mother would have said anything so stupid !

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Flightattendant · 02/02/2010 17:54

No she was cool,

she stopped them getting out the ventouse, the doctor's hands were poised over it. He was well keen.

She said ;let her try and push him out'

and I did
it was weird. Could feel nothing due to epidural.

I think she willed him out with some kind of emotional magnet. He has almost been hers ever since really. [happy/sad]

Lulumama · 02/02/2010 17:55

no, my mum just gave me total and utter unequivocal support and kindness, to me and DH, but that's what my mum does

if i had thought she was going to be anything less than 100 % supportive, she would not have been there

Lulumama · 02/02/2010 17:57

me and ruby have the same mother ! no, we really do, we're twins

after the birth , and i'd settled etc, she brushed my hair. and wiped my face. which i do for my birth clients now, it is so motherly and nurturing.

ArizonaBarker · 02/02/2010 18:00

My mum was there when I had DD. She was beyond fantastic. Couldn't have done it without her.

She stayed for two weeks afterwards and gave DP masses of confidence in his parenting.

raindroprhyme · 02/02/2010 20:39

My Mum has been present at all 3 of my births and was fantastic. I couldn't have done it without her and her fantastic magic flannel.
although she has a bruised hand today from when i was in labour last night.

eastendmummy · 02/02/2010 20:44

My mum was wonderful and didn't seem to bat an eyelid despite a difficult birth ending in an em cs after a very long labour. She helped DH too by giving him a break/chance to go to the loo etc... I know that a lot of mums couldn't do it though and it took me a while to persuade DH that it would be good for both of us if she was there.

4andnotout · 02/02/2010 20:46

Conratulations Raindrops!!

4andnotout · 02/02/2010 20:50

My mum has been my birth partner for all 4 births and has been fantastic, dp was there for the past 3 but he was mainly making up the numbers

My mum instinctivly knew what I needed and I really couldn't have done it without her, dp is squeamish and would never been able to clean me up and help me in a shower but my mum had no qualms.

I have always been close to my mum but going through a labour together brought us closer ( well I have to keep friendly with anyone who has seen the horror smash of my fanjo)

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IsThatTheTime · 02/02/2010 20:56

What lovely stories, I hope I can do something similar for my DDs when they are big

SoupDragon · 02/02/2010 20:58

No. She was in the next room and simply held her newborn granddaughter and beamed.

BuckBuckMcFate · 02/02/2010 21:08

My mum has been there with all 3 of mine. She's fab

Tho she 'pushed' all of them with me and I kept looking at her doing her pushing face and knew that's what I looked like

She did lovely hair stroking too

We have a great relationship and the same silly things make us have uncontrollable fits of laughter, by the time I had my 3rd it was like having a party. My overriding memory of having DD is how much we laughed all the way through it

PictureThis · 02/02/2010 21:10

Mum knew exactly the right way to massage my back, she didn't complain when I gripped her hand like mad and knew when to step back and encourage DH to support me. She stood at the end of the bed and saw my beautful DD make her entrance into this world and I remember looking at mum and seeing this wonderful look on her face....I wouldn't change that for the world.

crankytwanky · 02/02/2010 21:16

My mum was in the pool room for a bit during labour with DC1.
Her & ExP sat in stoney silence IIRC.

I've never got on with either of them TBH.

HellBent · 02/02/2010 21:31

My mum was there when I had DD. She kind of snuck in to the delivery room as we were in a rush and she gave us a lift (her mercedes had 'wipe clean' leather seats lol!), only made it to the bed with a few minutes to spare!

She whispered in my ear during a contraction "no-one has noticed you have me and DP so I'll just stay until they chuck me out!" I laughed so much I think it helped with the pushing.

It was a bit weird at first but very reassuring and she loved being there. I would love to be asked when/if DD has a baby of her own.

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