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Childbirth

Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

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mosschops childbirth drama (part 2) - dont read if of nervous disposition!

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mosschops30 · 14/12/2009 11:29

so after you thought it couldnt get any worse after 4 day induction, 12 hour labour and an emcs ...... it did!

The MW removed my stitch, and all was fine for a few hours, then i sat on the toilet and called dh saying 'i can feel my scar pulling',
dh said 'no its fine'
i said 'you have to lift me off the toilet now'
and then as I stood up dh said 'see its fine' and then i felt it go and he looked rather pale as he said 'oh no its not'!
I carried my insides across the landing shouting 'CALL AN AMBULANCE'.
Was rushed to hospital and back to theatre (where i was subjected again to care from colleagues ).
I couldnt move for 2 days and was eventually persuaded out of bed by my supervisor who walked me to the toilet
Ive spent another 5 days in hospital.

Its been horrendous, I am very tearful about it, am having sonme sort of anxiety attacks about the event but just needed to come on here and start working things out in my own head and thought this would be a start, even though i hacvent gone into much detail, in parts it was far worse, and in others far better than ive probably made out

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Poledra · 14/12/2009 11:31

Oh My God!! Mosschops, you poor thing. What the hell went wrong?

It seems a lame thing to say, but I hope you're feeling better today. Would it help to go into detail, to get it straight in your head?

5inthesleighbed · 14/12/2009 11:34

Oh my goodness, how awful for you! Did they keep you in until they removed the stitch again? You poor thing.

I had a few small holes in my scar after having ds2 and had to be careful for a few weeks, but nothing compared to what you've been through.

Northernlebkuchen · 14/12/2009 11:36

Good grief! That sounds terrible - don't try and be brave, you've had a horrible time. I think you need to speak to professionals about all of this. All I can say is I'm sure that you will get through this and you won't always feel like you do now.

Lulumama · 14/12/2009 14:05

oh my god ! was it a prolapse?

you;ve had a really tough time , haven't you?

pleeeeeeeeeeeeeease get an appt with birth afterthoguhts or someone to go through all this

if you want to type it all out here , go right ahead

not surprised you are tearful and anxious

Mincepiedermama · 14/12/2009 14:08

Oh my God Mosschops!!!

What a horrible, shocking experience for you. You've had trauma after trauma by the sound of it. You need some serious recovery time. If you are having anxiety attacks, maybe you could get some counselling on the NHS because you've had such a shocking time of it.

Sending good vibes. xx

GhoulsAreLoud · 14/12/2009 14:09

oh mosschops how awful, hope you are feeling a bit better xxx

AngryFromManchester · 14/12/2009 14:11

oh my lord

your poor thing

AngryFromManchester · 14/12/2009 14:11

I meant you poor thing, not your

OmicronPersei8 · 14/12/2009 14:53

Oh my goodness, mosschops, poor you. I hope that from now on it all gets better, you've had one rough time of it. I hope you're getting lots of tlc, this must be so much to have to take in.

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mosschops30 · 14/12/2009 15:21

yes i can safely say that catching ur insides in your hands with your dh watching in horro is indeed the stuff nightmares are made of.
I am having trouble dealing with it, if it enters my head i cant seem to get it out and i get panicky and breathless, normally happens if i wake up at night.
I have been offered a counselling session with the advanced midwifery practitioners who ive had a lot to do with in hospital, and also a consultant appointment. I have also had unlimited access to my notes.

I am unsure as to whether i will be able to return to my job, at the moment i cant bear the thought of returning to theatres.

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Mincepiedermama · 14/12/2009 15:38

Don't think about the future mosschops. Just think about the present and how you are going to recover.

AngryFromManchester · 14/12/2009 16:25

I would definately go for the counselling. Will dh go too?

MamaLazarou · 14/12/2009 17:59

My god, you poor woman. That must have been horrendous.

Sending you hugs and best wishes for a speedy recovery. Look after yourself XXX

LilRedWG · 14/12/2009 18:03

Oh Mosschops, I am so sorry that you are having to go through this.

MarsLady · 14/12/2009 18:07

lou031205 · 14/12/2009 20:16

Lucky you knew what to do - hope you get well soon x

scottishmummy · 14/12/2009 20:26

oh dear god,how awful.take each day,minute as it comes

now isnt time for what if's
ask for some debrief and counselling.individual ax of your needs and a support plan to help you achieve closure. good they are letting you access notes and consultants. i hoped you can find some peace.this has been awful for you

consider some debrief and support for your husband too

do you have a side room,some privacy?

expatinscotland · 14/12/2009 20:30

how awful for you, mosschops!

you poor soul.

i'm with scottishmummy here, one day at a time.

thinking of you and sending you healing vibes.

ABudafulSightWereHappyTonight · 14/12/2009 20:37

God. You poor poor thing. That sounds horrendous. As others have said - get as much help as you need. Type it all out here.

butterscotch · 14/12/2009 20:40

Blimey sounds awful hope you have a speedy recovery xxx

wonderingwondering · 14/12/2009 20:46

I had a pretty awful birth (I'm not trying to compare) but just to say - I had flashbacks and panic attacks about it afterwards. But they subsided, although it took some time. And I got back to normal, and so will you. It is really early days to be thinking about how you'll cope in your job.

What you have been through is unexpected, traumatic: it is like a serious car accident, and no-one would expect you to bounce back from that in a few days, weeks or even months.

Take care of yourself, give yourself time to work through it: take the counselling (I didn't, and regretted it). And I wish you a speedy recovery.

IckleJess · 14/12/2009 20:57

OMG - you poor thing. I can't believe what happened - did the scar not heal at all then?

You need some sort of de-briefing - I know you were struggling anyway with how your labour/emcs went but to have to deal with the horror of this on top is just too much.

Please take up the offer of counselling and have someone go through your notes with you, you can't be expected to cope with all this and look after (and more importantly enjoy) your new son.

Look after yourself, easier said than done I know, and give yourself time to deal with it.

And please, please take up the offer of help to deal with things.

saltyseadog · 14/12/2009 21:01

Oh mosschops you poor old thing. Sending you heaps of get well vibes, and as everyone else wisely says take one day at a time.

Lulumama · 14/12/2009 22:19

do not even think of or contemplate or address the idea of work

right now, concentrate on getting physically and mentally healed, with as much support as you can get

xxx

MadameDuBain · 14/12/2009 22:26

Oh no! how awful for you. But I know someone this happened to (though following a different op, not CS) She described it exactly as you did, but she was alone and had to wait for an ambulance lying on the floor. Obviously she was incredibly traumatised but I want you to know she laughs about it now and is fully over it. I think you're right that you have to go over it in your head and work through it, however you can, and it will lose its power to upset you.

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