mosschops childbirth drama (part 2) - dont read if of nervous disposition!

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so after you thought it couldnt get any worse after 4 day induction, 12 hour labour and an emcs ...... it did!

The MW removed my stitch, and all was fine for a few hours, then i sat on the toilet and called dh saying 'i can feel my scar pulling',
dh said 'no its fine'
i said 'you have to lift me off the toilet now'
and then as I stood up dh said 'see its fine' and then i felt it go and he looked rather pale as he said 'oh no its not'!
I carried my insides across the landing shouting 'CALL AN AMBULANCE'.
Was rushed to hospital and back to theatre (where i was subjected again to care from colleagues ).
I couldnt move for 2 days and was eventually persuaded out of bed by my supervisor who walked me to the toilet
Ive spent another 5 days in hospital.

Its been horrendous, I am very tearful about it, am having sonme sort of anxiety attacks about the event but just needed to come on here and start working things out in my own head and thought this would be a start, even though i hacvent gone into much detail, in parts it was far worse, and in others far better than ive probably made out

Jeez mosschops I'm really sorry you are having such a horrible time when you should be enjoying the early days with your baby.

Echo everyone else, don't even begin to think about work and talk talk talk until it feels somewhat better, (if that's possible)

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thank you all for such lovely posts.

I have been home now for just over a week, i was in for 4 nights following the wound opening, i was given a private room eventually (spent 2 nights in recovery without baby as was just too ill).

Apparently they suture you up in 3 layers, the uterus, the abdo sheath then the outside. Although the outside was healing, the suture that was holding the sheath had snapped in the middle so as soon as the outside stitch was removed there was nothing to hold it all in. According to the docs this almost never happens, and the suture batch was fine, and it was still tied both ends so not doctors mistake either, just a rogue suture apparently.

I will go for counselling, i know i will need it. I am hopin dh will go too as he was quite disturbed by it all at the time although he hid it from me well . I will also be making a complaint about one particular midwife who really should think more carefully about what she says in the ear-range of patients

I have to say that for all the timed ive come on here and slagged dh off for minor crappyn things, when the shit hit the fan he was (and is) the most amazing dh ever! He has done so much, im not sure i'll ever be able to let him know how grateful I am, I know it sounds pathetic but he really has been what you dream your dh would be like in that sort of situation

oh and when they re-sutured they used some mega strength suture thats not normally used for CS.
I was also heavily stapled on the outside thism time rather than sewn and they were left in a lot longer. The staples are out now which makes me nervous, i hold my scar a lot of the time, but hopefully as time goes on i will feel safer about it all. Its been 2 weeks tomorrow since my re-suturing so i have to try and think that it would have gone by now, but its hard to have faith

I am glad to hear that you are recovering physically now, mosschops - I am aghast at what you have been through and I do hope that the hospital helps you and your dh debrief properly so that you can recover properly from the emotional and psychological effects too.

I hope you feel better soon.

I am glad your dh was so supportive mosschops and I hope the counselling goes well for you both x

out her c section scar

lol yes out of my cs scar reading my notes it was 15cm of stuff, dh says it looked like a big tongue .

Bloody hell Mosschops, that's horrific.

How, though, is your little man doing? Hopefully unaffected by all the drama?

That is IT! I am keeping this baby in.

Mosschops, glad to hear your hubby managed to help you through it all. You two are very brave and deserve a good ol' voddie (if you're allowed that is). (and even if you're not).

Errrm - you may not be able to keep the baby in indefinitely, Tomatefarcie.

OMG

Glad to hear that you're back home now. I hope the recovery goes smoothly from here onwards.

Take the counselling, you don't want these events to change the whole rest of your life.

Well done to your fabby DH.

oh yes am planning on a very drunken xmas at the in-laws, cant go out so will have to make do!

and its not always this bad, i had two normal vaginal deliveries before this. I think i should be paraded around though as an advert against c sections being percieved as the 'easy option', id rather push em out any day

oh and little one is every inch the perfect baby, already going 6 hours at night, only eats and sleeps, only cries when hungry. Maybe babies just know when mummy has been through enough

I stopped breathing reading this thread

Dear me Mosschops, I reckon most of us reading this thread are never going near a hospital / man ever again, so it's not surprising you are in a great deal of shock. These are really early days to be dealing with this sort of thing.

Absolutely no advice whatsoever, just be gentle with yourself.

aw, moss, hope things are getting a little better for you. I didn't realise you had a baby recently. Congrats on teh new baby.

You poor thing. Unbelievably grim and traumatic and, as such, very hard to get over. Do whatever you need to do to process it. I recommend writing it ALL down, beginning to end, grim truth and all. Have a record. Ask people to read if you feel you need people to 'know' what really happened; sometimes that helps. Equally, get some counselling. It will help allow you to process an incredibly traumatic experience.

As someone who had scar 'issues' - a haematoma behind mine which forced one end open and leaked blood for six weeks - I can sympathise. My experience was nowhere near as traumatic as yours experience but I do understand your nervousness and lack of faith in the scar's ability to stay healed and together. I taped over mine long after it was healed. I used micropore steri strips which I would place along the length of the scar. They're waterproof so you can wear them in the shower (although they do come off when soaked in the bath - I just replaced them) and obviously breathable). My GP smirked when he saw them and scoffed that I didn't need them (unsympathetic b*stard) but psychologically I did. I KNEW my scar was healed but the experience of it open and leaking blood for weeks on end stayed with me and I wanted to be sure. The steri strips reassured me that if the scar WERE to open I'd have strips in place to help. As I said, purely psychological but it helped. It might be worth you trying the same as you may be less inclined to hold your scar. I also used to (very gently) rub bio oil on my scar every day which really helped change my 'relationship' with it. I stopped being frightened of that area and it became my skin again; my poor, traumatised skin.

I'm sorry you had such a rough time. It's just rotten, rotten luck that it happened to you but you will get through it with time and help and kindness.