Hi Fairywing,
Sort of feel bad posting this but you asked for honest non-fluffy tales....
Gave birth in July to DD. Was told at 34 weeks that she would be big. Had 3 scans prior to birth and each one estimated her at 12lbs+! Also had excess fluid and was absolutely huge. That said I am tall and medical team were convinced I would handle a 12pounder no problem.
Went into labour spontaniously at 2 days overdue. All the signs were good - perfect position etc etc.
Spent 52 hours in labour and dialated fully only for Consultant to realise that actually DD had wide shoulders which were stuck above the rim and her head wasn't even pressing on cervix. So off to theater for an emergency C section. Section was fine and she came out shouting (no distress at all despite long labour and lots and lots of pain releif/had it all) and had apgar score of 8 at 1min and 10 at 5mins.
I recovered quickly from section and needed no pain killers after (after 52hrs labour nothing really hurts anymore...).
DD is beautiful and she breastfed immediately out of theater (within 30mins of being born).
However she was "only" 9lbs 4oz but 22inches long with wide shoulders. So despite the 3 late scans and a uterus which measured 48centimeters a week before due date, she was only a little larger than average and certainly no where near 12lbs!
So all was well - I was like you, very concerned about the size and lots of midwives wincing everytime I came for antenatal apps etc.
Don't worry about that - as size is often incorrect and lots of ladies give birth naturally to far larger babies.
Its not nice though when medical staff wince and suck in air when they read your notes and discuss size of your baby. Try to ignore.
Water birth is meant to be the thing for getting a large baby out - heyho I wanted one too and ended up with the section (which I absolutely didn't want - my worst case).
I was dead against a section and wept buckets when I was wheeled into theater (drug, no sleep for 2 days may also have been at play). That said it wasn't bad at all.
Try to go into the whole birth with an open mind of "what happens, happens" and as long as you get baby out and you're both in good health it doesn't actually matter.
We're all afraid of sections now and being labelled "too posh to push" etc and its really really unfair! I gave it my all and was at it for a record time and there really was no choice for me but to go ahead with section.
Other than open mindedness about type of birth, I recommend only that if matters don't progress as quickly as anticipated, don't wait and hang on in there, just have the section early on (you'll save yourself from pelvic floor issues and damaged stomach muscles).
All the best with it and I hope your little one is beatiful.
xxx