Did you / would let your DH see the baby being born, I mean at the" far end" ??

[Summerfruit]

I'll be interested to know as I'm having this debate with the friend..Personnaly, I didn't want DH seeing the dds coming out, I mean I didn't want him to have a direct view on it. What are your views ?

[crokky]

DH watched both come out at the business end!

My mum watched the first one come out at the business end as well but for the second birth, she had to look after my first child instead

However, it is not for all men - some are not suited to the experience. Some men are best left at home, some are best just for hand holding and some like to watch the whole lot - I think you just have to see how the man feels.

[harpsichordcarrier]

er, yes, why not?

[Claire236]

dh saw ds coming out & wants to do the same thing this time round. I let him decide where he wanted to be with ds & he said it was amazing watching him being born. He also stopped telling me I was a baby when I said anything hurt as he decided anyone who could give birth must have a pretty high pain threshold.

[ilovemydogandmrobama]

Gumbo

Was sure the delivery suite where DS was born was a throughway for the canteen

[expatinscotland]

Yes, he even watched my forceps birth.

He didn't get to see DS being born, though, as he had to stay with the girls and so I gave birth on my own.

[littleducks]

NO NO NO NO!!!!!
with dd i had it my way and dh didnt see her till she was all out and passed to me (a bit like on tv)

ds was delivered at home by paramedics so dh saw

he also took graphic pics from head end aspect but with umbilical cord on my legs etc, which i found out about after my dad (who works for photo company) downloaded pics form camera to his laptop to print for me

[littlebrownmouse]

Yes, DH fully involved both times even though DS (first born) was a section. He asked if he could watch and was looking round the screen. I'll never forget him saying "Oooh, I can see your bladder!" and the midwife saying "that's not her baldder, its a fatty deposit!" THANKS!

With DD (second born) I had one foot on his shoulder and one foot on the midwife's shoulder and he was telling me what was going on while saying "Its amazing!" a lot. There's no way I could have told him to stay at my head end, he was desparate to see it all.

[LuluMaman]

DH was very interested.

when I had a c.s with DS, he gave me a running commentary... even when being stitched up.. 'oh honey ,i think i saw your pancreas'


with DD , who was a vagianl birth, he was practically barging the midwife out of the way.. he was great , encouarger me to look at her head and touch her when she had crowned.. which was amazing

no regrets from either of us.

although when he sidled up to me and whispered, i still fancy you.. i nearly punched him.. 2 hours post birth, the thought of ever doing that again...

he was amazing, and it was a really good positive experience for us both

[Hangingbellyofbabylon]

fgs - -presumably you've had sex with the guy in order to be pregnant?- why on earth would you then have hang -ups about him seeing the baby born? It is truly magical, shit, blood, mucous and all.

[notnowbernard]

Yes

It never crossed my mind to stop him from doing so

He said it was "mental" seeing them being born... (in a good way, there were tears and all )

[TrinityRhinoHasASillyStepson]

I didn't even think about it

I wanted him there with me and he can look and partake as much as he wanted

he was very interested and he watched the whole thing and then discussed the placenta with the midwife

[PinkTulips]

i didn't with dd and he was very respectful of that and stayed up by my head and made a point of not looking.

with both boys he saw the full show though (my dignity was long gone at that point so i figured what the hell ) and he enjoyed those births alot more and still gets excited talking about seeing them emerge... he was so overcome with excitement when ds1 was born he cut the cord which he'd previously said he had no interest in doing.... then with ds2 he was asking in advance to cut the cord again

birth is messy and horrendous anyway whether they see down there or not and dp definitely felt alot more involved and emotional by seeing them be born

[angrypixie]

My DH is a head end kind of Guy, his choice. Lots of mopping of the brow (really had to bite my tongue from yelling Piss Off With The Flannel) and holding my hand.

He was so terrified by the c-section (dc3) that he stared long and hard into my eyes whilst I was watching the action reflected in the shiny surface of the lights above the consultant.

[Mamazon]

xp practically had his head in there with DS when he was born.
i think he was a bit shellshocked by it all.

He still decided to stay up the buisness end for DD though so it couldn't have been that terrible.

I can't understand why you'd not want him to see.

I know someone who took a mirrir to the delivery room with her so that she could see it all too.

now that is just plain freaky if you ask me. i could feel myself ripping in two, don't think i'd want to see it too

[ExtraFancy]

I think mine sort of watched from over the MW's shoulder- by the time my DS was born with a shoulder dystocia, he was the 11th person in the room so not much of a view for DH

[blueshoes]

My dh peeped over the tent during my elective cs - he could not resist. He takes it to his grave

[bobblehat]

My dh is another one who wanted to be at the head end for ds1. He didn't get the option with ds2 as labour went really quickly and he ended up delivering him!

[barnsleybelle]

DH was with me for both births but chose not stand at the business end. TBH i wouldn't have cared who was there watching as long as they got them out!!!

[girlynut]

During my first labour I wanted DH to stay well away from the gory bits. But in the end the midwife told him to grab a leg so he saw the whole thing, including me having a poo (mortifying!) In hindsight we were both really pleased he got to see DS1 being born.

During second labour I was in a birthing pool at home so nobody could see much, not even the midwife. However, DH got an eyeful whilst I was being stitched up on the sofa afterwards. He even complimented the midwife on her embroidery skills and told her she'd made it look "much neater"!!