ok - third childbirth....

[Leannabanana]

tell me the truth.....does it get worse each time?? come on you third birthers... hit me with it....xx

i bow to your superior birthing powers dottyaboutstripes....six??? I have six months to get used to the idea of giving birth again but it must be said that at the minute it sends a shiver of dread up my spine...i just remember this awful moment in my last labour when i realised that i was going to have to push....and then my body remembered how much this hurt and OOOOHHHH the pain....cripes....selective section anyone??

My third was the easiest and fastest of all four. Had a long early labour at home, was 6 cm when I arrived and had him 3 hours later. He was also my biggest at 9.9.

My 3rd was harder than the 2nd but she was much bigger. I had a 4th and it was fine.

personally I thought my 3rd was worse because my childcare fell through so I had dd2 (then 18 months old) on my mums lap, in the room (not as I planned or wanted but it was so fast) I think that stress made it worse for me.

Everyone is different - try not to worry (yay, easier said than done I know!) I phoned Sheila Kitzinger for some advice pre-labour no.4 and she was fab with advice. Her number/email is on her site

I'll confess that I am cacking myself! But also reminding myself that it only lasts for a really short time in the grand scheme of things!

im due my 3rd on may 9th and i think reality is finally kicking in.
i feel more nervous this time, probably because i can remember more.
the first time your a bit naive about the pain the 2nd time i remembered how much it hurt halfway through. this time im under no illusions.
people seem to be telling me more horror stories this time.
i actually spent 2 days crying about the fear of it all.
my other 2 were fine apart from tearing. from stories ive been told im either going to give birth on the toilet or end up having major complications...aargh!!! im not normally a panicky person but im feeling quite distressed this time!!

Trust your body....you were designed to do this job....

S&EsMum I know how you feel. I am due DC3 on 1st May and have been avoiding the subject in my mind - 1st I was oblivious (in a good way), half way through the second I remembered how bad it got and this time I am quite worried because I know what I am letting myself in for ! Things I am trying to do are

1. Reading up on Hypnobirthing
2. Reassuring myself that I have done it twice before, and survived !
3. Not thinking about it too much, so that I can rely on my body to 'take over' when it does start
4. I have opted for a HB to try and stay on my own territory / environment
5. I am now so fed up with being pregnant, I am actually hoping to go into labour so that I can get on with meeting LO and getting my body back !

HTH