I have had 3 sections, thought I was cool with it but why do I feel well, deflated when I hear of another friend having a normal delivery?

[mumofdjandbabies]

I just feel kind of sad that Ill never know the experience of a normal birth tho I sure did try

When talking about my friend's delivery I should of course have added that I was delighted for her that she had a fab birth and a gorgeous daughter

I like orangina's dentist analogy - this is as someone who had a wisdom tooth that was causing a lot of discomfort out recently. My bf kept saying things like "Well, I've never had any problems with my wisdom teeth" in a suspicious tone, as if I was inventing the whole thing so I could have an afternoon in hospital

Same bf is pregnant for the first time and keeping up a continuous monologue of "I'm so exhausted, I can't eat this, I can't eat that, no of course I can't come to the party ... I'm pregnant".

I certainly didn't find pregnancy so debilitating. But I say nothing. We all experience things differently. 'tis not a competition [trite but true emoticon]

mooseheart - if its any consolation, i believe that many women who have never had a VD still have problems " down there" which are pg or age related eg stress incontinence

so you dont need to feel too

it gets you one way or another

Oh really? That does make me feel better. Cheers Kristina.

I felt very sad after my third cs. I even had a thread about it (new name since). I had wanted a VBAC, but it wasn't to be, and in some ways I wish I had never tried for one, because my middle childs planned cs was the best. I sobbed my heart out through this last one.

I do feel better than I did, though.I just sort of zone out childbirth conversations.

for example, this study shows that women who had 3 or more CS has a similar prevalence of incontinence to those with a SVD

hi, I went to mr obs today and I will have an elective c-section on Monday at 37+4... the reasons are that my baby is too small,I was scheduled for a c-section anyway due to having a high risk pregnancy... but i am very worried that it is a bit to early and my hubby wants us to wait for another week. I am so confused and a bit stressed! help

I'm starting to meditate such people out of my life. Ohhhmmmmmmmm

Misscampbell please don't get stressed, get all the information together again, talk to a midwife and not the consultant who will be able to explain the reasons for an early cs in probably a more sympathetic way, take dh along so he can listen too. Don't panic. If you want some more support feel free to start a new thread and the collective power and wisdom on MN will help you through. Good luck.