Friend who is a midwife has asked if I want her to deliver my baby, what do I do?

[SaveFerris]

This is my third baby. My friend is a very experienced midwife and has said she will put herself 'on call' for me from 36 weeks and deliver my baby, if that is what I want.

I have many reasons for and against. Would I ever be able to sit with here again and enjoy a glass of wine without thinking she has seen me go through childbirth? What if I say no and have a dreadful midwife at the actual birth?

My prev 2 labours were fine. 2.5 hours from start to finish, no drugs, no tears etc. So I am also thinking I cannot be that lucky again and perhsp if I am going to go through hell I would want a friend as well as DH around.

Would you e inclined to want a friend deliver you?

i would jump at the chance too, equally i could understand it if you didn't want a close friend looking at your fanjo

lol I didnt poo with either of mine
If shes bothered about fanjo's, shes in the wrong job!!! and she wouldnt have offered. However, Id probably say yes out of politeness (I have a huge need to please people ) but then secretly hope it didnt happen as Im v body conscious.
Jeez, its a good job this post isnt a lonely hearts add about me - I sound like a real fruit cake!

Sounds like a lovely idea, you could be more relaxed because she knows you, and have plenty of time to talk about it in the run up...

But how can she guarantee to be on call? Would she just go sick from her job?
Or is she independent? In which case would she want you to pay her?