Low intervention - homebirth

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Hi. Just wondering if any ladies are currently pregnant and planning a homebirth?

I have self referred and noted on my form that I’ll be having a homebirth. I have my first booking appointment in 2 weeks.

Just looking for some positive stories on the process so far and how to navigate avoiding landing on the intervention conveyor belt.

not looking for opinions from people who are against homebirth/haven’t experienced it

I haven’t read the whole thread but have seen that you’re going to decline the 12 week scan. As someone who had severe abnormalities on the 12 week scan (evident even without screening tests or further intervention) I would urge you to consider the implications of not having that information until 20 weeks. It was an awful situation for me to be in, but I had time to process the information, decide what to do etc, which having spoken to women who get bad news at the 20 week scan, is a very different experience and they have told me felt like a race against the clock. Hope all goes well for you.

@Parker231 Epidurals just make it all so bearable! I went to sleep too!

When people say this they seem to forget that the invention of hand/tool washing and antibiotics has played a massive part in saving lives. Birth in hospital is not inherently safer.

Would you decline/deny medical care for your child when they’re here? Because that’s what you’re doing now. It’s not just about you, there’s a baby’s life involved in this. Being a parent is about making selfless decisions. Yes you’d be more comfortable without midwives touching you, none of us LIKE the examinations and monitoring, but it could be the difference between a healthy baby or not. So we do it for our baby. To make sure they’re okay. There’s two of you involved in this. It’s selfish, you’re thinking about what you want ahead of your baby’s needs. Not the way to approach parenthood. You don’t sound ready to be a parent.

Birth at home by all means if you’re low risk, but for gods sake don’t deny care from the midwives. There’s two of you involved in this and the baby is relying on you to make the best decisions for THEM, above what the best decisions for you are. Birth is about ending up with a healthy baby, not about a nice experience for you. None of us like it, we’d all prefer to sit in a bath with whale sounds on, we do it for our child.

The most important thing about giving birth is to have a healthy baby and a healthy mother. Birth outcomes decline with age.

15 years ago, a lovely friend of mine was 31 - first child, low risk, wanted to have a home birth and booked a home birth.

During birth, she had a massive placental abruption and Leah was dead before the could get to hospital.

Before anyone says that's unusual - I also had a huge placental abruption during my son's birth and thankfully I was in hospital.

You would be very silly to have a baby at your age outside a hospital setting.

Leah was the baby who died - rather than my friend.