Low intervention - homebirth

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Hi. Just wondering if any ladies are currently pregnant and planning a homebirth?

I have self referred and noted on my form that I’ll be having a homebirth. I have my first booking appointment in 2 weeks.

Just looking for some positive stories on the process so far and how to navigate avoiding landing on the intervention conveyor belt.

not looking for opinions from people who are against homebirth/haven’t experienced it

The stats are free on google for you to see.

A final note - unless someone comments answering my original question about wanting to know if any currently pregnant women are planning homebirth or any women sharing their homebirth experience then I’m not going to respond.

I started this thread as I was genuinely curious to hear women’s experiences as I am planning a homebirth - yes I ticked the home birth box when I completed my referral form, yes I know things don’t always go to plan. Unfortunately 95% of responses are from intolerant judgemental people who cannot possibly fathom that some women do things differently.

I chose to respond to some of these comments and ignore a lot - to then be accused of ignoring peoples (unwanted) advice - oh the irony, especially because my initial question has been completely ignored and I’m left perplexed wondering why people would comment on a thread that clearly isn’t for them.

Well I’m sure you’re all feeling very smug about giving your unwanted advice, the truth is you’ve just made yourself look like nasty judgemental pieces of work who cannot read.

Seeing as you all love a bit of unwanted advice and opinions, I’ll give mine - next time you see a thread that isn’t for you, just move on. If I wanted to know the downsides to homebirth and low interventions then I would have asked that question! Instead this thread has unintentionally become that so yeah, thanks for that!

Lastly, thank you to the ladies that read and understood my OP and answered appropriately, I have found a Facebook group so will read through the stories on there. It’s a shame that homebirthers can’t have that same experience on here.

if I haven’t answered it’s because this thread is about hearing from other women who are planning on or have had a Homebirth. It’s not a thread about my so called horrific traumatic birth that you people desperately want for me.

She said

”should an emergency arise then plans would change.”

it’s not harassing to point out that plans might have to change in a non-emergency situation. Including in a way that means the baby wouldn’t get to choose its own birth date.

how is what I said harassing?

It’s harassing because I’ve clearly asked several times to keep this post about homebirth - and what does it matter to you what my exact plans are to manage and react to potential risks and changes?

As you lovely delightful people have pointed out so many times having a plan is naive because so much can change during pregnancy.
Why are you so desperate to know specifically what I would do should I be faced with having a potential induction? What has that got to do with homebirth?

MN doesn't really support echo chambers

Very little of that here though. A couple of posts were a bit full on but mostly it's people trying to grt OP to think far more sensibly about her apparently massively naive plans.

Now since the early posts OP has come back and said she doesn't actually feel as completely locked in as her early posts clearly implied. But people were reacting to the tone of those first posts.

It matters to me because I planned a home birth and my baby died and I didn’t get it and I am trying to make sure you consider all possibilities so that you don’t end up in the same situation.

I’m not and never will be again a girl.

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's important the OP and others saying she's being 'harassed' see this. Especially as OP said she's 'open to the possibility of an emergency.' what does that even mean? She won't get the midwife's check her anyway.

I think it's borderline irresponsible to have this mind set.

Maybe if I’d had a 36 week scan, for example, he wouldn’t have died. It was 20 odd years ago and that wasn’t offered then. I would never decline any routine scan that the nhs does. As an example.

What was massively naive was the tone of the early posts that stated with absolute certainty how it would go.

That is what OP has come back and said actually she didn't mean. So yes, she isn't as naive as she initially very clearly appeared to be. To me and to many.

I've got no issue with her choices and intentions. They wouldn't be mine but that's irrelevant. It was the apparent insistence they would definitely happen and that it would all be in her gift to plan that was daft. Which, as I say again, OP has sensibly rowed back from.

Rubbish.

I was just about to say this.

I’ve been reading this thread just out of sheer interest - I adopted and have never birthed, either at home or anywhere else.

But I cannot bare “girls girls.” How desperately sexist. Like we all share one brain cell.

Yeah no that's not what happened

Yes it is! I asked a question about Homebirth and homebirth only. Then you guys pounced assuming that I hadn’t considered all possibilities and called me naive when the fact is this post is about HOMEBIRTH. If I wanted to know more about every single eventuality I would’ve started the thread ‘Homebirth and every single possible thing that could go wrong in pregnancy and birth, in hospital and at home’
My mistake here was not sticking to the HB thread, and giving you guys grace by answering some questions in short hand - frankly none were any of your busienss

I’ve also opted for home birth this time but I understand that it might not be a possibility so I am preparing for hospital stay too. (Recent stay in hospital has made me realised that I need to keep birthing plan fluid)

our local hospital is actively advising for home births because they are just so under staffed and openly admit that c sections are offered to get women through the conveyor belt.

there is so much resistance in home birth I don’t understand it. But being well advised is a sensible approach.

we will have two midwives with us and have discussed that my partner will ‘deliver’ the baby with guidance of the midwives. This is really special for us. midwives will monitor baby but not intervene unless medical need.

nearer the time, your midwife team should offer you a home visit to talk you through any concerns.

the most important thing is that you can change your mind. Keep open minded, as other posters have said, you really don’t know what’s going to happen but I wish you luck !