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Haven't even got to childbirth yet, days away, and already the labour ward have let me down.. I'm getting really upset about it.,

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mumblesmummy · 11/05/2008 13:21

Had a HORRIBLE experience today. Waters sort of gushed in the night, some clear, some pink, and some with streaks of blood in. I woke up DP and my mum (we were staying at mums). Mum rang the labour ward and they said to get some sleep and come down before 9.

We went down at about half 8 and have just returned home now. The labour ward was so packed that they had one baby, new mum and her visitors in the waiting room. The baby was even left unattended at one point. It was diabolical.

The midwives kept going on about how they were so rushed off their feet and there was a queue of people waiting for my room.

They did a heartbeat check, then swapped midwives, so I'd explained the situation twice. She then got me to explain it a further two times. She did a fetal heart monitor and baby was fine, but I was getting regular contractions. She asked if they hurt and I said they felt like bad period pain. I was going to be sick and felt very light headed, and she said 'oh you just look so miserable, honestly'. Funnily enough, I was bloody miserable. She then called my gush 'a show' despite the fact I had one with the consultant, then 2 whopping great plugs came out yesterday.

She did a speculum, didn't go anywhere near my cervix but claimed it was still closed and long. Despite the fact I was 2cms dilated the other day.

She then said I had an infection, and asked if that's what I'd seen the night before, I said no and explained AGAIN what had happened and she disregarded it and said my waters hadn't gone and it was just discharge or wee, and went off to see the doctor. We were left waiting ages yet again and then a doctor came in, made me tell the whole stroy AGAIN, and said he thought they'd keep me over night to monitor the baby but he'd see the registrar.

The other midwife came back and said that I would be sent home with amoxycillin for a water infection- despite the fact I've had it over and over again and it's never cleared the water infection. It's a lower dose than the one I took last week that didn't work... so what's the point?

She then told me to go and wait in a PACKED waiting room where there were no seats and seemed to find it hillarious and took the piss when I sat in someone else's seat by accident. She then said 'there are seats outside you know, go and wait out there'.

I'd really seen my arse with her by this point and told her I was not happy and she got all attitudey about it.

I had a big long cry with mum and DP because I was so frustrated and then the midwife came out and spoke to me and said I could stay in if I was in such a state. I said I'd let her know later today.

But I am NOT going back there. I'm not even going about waters. The first midwife told me my waters would have broken but not the bit round the baby's head and so I would be induced in the morning to prevent infection. The second said they hadn't broken and I just have an infected fanjo with green discharge which she called 'nasty yucky discharge' and showed me. Cheers luv.

So I'm not going if my waters fully break because there's no point. Everytime I've been to the labour ward for anything this pregnancy they've fobbed me off because they're 'busy'. So I'm going to leave it until my contractions are so bad I feel like I can't live any longer, and then I'll go.

If that doesn't happen before Thursday I'm getting induced (as arranged with consultant last week), so now I'm TERRIFIED about that because I don't want to be in that pathetic labour ward a second longer than I have to be.

My GP midwife had told me to stay in the hospital for longer than just the day because of DPs cousin dying after child birth last year as obviously we'd all be anxious, but I'm not, I'm getting out as soon possible.

The midwife I saw today who was so crappy even admitted that she hadn't done her job well enough if she'd left me in tears and she should have put my mind at rest.

So overall I'm worried about the state of the overcrowded labour ward, and I'm worried my baby will get an infection from me and that my waters have gushed with pink bits and blood and still no one will take me seriously.

Sorry for the VERY long rant, and well done if you managed to get through it all. How on earth can I just chill out and get a grip so that I'm not this wound up in labour? I know they'll mess it up, the always do there, and there's been HUNDREDS of stillbirths lately, in the paper all the time.

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nappyaddict · 24/05/2008 19:49

really hope everything's ok. even if she had the longest labour ever, resulting in a section, then having to stay in for 5 days she should have been back by today at the latest.

pregnabrain · 24/05/2008 21:51

I wonder / worry about mumbles every day. No posts on the May 2008 thread from her since all this happened.

Really hope all is well.

VaginaShmergina · 24/05/2008 22:03

Mumbles, I dont know you but have read this thread and really feel for you.

Pregnancy and childbirth are such a scary thing sometimes and it seems you were getting very little reassurance at all.

I hope all is well and will watch and wait with interest.

nappyaddict · 24/05/2008 22:16

i've been thinking pregna - a lot of people don't post until 1-2 weeks after they give birth cos they're just so busy. i'm keeping my fingers crossed that there'll be a post by the monday after this one.

pregnabrain · 25/05/2008 18:57

True. Keeping everything crossed for her.

mears · 25/05/2008 21:11

would love to hear from her soon

Yurtgirl · 25/05/2008 21:17

Thinking of you Mumbles

Orissiah · 30/05/2008 05:10

Any news, Mumbles? Anyone heard anything?

nappydappy · 04/06/2008 17:05

Just saw that mumblesmummy had had her baby! - thread here

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