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If you've had a c section..could you answer these for me?

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anonny55 · 16/02/2025 22:04

I'm due my elective section in 10 days (first baby)
If you've had one please could you answer..

  • ahead of surgery, do I need to remove my lash extensions and gel polish nails?
  • how was the walk out of hospital when you left..it seems quite a long way to walk from the post natal ward to the car park in my hospital and I'm worried I'll struggle
  • what was required for you to be able to do before you could be discharged?
  • how was the first night (we aren't allowed birth partner to stay at my hospital) did you struggle to see to baby? Was the midwife's on hand to help?
  • if you was on the afternoon list, what time did you go down for your surgery? (I've been asked to arrive to the hospital at 12pm)
  • how long after the section did you have to get up and take your first walk? How was it? Any tips to make it easier?
  • what painkillers did you have post op? Was you sent home with any strong painkillers or just told to have paracetamol?
  • was it hard sitting on the toilet etc after to wee?
  • how long after section did you have your first shower and how did you find it?
  • how long after the section was you discharged?
  • what did you find the hardest of the whole experience?
Any tips to aid my recovery would be greatly appreciated too☺️
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anonny55 · 16/02/2025 23:12

@Hellohowareyou112 my bad just checked it is dihydrocodeine (sorry if spelt that wrong) so I should be able to have that? Alongside ibuprofen and paracetamol every 2hrs too? Thanks, will grab some movicol this week and bring with me!

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wooliegloves · 16/02/2025 23:13

The planned one was the most amazing experience of my life. This was 5 weeks ago. I would re-live it a million times over :) best of luck to you xx

Are you still high? 😆

TallulaSpeakEaay · 16/02/2025 23:15

First question about C Section recovery is about your eyelashes and nails? Wow 🫣

WaltzingWaters · 16/02/2025 23:15

I’d just like to recommend peppermint tea and dried fruits (apricots helped me). Works wonders with the trapped wind and being able to 💩 the first couple days afterwards. (Sorry, not glamorous I know!)

anonny55 · 16/02/2025 23:15

WanzieMrsA · 16/02/2025 23:11

Sorry also to add, do you have a v shaped pillow? I took mine with me and that was really helpful! It's hard to get comfy sometimes on your back isn't it and I don't think hospitals have enough pillows to go around!

I do! Midwife has said I can take in my own pillows if id like so will definitely take it along

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AngelinaFibres · 16/02/2025 23:16

anonny55 · 16/02/2025 22:51

@WanderingDreamingSpires since I can't get up supposedly for a while I'm worried I'll take the lactulose before the section and sh*t myself before I'm able to get up and get myself to the toilet😂😂

The drugs they give you during and after the section will bung you up. Highly unlikely you'll shit yourself even if you'd consumed the whole battle of lactulose. Lactulose is given to small children. It's pretty useless really.

LemonViewer · 16/02/2025 23:17

• ahead of surgery, do I need to remove my lash extensions and gel polish nails?
Not to my knowledge but I don't wear these so not sure.
• how was the walk out of hospital when you left..it seems quite a long way to walk from the post natal ward to the car park in my hospital and I'm worried I'll struggle
I was fine, just a bit slow
• what was required for you to be able to do before you could be discharged?
I stood up the next day and walked around. I had to wee in a pot to show I could do it (ie that feeling had returned etc I guess and all working ok)
• how was the first night (we aren't allowed birth partner to stay at my hospital) did you struggle to see to baby? Was the midwife's on hand to help?
If was lovely, the midwife's helped me, they lifted baby and changed him for me.
• if you was on the afternoon list, what time did you go down for your surgery? (I've been asked to arrive to the hospital at 12pm)
I think I wanted about 2 hours.
• how long after the section did you have to get up and take your first walk? How was it? Any tips to make it easier? The following morning. The walking isn't too bad but it's getting from sitting position to standing position that hurt.
• what painkillers did you have post op? Was you sent home with any strong painkillers or just told to have paracetamol? I can't remember the name but yes they were strong painkillers and they helped.
• was it hard sitting on the toilet etc after to wee? Not really, more hard getting in and out of bed.
• how long after section did you have your first shower and how did you find it? The next day, find just took it slowly
• how long after the section was you discharged? The following day in the late afternoon
• what did you find the hardest of the whole experience? That it affected my digestion, no one told me that and I had such bad tummy aches. Eat gentle foods!

anonny55 · 16/02/2025 23:17

TallulaSpeakEaay · 16/02/2025 23:15

First question about C Section recovery is about your eyelashes and nails? Wow 🫣

Not the recovery - before hand..it's part of my monthly maintenance and I want to know if I'll need to get them removed. Is it that much of a big deal🙄

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UdderlyBaffled · 16/02/2025 23:18

TallulaSpeakEaay · 16/02/2025 23:15

First question about C Section recovery is about your eyelashes and nails? Wow 🫣

It’s a legit question about the practicalities of going into surgery.

put your claws away.

MegTheForgetfulCat · 16/02/2025 23:19
  • ahead of surgery, do I need to remove my lash extensions and gel polish nails?

Nails, yes. Lash extensions, don't know but I would have thought so.

  • how was the walk out of hospital when you left..it seems quite a long way to walk from the post natal ward to the car park in my hospital and I'm worried I'll struggle

It was fine, just take it slow and steady. Getting into the car was the hardest bit!

  • what was required for you to be able to do before you could be discharged?

Up and out of bed and been for a wee.

  • how was the first night (we aren't allowed birth partner to stay at my hospital) did you struggle to see to baby? Was the midwife's on hand to help?

It was absolutely fine, plenty of midwives on hand. They were helping during the night with things like changing my catheter bag and getting me up and about (they are keen to get you out of bed ASAP after the anaesthetic wears off to reduce clotting risk). Baby's cot had pull-down sides so taking him out to feed was east (much easier than when I had my 1st vaginal delivery).

  • if you was on the afternoon list, what time did you go down for your surgery? (I've been asked to arrive to the hospital at 12pm)

Don't know as I was in the morning. They choose the order of patients 1st thing. You may need to be prepared to wait if an emergency comes in but it will depend on whether your hospital has separate teams for ELCS/EMCS.

  • how long after the section did you have to get up and take your first walk? How was it? Any tips to make it easier?

During the night, as soon as i was able to get out of bed. If your section is in the afternoon it could be first thing in the morning for you, though. The midwives were on hand to help me sit up and get on my feet. Remember to pack a nightie in your hospital bag as you will have a catheter in!

  • what painkillers did you have post op? Was you sent home with any strong painkillers or just told to have paracetamol?

Oromorph whilst in hospital, then just paracetamol and ibuprofen. They gave me some dihydrocodeine to take home but I didn't need it in the end. Plan when you are going to take your painkillers to spread it through the day/night, as you won't want to wait until it's worn off before taking more! I was only taking painkillers for a couple of weeks, though.

  • was it hard sitting on the toilet etc after to wee?

Not really. You might want something to lean on when you stand up again though. You may find it takes a few days before you need a poo...so make sure you eat plenty of fibre!

  • how long after section did you have your first shower and how did you find it?

A few days after I got home (just washed myself by the sink with a flannel before that). Our shower is over the bath though so I had to wait til I felt comfortable climbing in and out, otherwise I would have showered straightaway. You will have a dressing covering your wound until day 5ish and it's OK to shower with that on. The HV took mine off on day 5 (which feels like having a wax strip peeled off! It leaves a really sticky residue which is hard to get rid of 😅). Once your dressing comes off you can shower as normal, just don't apply soap to the wound area and don't towel dry it (it's a good idea to lie down for 15 minutes after a shower with your wound uncovered to let it properly dry/air out as that helps it heal and prevent infections).

  • how long after the section was you discharged?

The next day.

  • what did you find the hardest of the whole experience

Probably getting in and out of bed. If you can, tie a dressing gown cord to the foot of your bed do you can use that to haul yourself up (takes the pressure off your abdominal muscles).

I also had one of those litter picker grabbers that my DGM had when she had a hip op. It was v useful for picking things up off the floor to prevent having to bend over too often.

wooliegloves · 16/02/2025 23:19

Oh & I bf pretty soon after the CS with no issue which I think settled baby for a bit. It was dc2 though.

Hairoit · 16/02/2025 23:20

Lots of good answers here. Few of my experiences that might help-
— They said no driving for 4 weeks and maybe up to 6. You are safe to drive when you can do an emergency stop without being in pain. My insurance company said as long as I was following the medical advice I was given then I was insured to drive.

  • my hospital required 2 wees over a certain volume from me before I could be discharged. They gave me a cardboard container to catch my wee in so I could prove it was enough. I took one of those squeeze bottles of squash to help me drink loads of water so I could get the hell out of there.
  • DH wasn’t able to be with me on the ward all night (possibly due to Covid) so I was expected to look after DD and feed her all night while recovering from surgery and intermittently buzzing for a midwife to watch the DD while I stumbled down the corridor for a wee. I’m not going to lie, as much I was in love with my wee baby it felt fucking brutal and I wish I had been mentally prepared for this!
Mumontherunn · 16/02/2025 23:23

Not on your list but important to me -

The car ride home was odd and not great - take a cushion to cuddle for support. Your insides might feel a bit weird.

Make sure they send you home with liquid laxatives too.

Mine was emergency but I’ll have elective next time x

Mumontherunn · 16/02/2025 23:23

Oh and I drove at three weeks after a call with my dr

MegTheForgetfulCat · 16/02/2025 23:25

Mumontherunn · 16/02/2025 23:23

Not on your list but important to me -

The car ride home was odd and not great - take a cushion to cuddle for support. Your insides might feel a bit weird.

Make sure they send you home with liquid laxatives too.

Mine was emergency but I’ll have elective next time x

Oh gosh yes I'd forgotten about the car ride home! Make sure whoever is driving you takes it slow on any bumps etc. It was OK after the first couple of days.

Hellohowareyou112 · 16/02/2025 23:26

Sorry for lack of grammar! Copying and pasting and adding my answers seemed to mess up the format

anonny55 · 16/02/2025 23:27

@MegTheForgetfulCat @Mumontherunn we live 35 min drive from the hospital in a rural area the roads are horrific here🫣🫣will have a pillow to hold round me! Baby has a newborn shoot booked for 8 days post section that I'm hoping I'll be able to go along with to watch so hopefully the car journeys won't be so hard 8 days later🫠

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MegTheForgetfulCat · 16/02/2025 23:31

anonny55 · 16/02/2025 23:27

@MegTheForgetfulCat @Mumontherunn we live 35 min drive from the hospital in a rural area the roads are horrific here🫣🫣will have a pillow to hold round me! Baby has a newborn shoot booked for 8 days post section that I'm hoping I'll be able to go along with to watch so hopefully the car journeys won't be so hard 8 days later🫠

Definitely pack a pillow to hold against your tummy! It will be fine, just take things slowly and hopefully by day 8 you should be feeling a lot better!

Nannyfannybanny · 16/02/2025 23:32

Rainingalldayonmyhead, this was my experience. I was in hospital a week, I know it's quicker now. I had a GA, was sick as a pig which was agony. Up the following day,you don't stay in bed,danger of blood clots. Catheter and 2 drainage bottles to carry around..no shower because of them and the big dressings. Every operation I've had no nail polish of any kind, because your nail colour is checked for O2 levels. Baby was nursed in the nursery,staff were awful. (Big London hospital) Had 3 vaginal births subsequently,much preferred them.... different hospitals.

Ladamesansmerci · 16/02/2025 23:33

anonny55 · 16/02/2025 22:04

I'm due my elective section in 10 days (first baby)
If you've had one please could you answer..

  • ahead of surgery, do I need to remove my lash extensions and gel polish nails?
  • how was the walk out of hospital when you left..it seems quite a long way to walk from the post natal ward to the car park in my hospital and I'm worried I'll struggle
  • what was required for you to be able to do before you could be discharged?
  • how was the first night (we aren't allowed birth partner to stay at my hospital) did you struggle to see to baby? Was the midwife's on hand to help?
  • if you was on the afternoon list, what time did you go down for your surgery? (I've been asked to arrive to the hospital at 12pm)
  • how long after the section did you have to get up and take your first walk? How was it? Any tips to make it easier?
  • what painkillers did you have post op? Was you sent home with any strong painkillers or just told to have paracetamol?
  • was it hard sitting on the toilet etc after to wee?
  • how long after section did you have your first shower and how did you find it?
  • how long after the section was you discharged?
  • what did you find the hardest of the whole experience?
Any tips to aid my recovery would be greatly appreciated too☺️
  1. Yes, you'll need to remove nails. Not sure about lashes.

  2. Absolutely fine! You will be slow but it's very manageable. Take a pillow for the car as it helps absorbs the car bumps on your wound.

  3. I think the main thing is pass a certain amount of urine, and obviously be feeling relatively well.

  4. I stayed in for a few days as I haemorrhaged and lost quite a lot of blood. I had Polyhydramnios (severely raised fluid levels for me) so I was at increased risk of that. My partner was luckily able to stay. Holding baby in bed was not a problem. I didn't attempt to bend and pick up baby. The midwifes didn't help, though for me they'd have had to if my partner wasn't there. During the times my partner went home to feed the pets/sleep, I asked for help, but tbh was made to feel like an inconvenience. I was very weak from blood loss and literally couldn't keep my eyes open, so I found it hard to breastfeed safely. I was literally falling asleep upright in a chair!

  5. Not sure as I was the morning listening, but they will prioritise emergencies over you.

  6. I think it was a few hours after, once the anaesthetic was fully worn off. It was slow and uncomfortable, but not painful. I actually felt absolutely fine to stand up, but unfortunately my blood pressure plummeted and I collapsed (I assume due to losing blood) so after that I didn't try again for like 24 hours.

  7. I had paracetamol and ibuprofen. I request oramorph, and asked for some to go home with. I stopped using it after a few days as it made me constipated and very sleepy. Normal painkillers were fine.

  8. It wasn't painful, it's just very slow to get in position, and it's hard to pull your bottoms down due to bending being hard. The first pee and poo make it feel like you'll rip open or something lol, but you won't, it's psychological!

  9. 2 days after for me, but only due to the blood loss situation. Most people are up, walking, and showering the same evening or morning after.

  10. I went in Wednesday, and went home Saturday.

  11. Honestly, the worst bit by far was trapped wind and feeling so tired from oramorph. My actual section was a very nice, calm experience. I didn't even know I'd lost blood until after, but there was 3L fluid (mix of amniotic and blood). It's very unlikely to happen though, it was just because of my poly. Baby was out within 10 mins, and I was so busy staring at her in absolute awe, that the time flies as they stitch you up. Recovery was a breeze for me once my energy and iron levels returned to normal. I didn't have surgical complications.

Advice: move asap, but slowly. It will aid recovery and help prevent blood clots. Even if you feel you don't need it, keep on top of pain relief. Listen when they say take it slow- avoid bending etc.

And sleep propped up on pillows for a bit- turning in bed, and getting up and out of bed, is the hardest thing! Make a little den of stuff by your bed you need, like a water bottle, snacks etc, for overnight, and have partner pass you baby at night if you can for a week or so.

You will be fine! It was be very calm and controlled- try and enjoy it :)

pitterypattery00 · 16/02/2025 23:36

anonny55 · 16/02/2025 23:27

@MegTheForgetfulCat @Mumontherunn we live 35 min drive from the hospital in a rural area the roads are horrific here🫣🫣will have a pillow to hold round me! Baby has a newborn shoot booked for 8 days post section that I'm hoping I'll be able to go along with to watch so hopefully the car journeys won't be so hard 8 days later🫠

The car journeys may be ok but jeez I can't even imagine booking a photo shoot for an 8 day old baby 🤯. Hopefully you'll have a dream baby but many people have one like mine where feeding and sleeping are a challenge - days 7-14 were our hardest by far. Not saying this to scare you OP, but just to forewarn you that the early weeks can be very tough and not to be disappointed if it's not what you hope for/expect.

I didn't have a C-section. But all I'd say is move as much as you can after and follow all advice regarding avoiding blood clots. I know 2 people these have happened to post section. Both ended up very ill and in hospital for around 2 weeks (both thankfully fine now).

Hamilton6382 · 16/02/2025 23:37

I had a planned C-Section for my only child who I had when I was 43. Like you I was a little apprehensive and wasn’t really sure what to expect. The reality was that it was far less dramatic than I anticipated.

I was in and out of hospital within 24 hours and carried on pretty much as normal aside from being careful picking up anything heavy.

I recall going to the supermarket pushing DS around when he was 6 days old so I must have felt fine. I also had no help other than DH.

I might have been lucky but even as an older mother with no wider family support I found the whole thing very straightforward. I hope you do too.

Motherofdragons24 · 16/02/2025 23:37

anonny55 · 16/02/2025 22:33

@anonhop was yours elective! Doesn't sound great🫣
DH has 6 weeks off work and I've hired my sister to stay over for 4 weeks so hoping with plenty of help it'll be okay
I think I'll struggle with the no driving for 6 weeks but DH drives so it's not the end of the world!
I have codeine at home that was prescribed for my awful pregnancy headaches so if I'm sent home with nothing I'll have those to rely on atleast😅

Be wary of taking your own stock of codeine if you’re planning to breastfeed. Codeine isn’t safe in breastfeeding but dihydrocideine is. Honestly if your in pain and paracetamol and ibuprofen isn’t cutting it put your foot down and ask for something stronger. You’ve had a surgery and there are perfectly safe medications to take post op if breastfeeding, don’t feel like you have to be a martyr. I had paracetamol, ibuprofen and regular dihydrocodeine and a few doses of oromorph. Sent home with 2 days worth of dihydrocodeine, still felt like I needed it after that ran out, phoned my gp who gave me another 2 weeks worth without question. I didn’t need it for that long though, only used it for a few more days.

Annony331 · 16/02/2025 23:39

Emergency section so no planning.
up and walking around next day. Walked down to breakfast as did everyone.
no issues with toilet.
pain killers first day then none which was personal choice.
Kept in 13 says and had to request to go and went to ASDA to shop but was tired when waiting in queue. Otherwise no issues, no pain, hoovering couple of day later when Doctor called. Iron tablets made me constipated so stopped taking them. No pain poohing just a waiting game until the iron tablets effects wore off.
went back to work at 13 weeks.

milkywaygalaxy · 16/02/2025 23:40

• ahead of surgery, do I need to remove my lash extensions and gel polish nails?
I had gel nails on and it wasn't an issue, lashes I'm not sure on but they did ask me to remove makeup before going in
• how was the walk out of hospital when you left..it seems quite a long way to walk from the post natal ward to the car park in my hospital and I'm worried I'll struggle
It was fine actually, we had quite a walk but we just took it super slowly and stopped a few times
• what was required for you to be able to do before you could be discharged?
Stand, walk and get changed. Be able to tend to baby myself. Go for a wee and poo, there was a certain amount of urine you need to pass first but I can't remember how much.
• how was the first night (we aren't allowed birth partner to stay at my hospital) did you struggle to see to baby? Was the midwife's on hand to help?
Baby was in a crib beside me so it wasn't too difficult, I think this would depend on what time your section was though, mine was first thing so I was up and about by the time DH left for our first night. You'll have a buzzer for the midwives though who should be there to help with baby if you need it.
• how long after the section did you have to get up and take your first walk? How was it? Any tips to make it easier?
They encourage you to get up and move about asap, the spinal took a few hours to properly wear off but I was up and moving around by dinner time (section was at 9am ish)
• what painkillers did you have post op? Was you sent home with any strong painkillers or just told to have paracetamol?
Paracetamol, ibuprofen and morphine. I know some trusts just give paracetamol as standard but you can ask for stronger if you feel you may need it. Keep ontop of these for the first few days, even when you're starting to feel like you don't need them. I stopped all on day 5 and ended up in agony trying to get back ontop of them when it turned out I did still need them after all.
Also ask for a stool softener if they don't prescribe one, you'll be glad when the time comes.
• was it hard sitting on the toilet etc after to wee?
Sitting and getting up and down was fine, just take your time. Highly recommend keeping a rolled up towel in the bathroom to use when going to the toilet, press it lightly onto your scar for counter pressure it's so much less painful.
• how long after section did you have your first shower and how did you find it?
I couldn't physically stand in the shower for any length of time for the first few days, I had severe back ache, so just had a wash down while sitting on the edge of the bath. I think it was day 5 or 6 I managed and it was lovely, expected my scar to be painful but the midwife advised just letting the water run down over it not directly on it and it was fine.
• how long after the section was you discharged?
I was home for lunchtime the next day
• what did you find the hardest of the whole experience?
The first few days recovery, just in regards to the pain and having a toddler to deal with too it was a lot
Any tips to aid my recovery would be greatly appreciated too☺️
Honestly just keep up with pain relief, take it slower than you feel you need to for the first couple of weeks and accept all the help you can.
Good luck and congratulations!