I definitely definitely didn’t want forceps and actually forbade it in my written request for a c section. I got a call from a consultant about 29 mins after I sent the email and he agreed right away, and made it clear that it was my right to choose, which I appreciated.
I had a really good recovery. 5 days I felt pretty much normal. 14 days for driving. Could have managed at 10 second time round. Walked 20 mins to the pub by 2 weeks with minimal pain.
Ages 38/41. BMI over 35. Blood clotting condition. History of miscarriage. Embarrassingly low level of exercise. Mentioning as I weighed up risks based on this.
I was in hospital for just under a week with both, but this was because of rhesus factor and despite having anti D both babies had jaundice and which was believed to be a result of this. Awful at the time but 2 weeks later was a distant memory.
First time round I just had paracetamol and ibuprofen and on day 5 when I got home I cooked dinner (I wanted to, DH was horrified). I had SPD and GD in both pregnancies and I remember how nice it was to be able to get upstairs without being in pain. The worst thing was the trapped wind and not being able to poo until day 5. Don’t underestimate how awful this is. See below re movicol. It was difficult rolling over for about 10 days, but by day 10 it was just difficult and not especially painful.
Baby 2 I had the knack of it. Was up and walking after 5 hours. Shower after 8 hours which was fantastic. I maxed out on Movicol and it was about 20 hours after surgery - this was a big help! I and was able to get on my belly to sleep pretty quickly. I needed a tramadol on day 3 but this was because baby was taken to special care for a few hours for jaundice and instead of getting a wheelchair I walked there because I didn’t want to be a bother. My advice - be a bother. Wheelchairs everywhere.
I didn’t want forceps, or an emergency section (both of which would increase the risk of clots). Just didn’t fancy vaginal birth. Definitely didn’t want stitches there (and found where my stitches ended up to be manageable even though baby 1 arrived in covid and we only saw my DH for 1 hour in 6 days/5 nights after the birth. Midwives were great). baby 2 was in a different hospital because I moved house: they did initially try to convince me to go for a vaginal birth but were supportive of my choice not to. Turned out baby had the umbilical cord wrapped around her neck several times so very glad I stuck to my guns. Recovered much better than friends who had inductions, and none of the friends who did would repeat the experience. Stats from my hospital said it was basically a coin toss whether I would need an emcs if inducted.
I’m a couple of years on now, and at the now or never if I wanted another but there is absolutely no doubt in my mind, I would opt for another c section if I had a 3rd. Wouldn’t even need to think about it.