Husband left me at 29 weeks pregnant, should I let him be there at the birth?

[Mamawollf]

I have been with my husband for 17 years and married two with four kids and a fifth on the way. I am currently 29 weeks pregnant and last week my husband announced he wanted to go on a break as we had been arguing this past seven months on a regular basis. I was floored, I became suicidal and was admitted into hospital for four days. He has anger issues and frequently threw things in temper when we had arguments. His mother interfered a lot in our relationship. He attended 2 of 10 of my antenatal appointments and has recently asked if he could be there in the theatre room when I have my C-section. One of the reasons he gave for not attending my appointments was that he didn't want to play happy families, but I feel that's exactly what he's doing in the theatre room. I have suffered from pnd after the births of my other children and I'm terrified when he's being so cold and distant that I'm going to crash and burn after this baby and be further crushed that I'm going to be doing this on my own.i know that I'm going to need support, someone to hold my hand and give me a hug then and right now he's not capable of giving me that, should I let him into the theatre room?

Well statistics say if a man is at the birth of his child then he is more likely to remain involved with them even if separated from the mother.

Bullshit statistics.

My ex was at the birth (and was amazing, I gave birth squatting, he held me).

He left 6 months later. Couldn't deal with a baby in the house.

That's the thing about life. You never know what will happen.

No. Hard no. If you do not want him there then he doesn’t get to be there. Take a birth partner who is there to support YOU. You do not need any stress during a c-section or afterwards. He forfeited this privilege when he left you in an incredibly vulnerable moment and hasn’t supported you during your pregnancy.