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Childbirth

Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

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Original poster

C-sec at 7am tomorrow - FTM and terrified!

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LucyOrli · 13/12/2021 22:33

DH and I are both absolutely shitting ourselves. The surgery is not the main thing that’s freaking us out - it’s suddenly having a baby! I know that’s stupid because it’s not like it’s a surprise, we’ve had 9 months to get used to it fgs! I think we’re mostly worrying about the responsibility and feel completely out of our depth. Please tell me having babies is wonderful and makes up for all the worries - I’ve read too many horror stories on here and elsewhere to think straight now!

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Marlena1 · 13/12/2021 22:41

Having a baby is hard. But it's also wonderful. I'm extremely squeamish but it was the best day. I would love to be back doing it again. Wishing you luck! Ps people love to give horror stories and we all have our bad days but take all the help you can and make life as easy for yourself as you can.

Jjjayfee · 13/12/2021 22:44

You will never know a love as strong as you feel for your baby. With my first it was love at first sight. The second delivery was more difficult and it took me a couple of days. Good luck tomorrow.

Icanflyhigh · 13/12/2021 22:46

Sending all the love in the world. Its hard yes, but I'd give anything to be in your position right now .
You'll be fine, enjoy every second xx

NinaDefoe · 13/12/2021 22:49

Don’t make plans, live in the moment, make sure you have easy to prepare nice food in, sit around with the new baby, sleep at random times, don’t worry about visitors, don’t entertain or try and cater for visitors,
Say no to things you don’t want to do, concentrate on the simple things - feeding, changing nappies, bathing the baby, make sure you have a shower!
Good luck, you’ll love it! It’s hard work and scary but as long as you don’t put too much pressure on yourselves you’ll be fine.

Icanflyhigh · 13/12/2021 22:50

Sending all the love in the world. Its hard yes, but I'd give anything to be in your position right now .
You'll be fine, enjoy every second xx

Original poster

LucyOrli · 13/12/2021 22:50

I feel like I’m about to sit an exam which I haven’t revised for and which is really really important! Thank you for your support lovely MNetters x

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NinaDefoe · 13/12/2021 22:54

@LucyOrli

I feel like I’m about to sit an exam which I haven’t revised for and which is really really important! Thank you for your support lovely MNetters x

That’s a good way of putting it! It’s the fear of the unknown! Don’t think of it as a test or an exam - more like a period of time where you need to practice and learn new skills!

HalfHolly · 13/12/2021 22:54

I remember sitting on the edge of the bed the night before my c section thinking I hope I like the baby 😂. And I was going in alone because my poor husband had shingles. It was five days before he could see the baby. You'll both be fine. It's wonderful. And I think you will like the baby!

HalfHolly · 13/12/2021 22:56

You'll have to come back and say if it was a boy or a girl. I'd a lovely boy - now a lovely thoughtful 12 year old.

CantKeepSecrets · 13/12/2021 22:57

It's the weirdest thing to explain but it just clicks. I don't know how or why because I was absolutely clueless about having a baby I remember asking the midwives at my 37 week appointment how do I know if they are hungry? I don't understand! buuttt it just clicked!

Also I know you didn't ask but I LOVED my c section best thing I ever did and I'd have another tomorrow , so relaxed and lovely. Hope you have the same experience.

Don't worry OP, you've got this , ask for help if you need it and just take it all one step at a time

howwhatwhywhenwho · 13/12/2021 22:57

My DC3, who was an emergency C-Section, is 14 tomorrow. It's been said lots before that the days are long but the years are short, and it's so true. Not all plain sailing but we can only do what seems right at the time. Take lots of photos. Try not to take yourselves too seriously and don't listen to advice unless you want to!

DramaAlpaca · 13/12/2021 22:57

Aww, how exciting for you! Best of luck, it's so worth it.

AngelinaFibres · 13/12/2021 23:03

I remember heading back from the hospital 3 days after my elective caesarean (breech and stuck in my pelvis) with my first son. It was Boxing day 1992 and I was sitting in the back with the baby in a car seat. We stopped at a red traffic light and my now exDH turned to me and said " I have no idea how to do this. Do you know?".I remember thinking ....shit...no...not an actual clue. Baby is 29 next week and has a 27 year old brother so it must have turned out okay . The marriage not so much .

OytheBumbler · 13/12/2021 23:05

It's a scary but amazing feeling when they let you go home with your baby.

Until then enjoy the time you have in the hospital post birth, it's just you and your LO getting to know each other.

Best of luck tomorrow x

Mustreadabook · 13/12/2021 23:16

I'm not sure I actually believed in my twin babies until there were suddenly two babies in the operating theatre where there had been none before! That's the most amazing bit!

honeybeesknees · 13/12/2021 23:18

Oh my goodness, I have a 9 week old baby, and I am so jealous of you right now! I wish I could go back to the beginning again and start all over again, because I adore every second of being with my baby. There is nothing like it, and you will figure it out as you go along. It will be amazing!!

honeybeesknees · 13/12/2021 23:19

Pegasussnail · 13/12/2021 23:20

You know what. Tomorrow is going to be the best day of your life

Come back and share your good news tomorrow. Get some sleep. You are a team. You will work through all the little things. Newborns sleep a lot 😴

MindyStClaire · 13/12/2021 23:24

Just accept that you're no longer in charge. Do whatever you can to assuage the new dictator and all will be fine.

I knew nothing, had barely held a baby, never changed a nappy or given a bottle. It was fine. You'll be great.

Good luck!

WafflesOrIceCream · 13/12/2021 23:25

Best of luck OP!It's an incredible feeling when you first see your baby.Also,when you are able to get out of bed,do little walks,it'll help with the recovery.

Perpop · 13/12/2021 23:50

Had a section 10 weeks ago and it honestly was fine! FTM and it’s been the absolute best thing. Breastfeeding is going great and she sleeps through the night - people terrified me before but I love every second. You’ll be amazing!

ElinorOliphant · 13/12/2021 23:54

Ahhh how exciting!!
When my 1st came out (C section) I heard her crying and asked if it was our baby crying…. It was such a shock even though I’d been pregnant for 9 months 🤣

So envious that you will have the experience tomorrow.

deathofastrawberry · 13/12/2021 23:56

I had one 6 months ago and it was terrifying but also the best day of my life, I wish I could do it all again. I cried a lot. Good luck OP and congratulations in advance on the arrival of your baby xx

Taenia · 14/12/2021 08:40

My C section baby is now two and a half weeks old. I'm not going to lie. It has been hard but it's also been amazing qnd I'm totally smitten and in love with her. I'd never been maternal, had no idea how to look after a baby.. feed it change 8t etc as never done any of that before...but it just seems to click, you learn as you go and soon start to spot when she's hungry for example. I'm loving every minute of it, even if I do spend a lot of time feeling like a walking zombie. She's so worth it.

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