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Can anyone help? Induction agony

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lavenderchocolate · 15/12/2020 18:37

Hi, I came to be induced yesterday at 40 + 1 as I am 40, and advice is not to go over due date. I had a sweep at 38 + 5 but it didn’t work.

It’s no ones fault but it just seems to me baby wasn’t ready. I was 1cm at 38 + 5 and I was still 1cm yesterday. I had the pessary put in and it’s just all been a bit of a nightmare, everything I was terrified of has happened.

I think the baby must have moved and what started out as discomfort moved to really unbearable pain (I was crying!) but the ward is so busy and there was no pain relief for four hours. Then I got some contractions but these stopped.

I feel absolutely bursting full of fluid, and I have this near constant pain to empty my bladder but barely anything comes out. And now I have pains in my bottom. They are struggling to find the baby on the monitor and having to be strapped to the bed is horrendous, I honestly feel as though someone is pushing knives up my bum (sorry)

They want to break my waters later but I just don’t think I can. I can’t take it. Can I say no, I want them to go naturally? Or insist on a c section? I wanted an elective because I had a feeling my back wouldn’t stand the pressure and I think I was right.

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buenavistabelle · 15/12/2020 19:43

I had the same - horrific stabby pains. The midwives couldn't get to my waters so they had to bring in a male doctor who painlessly broke them and the pain relief was instant. Baby was born within minutes!!

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lavenderchocolate · 15/12/2020 19:43

Neurologically I think I’ve gone a bit like that. I know what everyone is saying about the catheter and I will but not without an epidural. I’m honestly terrified for anyone to come near me!

The night midwife has come on and has agreed it’s probably not in my best interests to break waters at this stage assuming I’m still 1cm. So I will have a rest for 24 hours and then try again. The only thing I’m scared of is being examined. My vagina feels so tender and sore and just traumatised, somehow, I know I’m explaining that really badly but even totally normal stuff like sitting on the toilet really hurts.

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lavenderchocolate · 15/12/2020 19:44

Oh god buena I would love it if that was the case but I think this one isn’t going anywhere!

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buenavistabelle · 15/12/2020 19:45

Neither did I - they told me I was 1-2cm and it would be hours. As soon as the waters had gone, baby's head was pressing down on cervix so much with each contraction he literally flew out

OverTheRainbow88 · 15/12/2020 19:47

Sorry this may have been said, can’t you demand an epidural; then catheter in; then waters broken; then up the induction drug?

Yummymummy2020 · 15/12/2020 19:48

I had a similar experience and complained after and was told I should have had my epidural a lot sooner and also it’s completely your choice to have your waters broken, this should not effect you getting approval for an epidural. Be pushy I was way too nice and suffered more than I should have! I’m pregnant again and I’ll be so much more assertive this time! When I got the epidural I went from agony to absolute bliss, no pain from there on in and it wasn’t till hours after I got any feeling back! So well worth the epidural!!! I hope now you will get sorted I know what it’s like! Please don’t be quiet or hold back with what you need! Don’t feel pressured into anything and that includes exams, you can get examined after an epidural to save you the discomfort of it if you are suffering now!!!

Yummymummy2020 · 15/12/2020 19:50

Oh and I was terrified of getting the epidural, I didn’t feel a thing genuinely! Not even a pinch it was totally painless to get and worked so fast!!!!

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lavenderchocolate · 15/12/2020 19:50

Yes - I think epidural before anyone ever touches me again is the way forward!

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StylishMummy · 15/12/2020 19:54

Demand to speak to PALs and a consultant obstetrician - you have a very high chance of needing instrumental delivery, I'd insist on a section, for you and baby. You do NOT have to give birth vaginally if you don't want to

Sexnotgender · 15/12/2020 20:00

You sound exhausted, do you even have your birth partner with you?

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lavenderchocolate · 15/12/2020 20:02

They aren’t allowed in until active labour

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Sexnotgender · 15/12/2020 20:03

Urgh, that’s shit.

spotlovesbedtime · 15/12/2020 20:03

I was under consultant care during 2nd labour and I insisted they give me gas and air to examine me/break waters/do any prodding up there! I told them I was more worried about that than the rest of it and they gave me gas and air and it really helped me relax when they did their thing! Get off your phone and get some rest! As much a possible! Good luck!

RandomMess · 15/12/2020 20:03

My inductions (4) all took ages to get me dilated. I take it you don't have a tens machine? Thought they were rubbish until the batteries ran out then realised it was amazing!

MessAllOver · 15/12/2020 20:12

I had a back to back labour. It was bloody painful. The breaks in contractions which people talk about just didn't happen for me. I'd definitely insist on an epidural in your position... my experience was that you have to be quite pushy to get sufficient pain relief (it was my first baby and I wasn't pushy enough so was largely ignored).

randomsabreuse · 15/12/2020 20:21

Seriously get the bladder issue checked. I thought I was peeing ok in labour, couldn't pee after baby was born. You don't want to damage your bladder!

PearlescentIridescent · 15/12/2020 20:28

Oh lovely, it's so hard sometimes with inductions

I was induced with my baby in January and it was a nightmare. I could not handle the examinations at all, which surprised me as it was my third baby and while deeply unpleasant I had coped with my previous induction with middle DC okay.

I would push for more help in that sense. They ended up taking me to a delivery room to assess my cervix so the consultant could use stirrups and I could have gas and air and it went much smoother. That small gesture of being willing to help, helped me avoid a C section as she was able to tell that my waters could in fact be broken.

I also had pethidine on the ward because I was anxious about contractions building and another consultant was very sympathetic. Get your partner to push for what you need. You can still have a lovely birth; it toom days to get to the point of my waters being broken and I was at the end of my tether but once I had an epidural I was sitting in bed eating ice chips and watching The Office on my phone with aromatherapy right up until the last few contractions and then he was here!

Best of luck meeting your little one :)

NeurologicallySpeaking · 15/12/2020 20:39

You can still have a positive birth experience OP. Once the epidural is done, the pain will go away. You can stop pressing the button when you get near to pushing stage so you can still feel the pressure and bear down. Induction is a miserable business for so many - hence need for epidurals!

Hollywhiskey · 15/12/2020 20:42

Oh gosh I was induced with my first and I remember that horrible feeling down there from the pessary. I couldn't bear being examined and the pressure was unbearable. Like you I thought I was going to be really far along and I wasn't. It was horrible and I convinced myself I was in for a long unsuccessful labour.
I kept trying to walk around to get things going and (sorry tmi) the feeling of my bits rubbing together was ACTUAL FIRE.
The best thing I did, insanely hard as it may sound, was to relax. The midwife on the ward ran me a bath and I downloaded a load of hypnobirthing affirmations on my phone and put my headphones on. The warm water helped as obviously they won't let you go in the pool or have any real pain relief yet (you might also be able to wee a bit in the bath).
Relaxing a bit helped me contract more and made my waters go within the hour I would say, baby was out seven hours after that. Good luck xxx

Lovemusic33 · 15/12/2020 20:52

I had my waters broke with both of my pregnancies, with dd2 I had a epidural (I was lucky to get one as I was in the final stages of labour), they then broke my waters and dd2 was born within 3 minutes and 2 pushes. The epidural was amazing 🤩

threesenoughthanks · 15/12/2020 20:52

You have my sympathies OP. All of mine were induced and Dd2 was back to back. I was also on my own because they forgot to phone Dh. Ask for whatever help that you want.... gas and air, epidural, c-section the works! No prizes for being brave. All the very best.

ElloElloEllo122 · 15/12/2020 21:00

I too was induced with a pessary (3 to be exact as kept coming out) a d I found when they inserted them it was agony, which made me really scared.
I woke in the night thinking I needed a poo...I went three times and the pressure feeling was really bad like you.

I started slow like you and then I went from 0-6cm too quickly 😫 they gave me something to slow contractions as they become too much.

As soon as I got into delivery I asked for epidural...best bloody thing I ever had..it was almost instant relief. I strongly recommend getting one and don't feel frightened as you don't even feel it happening at all.

I ended uo not having waters broke. They went to do it and I was happy for them to, but my waters had broke and I hadn't even noticed 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

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lavenderchocolate · 15/12/2020 23:32

I just want to thank you all from the bottom of my heart, I have been reassured by your messages and I was able to sleep. It’s really helped and I don’t feel anything like as sore or tender now, so will be having a try at breaking my waters when the doctors are free. I just feel a bit sorry for my partner as he’s having to stay up and wait but he is on paternity leave I suppose! I will update

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dottiedaisee · 15/12/2020 23:39

Bless your heart ..definitely push for an epidural. My daughter had one and it really did make a huge difference to how she coped. She was up and mobile throughout her labour bouncing on her ball and listening to music and was in control of how much medication from epidural she had .Good luck 💐

Sexnotgender · 16/12/2020 09:56

Hope you managed some rest. Or are busy snuggling a newborn

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