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What birth day would you prefer?

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Crazyone84 · 12/12/2020 06:37

I'm due to be induced at 38 weeks due to pre eclampsia.
I am booked for 23rd December which is infact my birthday!
I really moan about my birthday as by 23rd everyone is already on the xmas vibe and travelling, with families, works do's, restaurants have xmas menus etc.
I have been told that once induced it can take up to 3 days for baby to arrive so inturn could make it worse and be born on xmas day or boxing day. I have asked to move the day sooner which they won't do but I can move it later say 26th/27th, if I do this I can still have xmas day as planned and baby may even arrive in 2021 as it should have done.
My bloody pressure is being monitored and at present quite good, ofcourse if this changes I won't be picky for dates, I'll just do whats best for baby
What would you do?

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KihoBebiluPute · 12/12/2020 06:44

I'm sorry this is happening.

I think in your position I would want the baby to be born and safe asap and wouldn't delay.

I think it might be nice to share a birthday with your child. But pre eclampsia is serious and the future convenience of potential birthdays should not feature at all in any decision. The only thing to prioritise is the health of you and your baby.

theresagiantonthebeach · 12/12/2020 06:49

I have a birthday around this time of year and I just think any day around this time is rubbish! you can only be guided by the medics and the birthday will be when it will be,

good luck!

User478 · 12/12/2020 07:14

Have a half birthday party in the summer.

Get the epidural.

movingonup20 · 12/12/2020 07:17

If you are showing signs now they may induce earlier anyway, I would be asking for 37 weeks if you are concerned about dates

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Crazyone84 · 12/12/2020 07:17

@User478 I suggested this and partner laughter at me! I would have loved a half birthday to celebrate and have a party outside!

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Standrewsschool · 12/12/2020 07:19

I have a relative with 23rd birthday. He can celebrate his birthday, before the Christmas celebrations Elin.

Another relative has an early jan birthday. Everyone is a bit celebration - fatigued by then.

MrBloomsLeftVeg · 12/12/2020 07:22

This happened to me but induced the night before my birthday so she arrived on my birthday. She's now 9 and loves that we share it. We are a week before you and same that people are already in Christmas mode. Think December is just rubbish for birthdays.

DwangelaForever · 12/12/2020 07:24

With Pre eclampsia I'd want the baby here ASAP.

bruffin · 12/12/2020 07:30

I had preeclampsia and was induced on my birthday, I was induced 6am monday morning and he arrived 10.40 wednesday night. I was in labour 24 hours and one of the reasons was the epidural slowed everything down, I had been in hospital 6 weeks at that point with high bp and oedema but didnt get protein in my urine until 38 weeks and my bp really sky rocked. Bottom bp was 90 to 105 and went up to 125. Think nowadays they would medicate for bp

Dds birthday is also same week. She was 2 years later and was spontaneous labour at 37 weeks.

Whatelsecouldibecalled · 12/12/2020 07:39

With ore eclampsia I wouldn’t want to delay! I was induced with first baby and midwife told me it could take up to 7 days! However my baby was born 17hrs after induction started so really anything could happen. I wouldn’t worry about birthday days it was always a Christmas risk trying fit a baby around March anyway. Good luck hope it all goes well for you

Whatelsecouldibecalled · 12/12/2020 07:40

I also didn’t have a an epidural. You don’t have to have one if you don’t want. I had gas and air

Mammyofasuperbaby · 12/12/2020 07:47

I wouldn't delay with pre eclampsia, I had my son at 33 weeks because of it. I went from perfectly healthy one day to critically ill the next. My BP was 120/210 just before delivery and on meds to bring it down. (Still no idea how I survived that)
My birthday is 21st, fil is 19th, niece is 13th, mil and bil are 27th, every day is terrible thos month for birthdays so I dont think it really matters.
FYI I was due on Christmas day and my dm was going to do Christmas in the morning for all the kids and then my birthday in the afternoon so no one missed out, just incase you need some ideas

Mammyofasuperbaby · 12/12/2020 07:50

Sorry bp should be the other way round

Charlottejade89 · 12/12/2020 09:06

Hi op, I'm in a similar position in that my due date is 22nd and if I haven't gone into labour before I'm booked for a sweep. If the sweep works it usually takes a day or 2 so chances are I could end up having a christmas eve/day baby. Not my ideal but it is what it is. If thats the case I'll probably celebrate his birthday a week or 2 early so its not overshadowed by christmas

PopsicleHustler · 13/12/2020 08:10

I couldn't really give two hoots if my baby was born on my birthday or new years or xmas. Baby is more important.
Am due soon too and really couldn't care if she was born on Christmas or not. As long as baby is born safely and healthy then that's the main thing.

It might not take upto 3 days op.
Some bodies are quicker than others.
Get yourself started if you want by sex and going up and down the stairs sideways and nipple tweaking

Changeismyname · 13/12/2020 08:18

Most important thing is you and baby are safe. I have a birthday at this time of year. You’ll work out ways to make it special. One of the babies from my NCT class was born Christmas Day, another in the twixmas period. I think you’re over thinking this because you have the choice (for now). If baby came early of its own accord you’d just have to deal with it whatever. Concentrate on your health and enjoy meeting your baby x

DuggeeHugs · 13/12/2020 08:55

I'd go for the earlier date. Inductions can take several days (DC1 was born on day 6) or just a few hours, so there isn't really much control. Good luck

Dyra · 13/12/2020 10:37

I'm surprised they're waiting until 38 weeks to induce with pre-eclampsia. I had pre-eclampsia picked up at 36 weeks. I was symptomless (other than BP (well controlled on a minimal dose of labetalol), proteinuria and bloods that is), and it still was impressed on me that it was best to get baby out sooner rather than later.

I wasn't keen on having a (technically) pre-mature baby with a late August birthday to boot. In the end we came to an agreement to wait until 37 weeks, under the proviso that neither baby nor I deteriorated in that time, where I would be immediately induced. I remained just fine, which means baby has an early September birthday. Which she shares with her paternal uncle. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Oh well. Can't have it all.

Of your two options, I would personally have the later induction date. However, I would ask if there's anything earlier around 37 weeks to avoid your birthday and Christmas.

Angel2702 · 13/12/2020 10:40

I’d prefer the later dates. My son was born unexpectedly on Boxing Day and it is a bit of a pain but better than Christmas Eve or Christmas Day. If it had been a few days later it would give time to take down Christmas and decorate properly with birthday decorations and make it a bit more separate from Christmas.

notangelinajolie · 13/12/2020 10:43

I think safe delivery of baby is more important than the date. It will be a Christmas baby regardless
Looking back to when mine were born - I was desperate be rid of the huge bump so I'd probably opt for the earliest.

Woohoowoowoo · 13/12/2020 10:46

If you have pre-eclampsia, focus on getting the baby out ASAP! I had pre-eclampsia with both of mine. I was in hospital with my blood pressure with my youngest at 37 weeks and had him at 38 weeks. I don't want to frighten you, but things can change very quickly with pre-eclampsia, so don't get too hung up on a plan.

I had my youngest the day before my birthday (albeit in Spring) and it's quite nice to 'share' the day. Not so nice recovering from a c section on your birthday though!

ApolloandDaphne · 13/12/2020 10:47

I have had 3 inductions. The first 2 were past my due date and they arrived the day I was induced. The 3rd was before her due date and it took me 4 days to have her. If you keep well the later date would probably be better but if you or the medical staff have concerns just go for the early date and accept whatever date baby os born on, even if it ends up being Christmas Day.

mintich · 13/12/2020 10:49

I'm a Christmas Day baby and I love it! Always have your birthday off, everyone is celebrating, streets are lit up! I never understand why people dont like it! My parents always made sure it was still "my birthday" celebration too.

PlateTectonics · 13/12/2020 10:55

My DH is 27th and he says it's the worst day to have a birthday! He says by then everyone is sick of eating and drinking and celebrating and just wants to veg out. He reckons 23rd in the midst of the pre-Christmas excitement would be better.

sparklewhynot · 13/12/2020 11:04

I'm a 27th too and I must say it's pretty dull. Everyone is either hungover or just can't be arsed on the 27th. Any birthday around Christmas isn't ideal, but having the baby arrive safely should trump any decision over dates.

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