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Did anyone else go into this 'state' at birth?

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wished · 02/03/2020 22:30

So I've seen some women be fine between contractions and even the early ones. I was induced twice, first labour was 8.5 hours and second was 6.5. It might've been because I was induced but I went from 0-10 in terms of pain instantly. After the first wave, I couldn't do anything. They barely stopped, just constant sucking on gas and air. Couldn't talk and barely understood what they were saying, only understood push. I went into this state of total pain and fear for the whole labour but so many people seem to be fine in the early stages or in between contractions. Did anyone else have a labour like me as no one else I have spoken to has?

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FeeFee832 · 03/03/2020 01:21

Yes - 100% but I had the syntocin drip

FeeFee832 · 03/03/2020 01:22

I could talk, was in unbelievable pain and was frozen in fear but inside I was screaming Sad

FeeFee832 · 03/03/2020 01:22

Couldn't *

MoominKitty · 03/03/2020 01:28

I did, they broke my waters and put me on the drip and bam contractions within contractions.

I ripped the drip off after half hour as I couldn't take it.

I'd wanted an active birth but ended up on my back as I had no break between them and was close to asking for an epidural but got to ten CM just before I gave in thankfully.

Was over in less than 5 hours from waters being broken and has completely put me off a second child.

Izzybuzzybuzzybees · 03/03/2020 01:29

Yes, me. I was induced both times. Horrific. Completely horrific.

FeeFee832 · 03/03/2020 01:31

@moominkitty did they let you take the drip out?? I begged them and they said no and turned my up the highest amount 😔

FeeFee832 · 03/03/2020 01:32

Being induced still gives me nightmares. I think I have ptsd

MoominKitty · 03/03/2020 02:00

I said I wanted it out and pulled it out myself, my midwife then agreed to not put it back @FeeFee832.

They kept pushing Me to have an epidural too but I refused as felt I was close, but they also told me to supress the urge to push as I couldn't be ready yet as was only 6 CM, but asked them to RE check and had gone to 10 CM in less than ten min and was crowning....

I healed really well after tbf no pain etc at all and I look like I did before down there even though I tore, but the way my labour was handled and the post natal 'care' means I'll never have another if I can help it TBH.

FeeFee832 · 03/03/2020 02:09

Sounds identical to mine @MoominKitty - except I was allowed mine out.

Did you feel trapped in your own body?! I couldn't even talk I was in so much pain! Or not sure if that was the morphine. It's so blurry!

FeeFee832 · 03/03/2020 02:09

Wasn't *

EarringsandLipstick · 03/03/2020 02:11

On my 3rd, I was in labour naturally, but they decided to artificially rupture my membranes (with the other 2, they'd gone themselves). I knew from the other 2 that once my waters go, I progress very quickly.

But I was totally unprepared for what happened - I literally went from manageable pain to out-of-this world agony. I dilated from
4 cm to 10 in under an hour.

It was hell. I know that's still a relatively short time but I was like a wild animal, it was like an out of body experience with me moaning & thrashing around like the worst of One Born... 🙂

I'd no support as midwife was busy and also kind of crap & then once I was fully dilated I still wasn't able to push, I thought it would never end. My consultant came in at that point (in Ireland so different system) & gave me the most useful advice which was to just not try to push, and ultimately he came not too long after (he'd an enormous head 😱)

Honestly 8 years later I still shudder. I had hoped to have 4 children (I didn't but not because of this, my marriage broke down) but I think I'd have to really really think hard about it. My first 2 births were so different - very straightforward & I know I was lucky.

AllTheWhoresOfMalta · 03/03/2020 02:14

With the drip it was like this for me. I hallucinated too. I couldn’t have the epidural as it all went very quickly and there was no time. This was my second Labour and my memories of it now are sort of mad-hallucinations rather than solid memories. I felt like I was on another planet. Find it hard to believe that DH can remember that afternoon “sober” if you know what I mean, because I was so off my head it seems impossible he could see the world normally. First labour wasn’t like that, but wasn’t induced and only my memories of the pushing stage are disjointed and mad in anything like the same way. Was much slower and more gradual though.

MoominKitty · 03/03/2020 02:20

I had the pethodien (or how ever it's spelt) after I pulled the drip out to try and let me recover, but it just made me sleepy for an hour And I couldn't talk either, then it all started again, my partner was desperately trying to feed me drinks as I was getting so dehydrated and my language was foul.

I felt like I was an animal trapped, I couldn't move but was willing to attack anyone close enough, my poor partners arm was shredded and I called the midwife all the names under the sun, I did apologise after.

Once I was allowed to push it was much better, as the pain went and was replaced with pressure.

But I hated feeling invisible and just a number once he was born.

Why weren't you allowed your drip out? @FeeFee832

1forAll74 · 03/03/2020 03:03

My story from giving birth to my son in the mid 1970 era. I was finally induced after a very long difficult labour. They decided that my baby was getting distressed,and I needed to be induced. After a very short time,everything was horrendous,the pain unbearable I was then rushed down the corridor into the delivery room and thought I was out of it with the intense pain, I actually thought I had died for while, as I kind of had an out of body experience,like I was looking down on myself,and seeing three people in their green uniforms standing over me.

When my son was born,I finally came to,and all the drip stand and gear,was all bent and twisted.

My son was over 8lbs in weight,and fine, except for a bit of a squashed in head for a few days.

Lynda07 · 03/03/2020 04:00

Moominkitty: the way my labour was handled and the post natal 'care' means I'll never have another if I can help it TBH (to be honest).
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I don't blame you one bit!

Elliesmommy · 03/03/2020 06:29

Yes with my first. Induction was horrific and traumatic

CandyApple1995 · 03/03/2020 06:51

Yes, with my first baby. The contractions never completely eased off, it was awful!

BertieBotts · 03/03/2020 06:55

Mine are like this, it's not fun. I wonder if I've had back to back babies but nobody ever told me if that was the case.

okiedokieme · 03/03/2020 06:56

No, I was chatting even through contractions, they were no different to a period pain (and I don't get bad ones of those either). Everyone is different though dp says I have a really high pain threshold so that could be a reason, I simply don't feel pain as badly as many.

ICJump · 03/03/2020 06:57

I did but it was a rapid birth. So over very fast.

Nuttyaboutnutella · 03/03/2020 06:57

Yep, me within a couple of contractions. And i had the pessary not the drip. I was actually trying to push when I was only 5cm dilated and I was basically having hypercontractions. Had to have something to slow them down.

Thankfully, she was born very quickly and I recovered well

BertieBotts · 03/03/2020 06:57

I had an epidural with DC2 but it just didn't work Confused I had no idea that could happen and it made the panic so much worse along with anger, I felt so so cheated by it.

Ryantrain · 03/03/2020 06:57

Natural birth and i felt like that. I think its normal unless youve been medicated completely

Sipperskipper · 03/03/2020 06:59

From what I’ve read and heard this is more common with inductions. My (not induced) labour was a nightmare - long, back to back, felt like I was being crushed- but in between each contraction I felt fine, and got a decent break from the pain.

MightyMile · 03/03/2020 07:00

I've had 2 DC. DC1 was induced by drip and was as you describe. Had an epidural to cope. DC2 was induced by pessary only (was overdue and maybe it would have happened then anyway but I did have one pessary) and it was much more manageable- fine between contractions and only had gas and air for the pain.

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