How many allowed in room whilst giving birth

[mrssunshinexxx]

Has anyone had/Been allowed 3 birthing partners ?

[OhWellThatsJustGreat]

I believe its 2 at the MWLU where I gave birth, although tbh you only need one person to hold your hand and support you, everyone else including the midwives disappear outside of your bubble when your in the full throes of labour.
You're going to be feeling very vulnerable so you may think you want those people now, but come birth day, you might find you don't want them or they're not available.

[LetThemEatDrama]

[b]I'd imagine the OP needs three as she wants her partner, her mum, then someone to carry her massive attitude problem.[/b]

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

@mrssunshinexxx - as PPs have pointed out, the very first thing I did was answer your question. Unfortunately you seem to have posted an open thread on a public discussion board where others are allowed to comment including their own experiences and ask for further details. Why you'd need more than 2 is extremely relevant, needing 3 due to disability is a world away from wanting 6 people there because you want to make it a family party for example.

[SexlessBoulderBelly]

She’s right, it is none of our business why she wants 3 people present for her labour.

It’s none of our business if she wants to invite her partner, her mother and her alternative, nicer personality.

[dannydyerismydad]

Check with your midwife. It definitely depends on individual hospital policy.

One local birthing centre allows only 1 supporter in the room, although those supporters can rotate on a one in one out basis.

Local hospital allows 2, but has rooms on delivery suite of varying sizes, so may be able to negotiate changes to policy for specific circumstances.

It may be worth thinking beyond the birth of this child. If you decide to have subsequent babies who will look after your toddler while you're in hospital? Don't set a precedent by inviting that person to your first birth - they may expect to come to them all.

[IWorkAtTheCheesecakeFactory]

Why would you want 3? It’s not a spectator sport.

[ElfAndSafeKey]

IWorkAtTheCheesecakeFactory, I'm not OP and don't know her reasoning, but I do know somebody who had three.
She was a surrogate for a family member. Family member + their spouse were there, and so was a person giving support to the woman giving birth.
I suspect that is a quite unusual arrangement, though.

[LadyCordeliaVorkosigan]

I had three. Only two overnight, and only one allowed in theatre if it came to that, but no problem during the day.

[saturnnc]

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz your comment made me laugh.

Your attitude stinks OP.

[Pinkblueberry]

Why don’t you ask your midwife? No one else’s experience matters, it depends on your hospital/birthing centre. Or consider a homebirth - then it’s up to you. (People very outraged on here about 3 birth partners I only wanted my husband there personally, but three is hardly an audience. Some people I presume would find it comforting to have that many loved ones around.)

[Ticklemeelmo]

Mine has a strict policy of a maximum of 2 birthing partners, who must be the same people throughout labour- no swapping over with others halfway through

[Lochroy]

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz