How many allowed in room whilst giving birth

[mrssunshinexxx]

Has anyone had/Been allowed 3 birthing partners ?

No, two was the maximum. I took in my husband. It's not necessary to have more and it can interfere with the midwives caring for you if the room is full, people are talking etc. It's a medical environment and their duty is to deliver the baby safely, not provide front of house for a show.

OP if you’re not allowed 3 then I think there’s plenty for the 3rd person to do to support you and feel included in the birth. You could arrange some sort of rotating system which enables all birth partners to have a bit of a break and refresh, enabling the 2 actually in the room to be on top form and able to support you and advocate well as you get more tired. Also good for doing food runs or grabbing forgotten items from home etc without having to worry about you being left alone at any point. So I’d definitely ask your midwife if you are “only” allowed 2 does it have to be the same 2 the whole time? (Of course, Sod’s law is once you arrange all that you’ll have one of those births where you’re barely in the hospital for 2 secs before the baby’s out! )

You could have as many as you wanted at a homebirth, but in a hospital it would usually be one or two. Usually partner and maybe the womans mum or sister.
Its not really a spectator sport though

Wow, no need to be so rude.

I was only allowed one birthing partner.

If you want a factual answer and nothing more, ask your midwife or hospital. If you want a range of answers, along with some chat, opinion and support, ask on Mumsnet.

Hope this helps

OP, instead of getting snarky with replies, why don't you ask your midwife instead?

What happens in different hospitals/areas is entirely irrelevant.

So rude. Maybe you should have asked your midwife.

@CeeceeBloomingdale it's not necessary in your opinion. You have no clue in this world why I might want or need 3 people and it's certainly not for a show. What is wrong with people on here. I would never ever actively go on a thread to wind somebody up and be so rude and judging

Thanks v much @Yesyesitsme @Branleuse and @Dyrne I have all the opinions / answers i needed thanks again

Mine was 2 as well and other people are right in their comments. 3 would be too many.

These people have experienced childbirth and they're just trying to help.

But the only one being rude here is you, mrssunshinexxx

Just ask your midwife.

Actually, you don't NEED anyone in there! Just you and a midwife, and technically the midwife isn't needed. Once you're in labour, generally speaking nature will take its course, regardless of how many people are in the room.
And stop being a nob to other PPs who are just giving you the benefit of their experience.

2 in my hospital. Just remember, the birth is about you. You are the one going through it so have only who you want in that room, people that will support you. You can ask your midwife about having 3, but I would think it would be a no as it's probably too many people in the room. That's my opinion anyway.

My hospital only allowed one.

Two in ours.
TBH, I think 2 is one too many.

@mrssunshinexxx

It's not necessary MEDICALLY. However if you had a "special" reason you should have included this in your OP. Ultimately more people is more distraction, objections, hindrance if it becomes an emergency. I cant thinking may reason why it would be necessary to have multiple birth partners and in labour I was barely aware of my husband's presence as I was a bit busy.

You have been the rudest person on this thread. First baby?

Labour ward or school
Nativity?

Newbie1981

Labour ward or school Nativity?

I think most of the time it's 2.

I gave birth at a MLW and it was suggest that more than 2 would be crowded but people were allowed to 'pop in' with supplies and could have tag-teamed.

No need to pile on the OP - I think she’s got the message. It’s fair enough not knowing about the rules and wanting to check on MN before bothering her midwife. And yes, she may have snapped back but comments about “putting on a show” are a bit much!

If it’s such a simple question then ask your own midwife or hospital rather than a public forum where people can only answer by giving opinion.

OP isn't new to MN - she's had lots of threads.

I'd imagine the OP needs three as she wants her partner, her mum, then someone to carry her massive attitude problem.

@mrssunshinexxx I think when you get to the pushing stage it's just two people with my first it was a long labour 36 hours do did have family coming and going and they was fine with that but when it came to pushing it was just 2 allowed even tho the room was big they couldn't find babies heartbeat so had to press emergency button on wall so I went from 2 family 1 midwife to 4 extra people in the room which then made it very cramped xx