Should I have been stitched or is this normal - loose downstairs

[roava]

Hi everyone

My daughter is now nearly two years old and I've noticed since I've had her I've been very loose downstairs. I had a perenial tear which was not stitched as I was given the choice and opted not too. There appears to be a lot of scar tissue down there as well. I've done all the kegels including using weights and am not incontinent or anything like that.

I have explained to my GP that my sex life is terrible as I can barely feel anything and neither can my husband and I was referred to a sex therapist. I knew this wasn't the issue but I attended so that I could be referred onwards. I have now been referred to a specialist physiotherapist but it has taken months for the appointment to come through and I still haven't been seen.

I'm getting so upset with the state of my sex life and not only that I can barely keep an xxxl tampon in when I'm on my period.

The GP who saw me initially did examine me but said there was nothing out of the ordinary.

Is this normal? What should I do?Any suggestions are appreciated

Hi OP. So sorry to hear about your health issues. Hopefully someone will be along soon who's been in a similar situation and knows more.

This hasn't happened to me but didn't want to read and run. Is there any chance you can go back to the GP and ask to be referred to a specialist? Failing that would you be able to afford to see someone privately? My friend had not been stitched properly and kept being told everything was fine. She then went to a private specialist who told her that some of stitches had come undone and they sorted it out straight away. It sounds like something you definitely shouldn't be putting up with.

You need a women's health specialist physio.

If your husband thinks you feel "loose" then it indicates an issue with the vaginal wall which wouldn't have been helped by stitching.

Bumping for you

This happened to me, I'm waiting for surgery for a perineal reconstruction. I was referred to urogynae and the surgeon is operating but also referred me for physio. I would pester your gp for a referral, even if this is to gynae who will then refer you on to urogynae. Hopefully you will get some answers soon, the waiting around is horrible

thanks everyone for taking the time to reply. I am awaiting my first appointment with the womens physio (1 July) but I'm really thinking it will just be a formality before I get referred onwards. I really don't think this can be anything that can be solved with exercise as I have been doing the weighted kegels and can hold them in OK but never say never.

roava I thought that too, but the women's health physio diagnosed me with a whole host of issues the urogynaecologist had missed! I also had pelvic floor stenosis, where the muscles are too tight, in constant spasm so actually needed to learn to relax them!

Hmmmbop i have the same problem.. im struggling to relax them even with the techniques they physio has given me

MrsFrankCastle did you get massage for it?